This is a beautiful explanation of the friendzone dynamic. I think women have no problem with this dynamic because they see everyone from their female hive mentality. Women use each other to share resources. For example, a particular woman knows five different men. Each man has a different skill set that can provide her with a service when she needs help. So she goes along and plays nice with them so when something breaks, she can call the man with the particular skill she needs. The 5 men think she likes them because she is nice and is basically baiting them for future services. Since men want sex, this is almost effortless for most attractive women. Problem is, this woman has no intention in sleeping with any of these 5 men. She sees them just like she sees her female friends, like other bees in the hive.
From the male perspective, our ultimate biological programming is to procreate. So when the woman you found attractive and spent time trying to court is not interested, the end game is defeated. From then on, she is a complete waste of time. Women say men are not entitled to sex but they are also not entitled to our time and resources. The sooner you find out the woman doesn’t see a future with you the better. Cut your losses and move on. They don’t mind using your attention because they see you like another female friend. You just became her “gay male girl friend.”
Guys will play themselves and think I’ll just be friends with her and she’ll eventually see how great I am. Wrong. You‘ll catch feelings for her while she uses you and sleeps with another guy who made zero effort. The more narcissistic the woman, the worse she will play men. I have a coworker that has a man at home but she openly flirts with any new guy that gets hired. Especially if she can use him to get her job done. She’ll use all her flirting tactics to get the guy hooked for her future resource and attention needs. It is quite slimy when you realize her game.
