I can't help but notice that most of the ex-girlfriend threads are about "how to get her back", but my story is a bit different..
I broke up with my girlfriend about two weeks days ago, but it has only become 'official' as of last Wednesday, when I put her on the train back home.
We've had a relationship for about 1,5 years, including a 6 month LTR, and she's been living with me in a foreign country(for my work) for about 3 months.
Things were going good here.
But, after a while, her mood/behavior changed.
She could be super cute and fun at times, and a major b*tch some other times.
We never really had any big fights, but the bits of annoyance here and there did build up without me wanting to acknowledge it, because I still loved her, and I figured we'd find a way to get through this..
I realized I needed to confront her with her behavior, since it didn't look like anything was going to change..
When I did she tried to convince me nothing was wrong, but at some point she broke down in tears.
Finally, she admitted that she wasn't in love with me anymore, but saying how she wished she still did.
I suspected this for a while, but it still hurt.
I asked her if she wanted to work at it, if she thought it could get better.
She said no, which led to me asking if she wanted to go back home, and she did.
That was it, I agreed, and said it was probably for the best if she wasn't happy here.
She continued to live with me for 10 more days and, although it felt like nothing had changed yet, I got more and more used to the idea of us breaking up. We also celebrated New Years with some friends, all was good.
She didn't have a job here yet, so I supported her(yes, an AFC thing to do, but it was worth it for me, at least till she found a job).
Besides that I also lent her money, and she now owes me quite a bit.
The thing is, now that's she's gone back home, I don't regret the decision, but I feel I won't have the opportunity to move on as long as we need to stay in touch for this reason(money).
I don't want her to want me back, because I feel it would only cause us both a lot more hurt(and we would probably end up the same way anyway), and my biggest fear is that she'll regret it and keep bugging me to take her back, because I do still care about her, and don't want to hurt her.
Instead of asking you how to get her back, I want to know what you guys think would be the best way to move on, without hurting her, and while still getting the money back(over a long period of time, most likely).
I broke up with my girlfriend about two weeks days ago, but it has only become 'official' as of last Wednesday, when I put her on the train back home.
We've had a relationship for about 1,5 years, including a 6 month LTR, and she's been living with me in a foreign country(for my work) for about 3 months.
Things were going good here.
But, after a while, her mood/behavior changed.
She could be super cute and fun at times, and a major b*tch some other times.
We never really had any big fights, but the bits of annoyance here and there did build up without me wanting to acknowledge it, because I still loved her, and I figured we'd find a way to get through this..
I realized I needed to confront her with her behavior, since it didn't look like anything was going to change..
When I did she tried to convince me nothing was wrong, but at some point she broke down in tears.
Finally, she admitted that she wasn't in love with me anymore, but saying how she wished she still did.
I suspected this for a while, but it still hurt.
I asked her if she wanted to work at it, if she thought it could get better.
She said no, which led to me asking if she wanted to go back home, and she did.
That was it, I agreed, and said it was probably for the best if she wasn't happy here.
She continued to live with me for 10 more days and, although it felt like nothing had changed yet, I got more and more used to the idea of us breaking up. We also celebrated New Years with some friends, all was good.
She didn't have a job here yet, so I supported her(yes, an AFC thing to do, but it was worth it for me, at least till she found a job).
Besides that I also lent her money, and she now owes me quite a bit.
The thing is, now that's she's gone back home, I don't regret the decision, but I feel I won't have the opportunity to move on as long as we need to stay in touch for this reason(money).
I don't want her to want me back, because I feel it would only cause us both a lot more hurt(and we would probably end up the same way anyway), and my biggest fear is that she'll regret it and keep bugging me to take her back, because I do still care about her, and don't want to hurt her.
Instead of asking you how to get her back, I want to know what you guys think would be the best way to move on, without hurting her, and while still getting the money back(over a long period of time, most likely).
