How to make/keep LTR's interesting..?

[solo1]

Anyway for LTR it'd be helpful to have a section in this board, because most of this section is about DJing women. Plus the fact the DJ bible teaches how to game women and attract them...but after it's all said and done what's left is a LTR.

Anyway I just got back from a date with this chick, she really digs me and we have strong chemistry and get along very comfortably cause we have so much in common (as i discovered today!). seems like she wants a LTR w/me and i wouldnt mind either...

But anyway although i've been on 2 dates so far, it feels practically like we already are in a relationship! holding hands, my arm around her shoulders, her head leaning on my shoulders.
Silent moments where we enjoy each other's company. she lets me make all sorts of moves on her and she doesnt care (in fact she wants it!). Of course all this is great and i have nothing to complain about.

She also told me i was the only guy from school she's seeing. She told me what she thought of me...at first she thought i was a serious guy (before she knew me), but now realizes that im interesting.
Of course i didnt tell her what i thought of her...which would give away my mystery too easily.

Sometimes i wonder if all of this is too much too soon...i mean if me and her have no problem with it. But i hope down the road this will not be the cause of a breaking point.


What's good and bad? -
- Is being (too) available a good thing or bad? Instead of meeting once a week, she wants to meet on breaks during school!
- So far we're not playing any games, and she's very mature for her age. But we both are very honest with each other, we even tell each other our problems (some of it). Which sort of kills unpredictability. But in general i do know more about her than she does me. Tone it down?
- I agreed to meet up with her, her friend and bf next week...sorta like a double date...good or bad idea?
- I treat her like a gentleman (mostly) ...good/bad?
- Final overall question:
What must i do to keep things interesting? What things should i avoid to talk about? ...basically down the road i want things to stay as they are now.

 

[borris]

To keep things interesting then all you need to do is to not keep doing the same things with the girl.

For example, don't keep going to the same bar, don't keep going to the cinema, don't keep going to the same restaurant. Don't keep going for the same walk. One week go to the cinema, the next go out for a meal, and the following week go for a walk in a nice park. You do not need to pay for her.

In the early stages you should always try to keep an element of mystery about yourself. This takes a combination of telling her little about yourself and also keeping yourself busy in your own. Being too available is a bad thing in the early stages of a relationship.

I personally wouldn't talk to a girl about her problems as she will just associate you with this and where's the fun in that? Your interactions must always be fun so try and steer the conversation elsewhere when such things come up.

Lastly, you should not even think of a girl as a girlfriend after just two dates, regardless of how well you think you are getting on. Always treat her as a friend you occasionally hang out with and then see what develops.

If you really like the girl then such an approach will increase the chances of you carrying on seeing each other for many months.

 

[white cloud 8]

Originally posted by borris
To keep things interesting then all you need to do is to not keep doing the same things with the girl.

For example, don't keep going to the same bar, don't keep going to the cinema, don't keep going to the same restaurant. Don't keep going for the same walk. One week go to the cinema, the next go out for a meal, and the following week go for a walk in a nice park. You do not need to pay for her.

In the early stages you should always try to keep an element of mystery about yourself. This takes a combination of telling her little about yourself and also keeping yourself busy in your own. Being too available is a bad thing in the early stages of a relationship.

I personally wouldn't talk to a girl about her problems as she will just associate you with this and where's the fun in that? Your interactions must always be fun so try and steer the conversation elsewhere when such things come up.

Lastly, you should not even think of a girl as a girlfriend after just two dates, regardless of how well you think you are getting on. Always treat her as a friend you occasionally hang out with and then see what develops.

If you really like the girl then such an approach will increase the chances of you carrying on seeing each other for many months.

But, what if you change the subject to something more positive and she says "I'm trying to tell you something, could you please listen?", what am I supposed to say "Okay" and then steer it to something positive?