How to get this girls number

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Ok I went out on Saturday night it was a good night actually there was a friends friend who was out with us and I was was chatting too her all night etc... But she had a little bit too much too drink and didn't feel too good so a few of us got a taxi back my mates and carried on drinking there till 9am the girl had a few drinks before finally going too bed thru not feeling well... The thing is we was all that drunk I didn't get her number... But she's added me on Facebook an that's my only way of communicating with her.... What's the best way to get this girls number and ask her out on a date ? Without coming across needy/creepy ? Can't believe I didn't get her number. Cheers
 

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I thought it's be better to do it thru text rather than FB.... Would you just keep it nice and simple then 'Hi name, you free this Friday to do xyz ?'
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
I thought it's be better to do it thru text rather than FB.... Would you just keep it nice and simple then 'Hi name, you free this Friday to do xyz ?'
since you already had interactions with her fb is just as good, what's the difference if you're texting on fb or on the phone, thats one less thing you need to ask for.

just say, "hey, last saturday was a lot of fun, let's go out xyz this weekend"

then get the day set up and keep it simple
 

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Ok thanks dude... When you say interactions thru FB... We've not spoken on Facebook at all, she just accepted my friend request. I'll keep it short and sweet as simple is more effective. Well considering she stayed at my mates house that night who's wife is her best friend...I might ask him if she's mentioned anything to him so I can get a bit if a heads up to whether she likes me or not :)
 

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she's added you on FB or you've added her? big difference.

It does not matter what you do, if she likes you when you ask her out via FB, via in person, via owl..she'll say yes. If she doesn't she'll say no.

Easy, isn't it?
 

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Aesthetix29 said:
Ok thanks dude... When you say interactions thru FB... We've not spoken on Facebook at all, she just accepted my friend request. I'll keep it short and sweet as simple is more effective. Well considering she stayed at my mates house that night who's wife is her best friend...I might ask him if she's mentioned anything to him so I can get a bit if a heads up to whether she likes me or not :)
i was saying that you already had an interaction with her at the bar so she already knows you well enough to go out if she likes you, just ask her out on fb and get her number later.

i would send her a fb message talking about the night at the bar first, say something like that was fun or sh1t like that, let her reply back, then say 'yeah we should go out this weekend at xyz'

keep it simple and get er going


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He also said he'd get his wife to see if she actually likes me... Which I'm not sure about.

I'm thinking of just facebook messaging her saying ' Hi name, had a good night on Saturday... Do you want to go out for a drink sometime ? x'.
dont have him ask her to say that. just send her an fb message like i said to do, let her reply back, then ask her out, you dont just want to ask her out on the first message you send.


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Ok thanks Asa_Don... So if I FB message her saying

'Hi Ema, had a good night on Saturday.. Suffering now tho haha! How you feeling ? X'

Is that simple enough and effective enough to initiate conversation ? Also would you leave it till tomorrow or today to send it ?

yeah man, looks fine to me, sending it today is fine too, no problem doing that, after she hits you back then ask her out....good luck
 
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Thanks pyros, we was in a bar and she was taking selfie photos of us both so I asked her to tag me in those photos on Facebook so she said send me a friend request then which I did, she hasn't yet added the photos but we didn't get in till 10am so slept pretty much all day yesterday and she has kids one at 9 months so she's pretty busy.... So that's where I'm at... My mate said to send her a message asking if she'd like to go out for a drink sometime.. He also said he'd get his wife to see if she actually likes me... Which I'm not sure about.

I'm thinking of just facebook messaging her saying ' Hi name, had a good night on Saturday... Do you want to go out for a drink sometime ? x'.
 

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Ok thanks Asa_Don... So if I FB message her saying

'Hi Ema, had a good night on Saturday.. Suffering now tho haha! How you feeling ? X'

Is that simple enough and effective enough to initiate conversation ? Also would you leave it till tomorrow or today to send it ?
 

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Just so you all know this girl is a HB9... Absolute stunner!
 

