how to make a move without getting rejected?

duke104

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a girl ive been talking to is gonna sleep over at my place this weekend cause us and a bunch of friends are going out to a club for a friends birthday. any tips on how to make a move without looking like an idiot and/or getting rejected?
 

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To avoid rejection don't ask for anything - just offer things. But remember that risking rejection (without being attached to the outcome) can raise your value in her eyes.
 

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duke104 said:
a girl ive been talking to is gonna sleep over at my place this weekend cause us and a bunch of friends are going out to a club for a friends birthday. any tips on how to make a move without looking like an idiot and/or getting rejected?
Do you fear looking like an idiot or being rejected?
 

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this girl and i have a lot of mutual friends, so i usually see her out on weekends. i just dont wanna have that awkwardness betweeen us.
 

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just be straight up and bold with your intentions. but do it tactfully and not obnoxiously and most times girls will not try to bust your balls for trying

do you fear looking dumb or do you fear getting rejected?

because no matter what you do you're risking either one. why not just say fvck it and go for broke?

if more of us guys could do that (including me sometime) then we'd be a lot better off

I respect a person who takes a risk, and i'm sure girls do too. Girls are not bears so really our fear of them as men is unwarranted.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Look dude, don't apologize for being a man. If she rejects you, TRY AGAIN. If she rejects you again, TRY AGAIN.

Don't make a big deal out of it. There is never any "awkwardness" for being a man.

Is the risk of rejection worth the reward?

And HOLY CRAP she's sleeping over. In the same bed? Dude, I will happily have her over my place instead. I won't be making threads like this, only a LR :D
 

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bigneil said:
To avoid rejection don't ask for anything - just offer things. But remember that risking rejection (without being attached to the outcome) can raise your value in her eyes.
Very true, if she rejects then just be cool and collective. Don't be pissed off and be a ****, don't be sad and be a pvssy. Just be your normal old self and have fun hanging out!
 

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Vice said:
Look dude, don't apologize for being a man. If she rejects you, TRY AGAIN. If she rejects you again, TRY AGAIN.
With a different girl each time, please. ;)
 

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In order to not be rejected, you have to be better than all her other current options. So you have to be taller, better looking, make more money, have a bigger ****, etc. Supply and demand at work. All you can do is improve yourself as much as possible and hope for the best.
 
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