How to get over her

[Viper423]

Ok, well, me and this girl have been hanging out and messed around a few times and had sex. Well, the problem is that I really like this girl and she likes me too, but she doesn't have as strong of feelings for me that I do for her, and we both have acknowledged (sp?) that. We are both seniors and go to the same small school and see each other everyday. The problem is that she has already decided she's going to college in San Antonio, and I am still undecided. She doesn't want to date anyone until college because she doesn't want to start a relationship and have to leave that person behind. Well, she has told me that she wants me to come to San Antonio with her. The problem is that recently, after we had sex, she regrets messing around with me because she doesn't want to start a relationship and is VERY SET in her ways about not dating anyone while still in high school for these last few months. She told me that, "If you don't want to talk to me anymore so that you can get over me, I would understand. But if you still want to hang out together, that's cool, but I don't want to do anything anymore that people dating would do." I told her I still wanted to hang out, with some shred of hope that things will still spark between us. Ok, well here is the problem. I have completely fallen for this girl. I think about her all the time, and it makes me depressed and sad cause I know she doesn't want to be with me. Yet, when we are around each other, she still flirts with me and acts just the same way around me that she did when we were messing around, and this drives me even more crazy. What should I do? Should I keep pursuing her and hope that after high school we can be together, cause she has even talked about us living together in college? Or should I forget about her, which would be very hard to do because we see each other, hang out, and flirt all the time still? Or should I tell her that I can't be content being just friends after all that has happened between us and see how she responds?

 

[Luscious]

It hurts man - I know it does.

Here's my suggestions.

1) Stop being so subtle with her. Tell her straight out that if she wants to 'not be involved', to stop flirting with you. Tell her to make up her mind, and stick with her decision - either stop flirting with you, or shut up and get with you.

2) Don't be on a 'chain' for her. Don't be ready whenever she wants to talk, or have sex (yes - I said have sex). NEWS FLASH: She's not the only woman that knows how to give you good sex. There's plenty others. IN fact, if she doesn't want anything serious, go bonk a few chicks on the side - because, if she doesn't care, WHY SHOULD YOU?

I can really see where you're coming from here - it probably hurts like hell, man - you seem pretty torn.

But don't sacrifice your future, your goals, your ambitions, for some girl who won't even commit to you at least until the start of university.

Why should you put SO MUCH into any sort of relationship, when she doesn't put in ANYTHING?...just a little thought.

 

[Viper423]

Man, thanks for being so understanding Luscious, I really appreciate it...I think that next time I talk to her, I'm going to lay it all on the table. We have the whole week off of school for Thanksgiving break and she wanted to come work out with me some next week, so I think I'll talk to her then. Yes, I am very torn right now and I blame her a lot because she actually wanted to and did do physical stuff with me and suddenly changed her mind. She asks me like everyday if I'm mad at her.

 

[Best friends? NAY]

*****es..they come they go


next her

 

[Viper423]

I told yall that we had sex, I forgot to mention I lost my virginity to her

 

[Gold Heart]

Sex or no sex, your future is on the line. Don't go to SA if your future doesn't belong there. Don't think so far ahead. Love is blind. Don't let her affect once in a lifetime decisions.

That is also probably why she wants to wait until college before a relationship because senior year high school is a major divider between couples.