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I've been reading an interesting blog on relationships and life in general and one of the most paradigm shifting gems I've found is, nothing and no one is extraordinary if you see them as such, you have invested emotions in something completely unknown. Think of it this way, if you've had girlfriends you've loved before, there must have been a point when you thought they were unique, special, extraordinary, perfect, irreplacable, but then it fell apart and you found someone new and you thought exadtly the same of them. It's the same with crushes, you admire them, you feel lucky for having a chance to maybe get close with them, and you're psyching yourself up on what an amazing opportunity you've got (especially in your case when you regret not doing something) and you don't want to mess up, because she's so pretty. I'm still learning to practice this kind of positive indifference, acceptance, make a step, but let the chips fall as they may and you should be in a state that if you get a NO, you're not down and depressed and want to shoot yourself because you're sure you messed up or missed a shot, and if you get a YES, you shouldn't feel extatic and overflowing with joy. A no should go down like - ok, no, (shrug), cool - and move on. A yes should go down like - ok, yes, cool - and see where it goes. Remember that there are no certain things, a girl that initially rejects you, may get into you later, and a girl that accepts your invite might turn out to be a really bad choice and if she's not, and everything is great and amazing you still shouldn't succumb to extasy. In order to do this, though, you need a stability in your life and have to be self-sufficient, if you see a girl as a means to push you a step closer to happiness you will get hurt every time.

So, what to do? You added her - this is important, she still may be interested in you, but you can't know. If she's not that into you, it is super easy to reject you over FB, and she won't wast a second about it. If at all possible, wait until you meet again. I wouldn't invite her to a date, it's just too impersonal (in old timey terms, you met her, got home, opened up a phone book found her number and now you wanna call her to ask her out), if there's a thing you're gonna do with your friends invite her there and then see how things go.
 

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Thanks for the advice hudpes... So wouldn't you recommend send her this message over Facebook then:-

Hi Ema, had a good night on Saturday.. Suffering now tho haha! How you feeling ? X

I'm not too invested in this at all I get what saying... But you also don't get if u don't ask... So if I was to send it and she said no not interested then I'd be like ok, no problem because I'd rather take a rejection than have regrets. Thanks
 

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Women are attracted to men acting like men and what you wrote is.. very yin, if you will, indirect, passively inviting her to come out and make a risk. IF you send her anything, it should be in the lines of "Hi, had a great time on crazy Saturday... you're fun! After I'm done recovering I'd like to go out with you sometime." You may want to brush this up a bit, but essentially, don't apologize for anything (beeing too drunk to do something, having forgotten asking for something - like her number) be direct and unafraid of making a mistake or a fool out of yourself, also in the message you wouldn't be asking her a question if she wants to go out with you, a statement like that is better, because she isn't pressured into doing anything, so she can just express her reaction to it more easily. It would be better if you said this to her eye to eye, for the same reason that it is more difficult for a male to do so in person than over a device, it is more attractive to a woman. Still, better do do something now when there might still be momentum, than at an unknown point in time, when she has to think about who you are again and wonders why you are asking her out after such long time but didn't ask her out then. Hope you see my point.
 

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So far I've come up with these 2:-

Hi Ema, had a good night on Saturday.. Suffering now tho haha! How you feeling ? X

Hi Ema, had a good night on Saturday, your funny! .. Once I've recovered from this hangover haha, I'd like to take you out sometime ? X
 

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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I'd use the second one
Drop the "your funny" and lose the question mark at the end (you're not asking her a question ;))
 

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In the second one where I stated that she's funny... If she messages me back asking why I think she's funny.. I can remember that she was cracking a joke about me on the night... Where she was like 'So where do you get your eyebrows plucked' jokingly of course so could use that I suppose.
 

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No, you sound like a female again. She teased you about the eyebrows... does James Bond like to be teased about his eyebrows and compliments the girl on her amazing sense of humor where she's playfully demeaning him? And drop the haha's, nothing funny about asking girl out, you re nervously giggling, making the text softer (blushy blushy). Men don't have a reverse gear, you do not prepare a message with an exit door, you go in, make it or break it. Unless the girl is desperately in love with you, she won't reach you her hand to make things any easier for you. I've had a few of those and let me tell you, initially it is all very very subtle, but if she's interested, without having a heavy crush on you, you can only read some hints between the lines of her replies when you dare tell her something risky, like that she's attractive, that you can't take eyes off of her, basically stuff you wouldn't be telling a friend of yours.
 

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"Whats going on ema? Hope you're not missing me too much ;) after i recover from this hangover, ive decided im going to take you out. Give me your number so we can set something up."



If she doesn't bite, she's not interested.

You are making it OBVIOUSLY clear in a message like that what you want.

If you beat around the bush and be "subtle" you'll land yourself in the friendzone.

But if you are obvious, you will seem bold and confident, and most importantly you will find out if SHE is interested or not.
 
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