how to meet girls

[endymion]

Hey

I've been readng this discussion forum for a while now, and a lot of the advice seems great, so I'm wondering if you guys can give me some advice about how to meet girls that doesn't involve going to bars etc etc. I'm really kinda past all that.

My problem is, I have moved to a new area - a new country in fact, and so don't have a massive social circle already.

Don't suggest internet dating either, I've tried it and found it uncomfortable, made me feel desperate or something.

Cheers

 

[FoolsCause]

Maybe pizza with home delivery or jehovah's witness.

 

[Adam007]

Guys do not enjoy being shy and particularly do not enjoy it when it comes to meeting women. However, shyness tends to be very common among men, more common than many women think. When it comes to flirting tips for shy guys, the first thing to remember is to always be yourself.
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It may sound cliché but it is so true. Do not pretend to be someone other than who you are because a woman will see right through it. Be confident about who you are and recognize the value of yourself by being you. If you find your shyness gets in the way of flirting then practice talking in the mirror while you are alone and nobody is looking. It may sound odd but it can definitely help.
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Women are naturally drawn to men with self-confident exuberant types of personalities, which sometimes put men at a loss, but there is no need to despair because even shy, introverted men can be coaxed out of their shell enough to meet interesting women.
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It is a good idea to start small. First, instead of jumping right into flirting, look for ways to make friends or even acquaintances with the opposite sex. This will give you the opportunity to feel more comfortable talking to women in general. Take a class, attend a workshop, go to the gym and look for opportunities at work to have a casual conversation with someone at work or school.
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[Señor Fingers]

There are LOTS of woman out there if you know where to look.

• Bookstores
• Cooking / Dancing / Painting / Yoga classes
• Coffee Shops
• Cultural Events (concerts, poetry-readings, etc)
• Market / Store (especially the produce aisle)
• Museum
• Social environments that generally cater to your interests
• Woman's clothing store (you are shopping for your sister )

 

[CGE333]

Get out there and do some things that you love. You'll be enjoying and bettering yourself, making yourself more desireable to others and you'll be meeting people at the same time.

Examples:
Join a sports league, a friend of mine has met a pretty attractive women in a volleyball league, he has been dating her for over a year now. Run a marathon, there are groups you can sign up with that you meet a couple of times a week to run with. Join a volunteer group-depending on the type, many of these have very favorable women to men ratios.

 

[MikeYikes122]

Get active in the community and join some organizations, something you feel passionate about. You don't have to meet girls solely through cold approaches, bars and clubs, and your social network.

I recently joined Big Brothers and Big Sisters and have met a lot of females through that. I haven't gotten a little kid yet, but I have gone to the meetings and stuff and made a couple of female acquaintances there.

Join something like Big Brothers and Big Sisters if you don't want to go to bars or cold approach.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

the first thing to remember is to always be yourself.

AKA JBY? http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm <-- article about why NOT to JBY.

I think I'll have to start posting here more often.

My problem is, I have moved to a new area - a new country in fact, and so don't have a massive social circle already.

Depends on the country and what people do there. More information is needed to help you. What do the locals do for fun? Do you want a local? What do you enjoy doing? Where do people who enjoy your hobby hang out? Do you have access to a gym?

Help me help you, man - more info please.

 

[MacAvoy]

Two years ago, I moved to a totally different province 1200 miles away from my home. I didn't know anyone except my g/f. I struggled to meet people at first. I'm not naturally outgoing even though I'm successful with women.

The way I was able to create a social circle was through a hobby. At first I struggled to find a hobby that I would like and enjoy & get to meet new people, but then it just naturally happened. A hobby that I naturally love I was doing, I stumbled upon a group that was interested in that hobby and everything blossommed from there.

So my advice is, find a hobby that you enjoy, & you will meet people that are similar minded. Trust me it works, your circle will go. However it won't be overnight so be patient and you'll make good friends & get good leads as a result.

 

[MikeYikes122]

AKA JBY? http://www.sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm <-- article about why NOT to JBY.

I think I'll have to start posting here more often.

Ehh that's not exactly horrible advice. I'm myself around women and I get a lot of them attracted to me.

JBY is good advice to give to a guy who is socially adapted and gets along well with people. If a guy is a cool dude with a decent amount of friends, but he is just nervous or something around girls, JBY is probably what I would tell him to do. I think women like a guy who is comfortable in his own shoes and confident in the person he is.

Though, on the other hand there is the kind of guy who sucks with women because he is socially awkward, lives in his parents' basement and plays Everquest all night. That is the guy who should never JBY. In fact, he should forget his identity completely.

 

[ER!C L!VE]

JBY is good advice to give to a guy who is socially adapted and gets along well with people. If a guy is a cool dude with a decent amount of friends, but he is just nervous or something around girls, JBY is probably what I would tell him to do. I think women like a guy who is comfortable in his own shoes and confident in the person he is.

Fair enough. I agree.

However, my thought process is that if a person is on a board such as this asking for advice that any socially adept person should be able to do, then perhaps JBY wouldn't be a good idea.

Here's an example of when not to JBY:

http://www.geocities.com/japanfaq/FAQ-Manners.html

I asked him for more info as I do not know where he is from and what country he's in. If the dude is an American and just moved to Japan, then his American manners (JBY) might just mess with his ability to score with a Japanese girl.

 

[Paradox]

There are LOTS of woman out there if you know where to look.

• Bookstores
• Cooking / Dancing / Painting / Yoga classes
• Coffee Shops
• Cultural Events (concerts, poetry-readings, etc)
• Market / Store (especially the produce aisle)
• Museum
• Social environments that generally cater to your interests
• Woman's clothing store (you are shopping for your sister )

The answer to the original question is everywhere.


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