How to get over fear of physical confrontation?

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This has been in my head alot. I have not been in a fight in 15 years and I don't go around starting crap with people.

I guess I am afraid to date an attractive woman because I fear envious men are going to start **** with me or do/say something to my attractive date which warrants me getting into fight.

Besides starting a fight and getting in trouble, how do I get over this fear?
 

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Sign up for martial arts. They're in the business of not only making you a fighter, but more importantly giving you the confidence and the presense such that it will be highly unlikely that you'd ever have to fight again anyway.
 

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azanon said:
Sign up for martial arts. They're in the business of not only making you a fighter, but more importantly giving you the confidence and the presense such that it will be highly unlikely that you'd ever have to fight again anyway.

Yeah, I was going to take Judo.
 

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Mahon I thought your an idiot. But I was wrong your a troll.
 

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Start martial arts. I'd try kickboxing, boxing or muay thai if you're newer to the whole thing. You'll progress much faster in boxing, judo and jujitsu take along time to really become things you can use functionally in a fight.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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why do you worry about this? you haven't been in a fight for 15 years! This shows you are an easy going guy that minds his own business and does things his way. I say keep up what you're doing. Better to be a lover than a fighter.
 

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dude you're not gonna get in a fight just because you're dating an attractive woman. you're thinking just because you suddenly got a girl by your side, guys are suddenly gonna be in line to scrap with you

that's not reality.

here's reality. most guys don't know how to fight period, on top of that a lot of guys who do know how to fight won't fight. and usually when a guy wants to fight you're able to talk your way out of it or there's security nearby that'll bounce his ass out the club. and if a guy is a lunatic and is strapped, it doesn't matter how much judo you know
 

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this guy posts ALOT of hypothetical situations, i bet he's a total chump virgin mothafacka
 

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forget all that ju jit su bull****. Sign up for krav maga, its israeli street fighting, our own troops use this martial art in the battlefield, its designed for the most damage with the least ammount of time and effort.
 

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+1 to martial arts.

Also, start lifting weights if you don't already.

I used to get picked on all the time, and pretty much as soon as I started lifting weights and training MMA, people started leaving me alone. Funny how that works, huh?
 

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I looked at the Krav Maga vidoes on youtube. It actually might serve a person better in a street fight than jiu-jitsu. I have started taking bjj, and I can see them using some bjj submission holds. But on the street, grappling is usually a bad idea, especially against multiple attackers. The Krav Maga to me looks like dirty fighting Muay Thai with a lot of weapon avoidance and special scenario maneuvers.
 

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Boxing + Wrestling+ some good roundhouse kicks from karate, tae kwon do, or muay thai + Weightlifting X 4years= badass that most guys will not want to **** with, or even make eye contact with.
 

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HandyAndy said:
forget all that ju jit su bull****. Sign up for krav maga, its israeli street fighting, our own troops use this martial art in the battlefield, its designed for the most damage with the least ammount of time and effort.

He speaks the truth.

Krav Maga is the most effective combat system on the planet.

Jujitsu is grappling, and a very technical style at that. It will take years of training to become profieccent, and most situations won't require that much technique. The average joe schmo will only throw hooks, and put his head down to avoid getting hit. Unless you want to jump and roll on people, take Krav Maga, simple, fast and deadly effective.

But for most confrontations, proper foot work and a couple clean strikes to the face will end it.
 

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Rhoto said:
He speaks the truth.

Krav Maga is the most effective combat system on the planet.

Jujitsu is grappling, and a very technical style at that. It will take years of training to become profieccent, and most situations won't require that much technique.
I disagree BJJ is a much better style than krav maga. With 6 months of BJJ under your belt you will be able to win just about any streetfight against someone who is not trained in fighting. Many people know how to throw a basic punch. But if you ever rolled with someone who doesn't know a thing about ground fighting it is so easy to kick his azz. BJJ is the best style it has been tested in the early UFC's and is the most effective martial art.
 

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lookyoung said:
I disagree BJJ is a much better style than krav maga. With 6 months of BJJ under your belt you will be able to win just about any streetfight against someone who is not trained in fighting. Many people know how to throw a basic punch. But if you ever rolled with someone who doesn't know a thing about ground fighting it is so easy to kick his azz. BJJ is the best style it has been tested in the early UFC's and is the most effective martial art.
Krav Maga techniques and moves are BANNED in professional fighting for their lethality.

6 Months of anything you'll beat 95% of the unarmed guys on the street.

And no, most people don't know how to throw a basic punch.
 

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Trinitron said:
hey stuka you should give Rhoto a call, he'll take away all your fears of physical confrontation.
:crackup:

Funny kid.

And unless Stuka goes and spits in some ones face, I doubt hes gonna be in a fight.

But Trinitron, I work out at SDI, in Fremont, Ca.

I'd love to train with you.
 

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Rhoto said:
Krav Maga techniques and moves are BANNED in professional fighting for their lethality.

6 Months of anything you'll beat 95% of the unarmed guys on the street.

And no, most people don't know how to throw a basic punch.

On the street with no gloves anyone has the power to hurt you with a punch. I am skeptical about krav maga. I seen it on human weapon and it did not impress me at all. All these arts like Kungfu and Krav maga talk about how deadly they are but to me seeing is believing. I am a BJJ practictioner and from what I have seen this is the best martial art.

Guillotine chokes, Headlock esacapes, knowing positions from the clinch, and being able to control an opponent on the ground is very valuable. Also god forbid if you have to fight of your back bjj gives you that option also.
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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