How to get her interested again?

[headphones]

Hi, so there is this really hot girl in my class who use to txt me last year all the time and all my responses was ****y and funny like one time i didnt go to class and she asked where i was and i was like "sorry you missed me babe ;p" stuff like that. There was a lot of teasing going on whenever we were together.

She would always txt me really late without a good reason and after every test or assignment we had she would always ask me how it went. I never had to initiate a txt except when we first met and she would always reply within a minute while i would take my time.

When i am with her she makes me very social proof and it was really great, i find that it makes girls approach you more.

Anyway, this was last year and she was going overseas for 3 months and said that she would get me a gift. She did send me a random message before she was leaving but i just gave a casual good bye and I didnt reply since then

Fast forward to now (4 months later) and we have one class together. We havent actually talked this semester except for a "hi". So Today in class i was with a friend and she was sitting in front of us and i noticed she had a new Iphone and it seemed that she was waving it in front of me constantly looking at it and making sure that i could see it too.

I want to put her into that txt attachment phase again cuz it is really fun. How do u suggest i handle this?

 

[Maximus Rex]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=182451

Is it a generational thing, but I seem to view texting as a crutch and a cop out. For me at least, the phone is analogous to a hammer. A hammer is a tool used to build things. For a the phone is tool used facilitating contact with a chick so that make arrangements to see her at some time in the future. Nothing more, nothing less. I'm not a texter and I damn sure don't want to get into long a$$ text conversations with females.

Reason being, is that there's certain subtle nuances and IOI's (body langague,) that can only be picked up in live interactions, also the same is true in for phone conversations to a lesser extend.

Yet instill I see guys on here trying to intrept and disect text messages. I see text messaging as a "virtual barrier," between myself and the target. Trying to run game via texting, doesn't mean anything to me, because it doesn't seem real. The text message doesn't respresent a person, but more of rainbow after a rainstrom. It looks pretty, but we can so wrapped into chasing it until it eventually disappers.

I need face-to-face contact. I need to see how you're responding to my game, I need you right there in front of me, so I see if I proceed forward, or make an adjustment. For all you guys that insist upon texting, could you please explain to me how, you can dicipher these subtlities, when all you have is words on a small LCD screem.

Also, I detect a slight adverision to cold approaches on Sosuave. If you guys aren't doing cold approaches, where the hell are you meeting woman at? It one of the fundamental premises of pick up is the ability to approach woman we have no familiarity with and get them to like us? If you're not doing cold approaches, aren't you SEVERELY limiting the woman of you're coming into contact with? How can you get better, if you're not approaching? Again, I need somebody to explain these things to me. Thanks.

 

[bigneil]

I think texting is great, as is email, but you need to call to ask for dates so you can hear their tone of voice.

One way to decipher text messages is to keep a transcript and use word analysis - how often do they use the word "love" - or "horny" for example? It's an indication of what they are thinking, but sort of on the extreme.

I have no "cold" approaches - only when I see "buying signals". After they make eye contact, if they "feel it" for you, they will either smile, or look down (submission), or primp their clothing, or fluff their hair (making themselves more beautiful for you). A classic is when they put on lipstick. There must be SOME reaction. If there is no reaction, you didn't get a rise out of them. If there is a reaction, make your move immediately. It doesn't matter what you say - but your confidence, body language and tone of voice.

Ask them their name, but don't tell them yours or extend your hand. If they ask your name it's good. If they also extend their hand, it's great.

 

[Masculinity]

You sound like an arrogant prick who doesn't have the guts to go up to the chick and start a convo. Your inability to talk to her first also suggests you are insecure and you don't want to be rejected.

No offense kid, but I wouldn't talk to you if I were her. You can't even say a decent good-bye when the girl is going away for months? You can't even talk to her when she sits IN FRONT of you in class? Wow....

Let's just say it's a good thing I don't attend your shcool

 

[Allurre]

Seems like there's some sort of insecurity rising within you now that she isn't texting you.

1. Don't even request for her to return back to the days of texting, let her initiate it.

2. Get over it. There's no point in fueling your ego/pride/confidence from SMS texts.

 

[terran2k]

What's your intentions with this chic? friends? if you want her you better ask her out in person.

 

[AlwaysSmile]

You sound like an arrogant prick who doesn't have the guts to go up to the chick and start a convo. Your inability to talk to her first also suggests you are insecure and you don't want to be rejected.

No offense kid, but I wouldn't talk to you if I were her. You can't even say a decent good-bye when the girl is going away for months? You can't even talk to her when she sits IN FRONT of you in class? Wow....

Let's just say it's a good thing I don't attend your shcool

I agree with this I used to be that prick

 

[Johnnyventana]

Let's see. You gave her a boring casual goodbye, booted it for 4 months, returned, and now are not paying any attention to her?... hmmm... Did you ever think that maybe she is wondering, just like you? Why not shoot her a (uncontrived) random funny/interesting/engaging text. Set the frame that you are still cool with the flirting, etc.

Maybe, just maybe, she's waiting for an old-fashioned move? You seem to be waiting on her, when she may be waiting to see what your interest is, especially after all this time. Where instead, you have showed her zilch.

From what you've wrote. You have not made any efforts, yet expect her to read your mind.

 

[headphones]

Hi guys, thank you for the replies. My intentions were never to be rude or anything like that and i was with a friend and didnt want to go out of my way just to say hi and then let it fizzle out because the class was going to start and i just told her too stay safe and dont miss me too much before she left.

So i have been reading some other posts and these seem to be useful:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=21610
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=182761
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=182359

I was kind of implementing no contact, not trying to be rude or anything

So last week we were in the computers and i was talking to her friend and neg hitting her alot so much so that she said she wanted to kill me but in a joking way but im in no way interested in her, was just trying to make her jealous. Anyway, I noticed that she kept looking over so i said hi and started some casual talk, she also asked my opinion on what she was doing etc. Also found out that she failed a paper and kind of moved the conversation away from that, i also know from her friend that she failed another paper but she never mentioned that - I did neg her a lot about failing a previous paper.

I thought that by talking to her she might go back to what she was doing but apparently not. Also, today i was in the computers and she walked straight pass me twice staring down at her phone. She is quite shy and seems to be avoiding me.

So next time i see her i plan on being C+F or do you guys think it is a loss cause and should just ignore her/move on?

 

[headphones]

ok guys, i wrote a long post last night but it didnt seem to post and i just woke up and realized that i am so over her. So thank you guys for the help