how to make more male friends?

[Baruch]

I got a few acquaintances, but only two friends. But they rarely do anything on saturdays because one is on probation and the other just doesnt do anything because he is a mommas boy, but a good guy.

The acquaintances i have are all 4 to 8 years older than me. I dont think its a problem though...we play sports together and sometimes hang around...but very rarely.

I want to be able to hang out with thme more, but without being the guy that forces himself onto others to be invited. I just dont know how to make more friends now that I grew up and moved to a new country.

 

[ScrewIt]

Unfortunately Baruch im in the same boat as you.

I too have 2 friends i usually hang with on weekdays, but we still end up doing the same stuff and not doing anything new cause theyre afraid to leave their comfort zone. one of them is also a momma's boy (or both depending how you compare).

The fellow acquantances i know are several years older than me. One of them i play soccer with occasionally. at one point we were good friends throughout the summer.

But since that guy is the bar scene guy, and im underaged to enter a bar, the friendship dissolved through last fall. the guy was 25 and and because of that we had different interests. plus we both tried to rush the friendship thing as we had limited time to build on trust, etc.

Dont force yourself onto being invited...asking if you can come along, it'll show your desperate and weak, no one likes that. I've had acquantances suggest to go drinking or whatnot, or you could suggest it.

but in general i realize that once you reach 20+ it starts getting harder to make real friends. why? because most people in general already have their own circle of friends and desire no need to make new ones.

after all this i realize friendships are not easy to build unless both parties mutually desire it...and it does take time.

I think at this point in my life, i can make friends with people my age (hard ot find people my age around). but i suppose im not trying hard enough or care enough to do so.

btw baruch what state you from?

 

[WORKEROUTER]

I'm kinda in the same situation. It seems that everyone has a group of friends to hang out with on a Friday night, but I dont. I have various aquantenances/friends, but we seldom actually hang out.

 

[jiza101]

Im in the same situation

 

[Climax]

*sigh*

oh for g0d sakes people... You want to make new friends? Go out, MEET ppl, become friendly with them, tell then u wanna hang out with them and party with them etc, get their numbers etc, phone them up before the week end, make plans, go party with your new friends. And while u party u meet more ppl and do the same thing.

If you think its wierd going up to MEN and getting their numbers, then approach a group of girls that are WITH other guys, then become friendly with them, and do the same (get the girls AND the guys numbers)

And here's a tip: Go to house parties and meet ppl there, its the best place to meet ppl and make new friends, but you can do it ANYWHERE.

If you think that you will be unable to do the above or you think that its wierd or not "normal", then you need to work on your confidence, because clearly your confidence levels are not nearly as high as they need to be. Now go out there and make some new friends, its not hard!


Laterz...

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I can be freinds with most guys.And I am freinds with most of the guys in my classes.The only guys I clash with is guys with temper issues.They're funny to me,they think everyone is afraid of them but all people are doing is laughing at them.

But anyways,yeah you're not gonna met new people online.

You gotta hangout with guys afterschool,work,etc. Basketball court and the gym is a good place to meet new people..but school is the best and it's the place you're gonna meet 99% of your real freinds.

You should go back to school or take some classes.

It's real hard making new freinds after college if you don't have any social proof to begin with,I imagine.

 

[Devil_In_Disguise]

The best way to make a friend is to be a friend.

 

[Climax]

cute?

Originally posted by Devil_In_Disguise
The best way to make a friend is to be a friend.

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[bud_2005]

Originally posted by ScrewIt



Dont force yourself onto being invited...asking if you can come along, it'll show your desperate and weak, no one likes that.

I can see why you don't have many friends. You need to stop caring what people think so much. If you want to hang out with a group, let them know. Who cares what you look like. If someone asked to hang out with me I wouldn't think at look that they would look desperate. Ask yourself this question: What would you rather do, Sit at home with nothing to do because you are afaid you'll look desperate, or hanging out with people having fun?