How to get her # before end of the semester?

[cablem]

Hi guys,

I've been reading these forums for some time to get some tips, but this is the first time I decide to post something... I seriously don't know what to do with this situation so I'll like to know what you guys would do...

I'm Latin American and have been living in the US for about 5 years now. I've never dated a girl that was not Hispanic in my whole life. My major is Civil Engineering so I don't usually get to see that many girls at school. I recently I had to take a humanities course I was missing, so I took a Religion Analysis class. Half of the students in that class are female which was something I had not seen since my freshman year in college(for some reason not that many girls take calculus ). Ok, the thing is there is this girl that caught my attention the first day of class. I'd usually just stare at her(after that I read in the forums that you shouldn't do that but I didn't know back then) and sometimes she would look back at me... ok the thing is, I never dared to say a word to her. Last week I said "screw this" and was decided to speak to her about *anything* during class, but... she didn't go to class...

This past weekend I was hanging out with some friends at Coconut Grove here in Miami. and while we were walking the streets I saw the girl form the class standing alone in the street! ... (seemed like she was waiting for someone)I passed by, took a second look to make sure it was her and went back and then had the following conversation:

(before i approached her the girl had a really serious face and had her arms closed like she usually does, in fact I've seen her a lot of times walkings with her arms closed in class with her head down)

me: "hi"
(the girl kind of looks at me)
me: "do you go to *name university i go to*?"
her: yes
me: "you are in my religions class, right?"
her: "probably"(really serious face)
me: "ah, i saw and i said to myself 'I've seen this girl somewhere'"(she kind of smiled here for some reason don't know why)
me: "do you live around here?(I really blanked out at this point I'm not really used to talking to a girl I like in English)"
her: "I live north from here"
me: "what's your name?"
her: *her name*
me" i gotta get going, nice to meet you"

I'd like to point out that she was looking away from me during pretty much the whole conversation except for when I said the part about "I've seen this girl somewhere"
, but I've seen her in class and that's probably her normal self so I don't know... I know my conversation was too AFC but I'm not really used to these situations...

So, what do you guys think I should do about this? what I should I do during next class? There are only 2 more classes left and I want to give it a shot, I don't really care if she doesn't want to give me her number if I ask for it, I'd gladly take the experience gained if that was the case... should I stay outside of the classroom before the class and attempt to talk to her before she sits or something like that?.

 

[Derek Flint]

Ask her?

Seriously, walk up to her, regardless of when or where it is and confidently tell her you'd like to call her some time, take out your phone, and hand it to her.

Give her a look like you absolutely expect her to give you her number.

 

[StoneColdFox]

First off, don't obsess over it, look what you're doing, you're creating a mountain out of a mole hill when we both know the answer.

Seems to me as if she didn't show much interest. BUT yes next class turn on the charm, smile, talk to her, make good conversation close with something like.. Well hey, class is about to start so why don't you give me your number and we can finish this conversation later.

Stop thinking so much, just relax, have fun, you're charming, you can have any woman you want. So do it already.

 

[Being_the_Don]

You said the girl wears a serious face most of the time, keeps her arms folded and looks down a lot. She might be shy or wants to keep her distance from people. When you approached her did you smile? It's best to smile right away so she'll know you're friendly. And since you're in the same class use that as a way to get things going. Ask her what she thinks of the class so far and if she's going to be taking such and such next semester. If she's not interested in talking to you she'll most likely step back from you when you approach or not make or maintain eye contact. But shy women are also known to do this or nervous women so you'll need to go with your gut. You've got to be confident or you'll be an immediate turn off to her.

 

[cablem]

ok, but when exactly i do that stone cold, I'd have to wait for her to seat and then i seat behind her or something(she might think I'm a stalker or something heh), she didn't show any interest so yeah... I'm not really getting my hopes high in this one, but it'd do it just for the experience I guess. I'll try to do the look that Flint said .

 

[StoneColdFox]

When you see her before class, or walking out afterwards.

It's not like the outcome is going to change depending on if it before or after class.

Also refer to being the don's post above.

Its pretty helpful.

 

[cablem]

You said the girl wears a serious face most of the time, keeps her arms folded and looks down a lot. She might be shy or wants to keep her distance from people. When you approached her did you smile? It's best to smile right away so she'll know you're friendly. And since you're in the same class use that as a way to get things going. Ask her what she thinks of the class so far and if she's going to be taking such and such next semester. If she's not interested in talking to you she'll most likely step back from you when you approach or not make or maintain eye contact. But shy women are also known to do this or nervous women so you'll need to go with your gut. You've got to be confident or you'll be an immediate turn off to her.

I was smiling, when I'm a bit nervous I usually tend to smile for some reason... My friend who was with me told me I didn't look nervous at all. When I got here I usually got nervous when I had to talk important stuff with professors because I was afraid i might screw up or something... I still feel like i might screw up while speaking to a girl I like(I don't have this problem when I have to do it in Spanish). That's why I want to give it a shot, so that I can get some practice. Can I ask her about what she did that day I saw her during the weekend? or should I just stick to class topics?.

 

[Boschy]

Dude this is why we're all here: to improve our game.

In my limited experience, your game in this exchange was pretty thin. Did she offer her number, touch you, turn towards you, laugh? No. But at least you approached. Analyse what happened and try to do better next time.

There is tons of material that covers exactly this situation. Go forth and read. The answers are out there. Then come back here and give an update....tell us you got her digits/e-mail and took her out for coffee. Go get her!

 

[Kev07]

Theres only two "legit" ways to get a girl's number. By legit i mean not going through her friend's cell phone and stealing it, or getting it off her facebook etc etc.

1. You "ask" or tell her to give it to you
-or-
2. She offers to give it to you

With option one, YOU have control over it

with option two, you're just a puppy waiting to be fed

Take your pick

 

[Alkali]

First off, don't obsess over it, look what you're doing, you're creating a mountain out of a mole hill when we both know the answer.

That's the proverb you need. Ask for her number. What do you care if she says no?

Kind of wierd that you asked for her name and took off. What was that an eight second conversation?

But pick up where you left off. Ask her out.

 

[Kev07]

Here's a good trick I like to use to get phone numbers. So far, it has never failed. It is a perfect 1 for 1.

1) Take out your phone and make a big scene, pounding on desks and stuff.
2) Scream out "KABABABABABABABABABA HOOOOOOOOOO"
3) Throw the phone at her face.

I like this :crackup:

 

[Boschy]

Theres only two "legit" ways to get a girl's number. By legit i mean not going through her friend's cell phone and stealing it, or getting it off her facebook etc etc.

1. You "ask" or tell her to give it to you
-or-
2. She offers to give it to you

With option one, YOU have control over it

with option two, you're just a puppy waiting to be fed

Take your pick

Au contrare...

If you generate interest and attraction during the interaction, she should be compelled to offer her phone number or contact details without the DJ asking.

The ultimate goal is for them to chase you....but's that is obviously a post-graduate DJ level of game, though it's something I always try to keep in mind. If she doesn't offer, I just assume the sale and tell/suggest that she to gives it to me.

 

[Serialized3]

Au contrare...

If you generate interest and attraction during the interaction, she should be compelled to offer her phone number or contact details without the DJ asking.

The ultimate goal is for them to chase you....but's that is obviously a post-graduate DJ level of game, though it's something I always try to keep in mind. If she doesn't offer, I just assume the sale and tell/suggest that she to gives it to me.

A "post-graduate level of game"... clever. And all this time I was calling it "passive game". I agree with you though, it kind of follows the "Tao of Steve" tenet: "be excellent".