How to not get emotionally involved

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Ok so I made a comment in the BPD thread.
I'm thinking I've met one of these.

Had sex on 2nd date, she message me constantly, is saying things like I always make her laugh when I have not really said anything funny.
Lots of sex talk about what she wants to do to me.

Parent issues her mother seems jealous of her daughters relationship with her father.

Her Father had a stroke and the message I got was 'I'm at the hospital tell me something funny'
Now maybe it's just how she wanted to deal with it get something to take her mind off it.

Now her Uncle died and on the same day she sends me pics of herself in underwear.

I want to enjoy the fun without getting attached ,so I'm not offering her advice or trying to fix her or be her white Knight which I know I should never do .

Advice welcome

So she asked me to phone her while I'm working nights tonight.To which I replied I will be busy until 2am, she said she doesn't mind being woken
So I have told her from the beginning I will be seeing other women, she was ok for first 3 dates but last time I went 4th date after some great sex.
Next morning she starts saying she cannot handle me seeing other women so she is saying good bye.
I stuck to my word and said she did not need to feel used or dirty as I told her my terms from the start.
So I kissed her goodbye and said I would speak to her in a few days, she has today asked me to come over as a friend.

So I think either way it will be as she wants to carry on or so she can tempt me back on her terms of being exclusive.

Whats the best way of not getting emotionally involved (spinning plates)?
bearing in mind I will only see her once a week at best.

But I know how it is if they are BPD
 

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WTID said:
So I have told her from the beginning I will be seeing other women, she was ok for first 3 dates but last time I went 4th date after some great sex.
Next morning she starts saying she cannot handle me seeing other women so she is saying good bye.
I think you could have gotten more out of her had you not told her about the others at all

But

Spinning plates is dictated by your morals, ethics, and integrity
 

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XY. said:
I think you could have gotten more out of her had you not told her about the others at all

But

Spinning plates is dictated by your morals, ethics, and integrity
It's all good, she says she can't do it (not happy I said I would be seeing other women), invited me over as friends lol, we ended up in bed..
I think the difference is I'm saying this is my terms accept it or walk away
 
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