B Love
Don Juan
This is my first real post so go easy..
I personally have a three strike rule. That means that I will give a girl no more than three opportunities to meet up with me after I get her number. Sometimes less depending on the circumstance and her looks but NEVER more than three. Other people may have six others may have one. The point here is to make the decision and that once a female blows her chances with you it's over(Period). Why is this so important some may ask? Well let’s take a little look what happens to your mindset when you make this decision.
By writing her of completely, you take away her power to reject you because, in a sense, you are rejecting her first. Remember, she didn't come out and say she was rejection you, she only implied it by flaking. When you say "Ok, you had your chance and you blew it", you just took the ball out of her court and put it in your secret locker that no one knows the combination to accept you. I even go as far as deleting her number and any way to get in contact with her so I'm not even tempted to call or drink and dial one night. Try it. Delete her number and any previous text messages. It's almost magic how you instantly feel because not only will it make those negative emotions of failure and rejection go away, It raises your confidence and self-esteem because your taking control of your emotions and how you react to them. You’re killing that neediness and desperation that is the curse of the AFC.
In my opinion, this is the essence of what the DJ mindset is based on. You are saying to yourself “I don't need her because she is the one who will be missing out on my attention. I know that there are so many other girls that want my attention that in a week I will probably forget she exists". If I happen to see her out somewhere, I'll be polite and say hello, maybe even hit on her friends. But, I will not try to attract her at all. Game over for her. Your setting standards for yourself (which raises your inner game) and refusing to let anyone else affect your mood and emotions (which affects your outer game).
The beauty part is that once you can do this and really believe it, rejection is never an issue because no matter what she does or says you have the last "word" by rejecting even the possibility of you two being together in any way. Your being a MAN. No, even better...A Duan Juan.
I personally have a three strike rule. That means that I will give a girl no more than three opportunities to meet up with me after I get her number. Sometimes less depending on the circumstance and her looks but NEVER more than three. Other people may have six others may have one. The point here is to make the decision and that once a female blows her chances with you it's over(Period). Why is this so important some may ask? Well let’s take a little look what happens to your mindset when you make this decision.
By writing her of completely, you take away her power to reject you because, in a sense, you are rejecting her first. Remember, she didn't come out and say she was rejection you, she only implied it by flaking. When you say "Ok, you had your chance and you blew it", you just took the ball out of her court and put it in your secret locker that no one knows the combination to accept you. I even go as far as deleting her number and any way to get in contact with her so I'm not even tempted to call or drink and dial one night. Try it. Delete her number and any previous text messages. It's almost magic how you instantly feel because not only will it make those negative emotions of failure and rejection go away, It raises your confidence and self-esteem because your taking control of your emotions and how you react to them. You’re killing that neediness and desperation that is the curse of the AFC.
In my opinion, this is the essence of what the DJ mindset is based on. You are saying to yourself “I don't need her because she is the one who will be missing out on my attention. I know that there are so many other girls that want my attention that in a week I will probably forget she exists". If I happen to see her out somewhere, I'll be polite and say hello, maybe even hit on her friends. But, I will not try to attract her at all. Game over for her. Your setting standards for yourself (which raises your inner game) and refusing to let anyone else affect your mood and emotions (which affects your outer game).
The beauty part is that once you can do this and really believe it, rejection is never an issue because no matter what she does or says you have the last "word" by rejecting even the possibility of you two being together in any way. Your being a MAN. No, even better...A Duan Juan.