How to get over the embarrassment of lack of experience?

[StockTrader]

This post isn't going to be a total pity party. Most of the parts of my life are really going well. I'm 25, I'm about to finish an undergrad finance degree, I'm healthy, I've got a great family, I've got a good head on my shoulders. I got into Tony Robbins material, which took parts of my life to another level. I've got an ebay business and lots of future business ideas and concepts. Business, career, family, health...those are looking good.

But then there's the embarrassment and almost feeling shame for my lack of sexual experience with women. I've never been on a date, never a kiss, never a gf, ....yada yada. I've only hugged a few different women in my life that weren't family related.

There's a small part of me that believes that I don't deserve a cute girlfriend. I don't talk about my personal life much with people, whether its talking about my business or my past or anything. This embarrassment of no past women in my life is like a shadow on the wall, it follows me where ever I go.

My skills with women believe it or not are actually not that bad. I can make really good eye contact, making them look away first, I've kinoed a few girls in the last few months, and they didn't slap me or anything, lol. At school this past semester, I sort of mentally "pumped myself up" and almost had the cajones to ask out this bombshell of a girl , who even a year or two ago I could have barely made eye contact with. We had nice rapport, she laughed at a few of my jokes, very solid eye contact.

When I talk to women online its amazing. I test out ****y, funny to the max, women totally love it and its alot easier to give white lies about my past online rather than in person.

How can I put this sense of embarrassment behind me? If you were a virgin past the age of 21 or 22, with never a kiss, gf, etc
....how do you see it now? Is it a big deal to you anymore?

 

[iqqi]

i think that your fear is something you control. you can let it go. because honestly, if you are a great guy you'll be fine. you don't have to (and shouldn't anyways) disclose your experience levels to anyone you just met.

 

[Walden]

Just get to the stage where you're willing to take a bit of akwardness. Once you're willing to suffer a few akward moments with women do Bootcamp weeks one to four , it FORCES you to get through that shyness.

 

[Jango_Xavier]

Everyone deserves one

All I can type is that your pretty damn stupid to say you don't deserve a cutegirlfriend because everyone does so
don't you dare think like that again because women can pickup on how you feel the reason is they can read bodylanguage 10x better then men.

 

[StockTrader]

Last night I was watching the HBO show "Taxi cab confessions" in Las Vegas. They put a hidden camera in a cab, and they pick up some pretty interesting characters.

One girl was in her 30's and confessed she had never been intimate with a guy. She was actually kinda cute! Maybe a 5-6 on a scale of 1-10. She wasn't disfigured or 250 lbs or anything.
She was almost convinced no one would find her attractive. I realized, "hmmmm, people can convince themselves of anything if they believe it strongly enough".

I'm going to make much better efforts to go out on dates and just re charge my life with more women in it. If the subject of past relationships comes up, I'll say, "I've been focusing on other things for the past few years" (which is true to some extent). School, business and finding out what I want to do.

Also, another important point is what you say vs how you say it. I have a really hot acquantance, she's been working on her Ph D, and she says..."oh, I haven't had time for friends in the last few years." But she doesn't hold her head down or speak softly about it. And that changes other peoples perceptions about how it's affected her. If you said it in an upbeat, positive way, other people just assume its no big deal. Ultimately, only you decide what things mean to you.