OnTheWayUp
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Hi people,
I've been dating around over the last few months looking to have fun, generally improve my skills with women and ultimately lose the v-card.
Got rejected by one girl today when I asked her out. I've told the story to a couple of friends of mine who are pretty good at pulling women, one of them thought I did the right thing, the other thought I was too harsh. See what you guys think.
Context: I've known this girl for about 2-3 months. She plays in a band I play in, and we see each other roughly once a week. We started talking properly about a month ago, which led to her inviting me back to hers one evening. I reciprocated about a week later. I didn't make a move other than the usual light kino/ play fighting: she's 18, very shy, about a 6-7 in looks and only towards Christmas did I feel that she felt she knew me enough to potentially make out with me/ escalate. It wouldn't surprise me at all if she's a virgin.
Yesterday, I remembered that this girl had seen a poster on my wall advertising a sport that we both like and had been like "oh, we should totally go to a game some time." Our local club's next match was today, so I shot her a text last night saying I was going and asking if she wanted to come.
This morning, she replied saying she was busy with classes at the time the game started. I went anyway with a (male) mate of mine. However, before doing so, given that I had taken her text as a form of rejection, I decided to be ironic and turn the rejection on her. As I had previously teased her for not going out enough before Christmas (she studies very hard), I was like "no wonder you hardly go out, you have classes till late every day!" I figured an interested girl would
a) have proposed in her initial reply that we go out a different day if she genuinely did have a class or
b) not liked the thought of me thinking that she doesn't go out enough, and asked me out in response to my second text.
What actually happened is that I got a fairly indignant response along the lines of "I didn't choose my timetable, just because you're free all the time..." Clearly I struck a chord.
But was this a good move, one that might make her ask me back to her room again another night if she is free? Or was it too harsh? Not massively fussed either way as there are plenty of other hot girls around in my town, but as all this is a learning experience, I'd like to make sure I respond to rejection in the right way in the future.
Cheers for reading.
OnTheWayUp
I've been dating around over the last few months looking to have fun, generally improve my skills with women and ultimately lose the v-card.
Got rejected by one girl today when I asked her out. I've told the story to a couple of friends of mine who are pretty good at pulling women, one of them thought I did the right thing, the other thought I was too harsh. See what you guys think.
Context: I've known this girl for about 2-3 months. She plays in a band I play in, and we see each other roughly once a week. We started talking properly about a month ago, which led to her inviting me back to hers one evening. I reciprocated about a week later. I didn't make a move other than the usual light kino/ play fighting: she's 18, very shy, about a 6-7 in looks and only towards Christmas did I feel that she felt she knew me enough to potentially make out with me/ escalate. It wouldn't surprise me at all if she's a virgin.
Yesterday, I remembered that this girl had seen a poster on my wall advertising a sport that we both like and had been like "oh, we should totally go to a game some time." Our local club's next match was today, so I shot her a text last night saying I was going and asking if she wanted to come.
This morning, she replied saying she was busy with classes at the time the game started. I went anyway with a (male) mate of mine. However, before doing so, given that I had taken her text as a form of rejection, I decided to be ironic and turn the rejection on her. As I had previously teased her for not going out enough before Christmas (she studies very hard), I was like "no wonder you hardly go out, you have classes till late every day!" I figured an interested girl would
a) have proposed in her initial reply that we go out a different day if she genuinely did have a class or
b) not liked the thought of me thinking that she doesn't go out enough, and asked me out in response to my second text.
What actually happened is that I got a fairly indignant response along the lines of "I didn't choose my timetable, just because you're free all the time..." Clearly I struck a chord.
But was this a good move, one that might make her ask me back to her room again another night if she is free? Or was it too harsh? Not massively fussed either way as there are plenty of other hot girls around in my town, but as all this is a learning experience, I'd like to make sure I respond to rejection in the right way in the future.
Cheers for reading.
OnTheWayUp