aloha... this is my first post, and i need a lot of advice...
and i will be sticking around these parts
My girlfriend of over 2 years and i have broke up in March... It was over a stupid argument. I needed to loan my mom money at the grocery store using my credit card. but she wanted to spent time with me, so i said OK, thats fine ill do it later.
We ended up having sex.
then my mom calls me desperately. she needed my help, so i told her i had to leave to help out my mom. Then my GF says, you used me for sex, u promised u wouldn't leave.... ect.... I told her calmly my mom needs me to loan her cash so she can buy some food at least and feed the kids. I thought it was reasonable and responsible for me to do this... Then she starts yelling again, and i told her to GROW UP. BIIIIG MISTAKE...
she then picked up her laptop which was in its carry bag, and hit me in the leg with it really hard. i thought it might have been broken.
SO then i called her all sorts of names, and swear words and called her crazy and told her to get out. She didnt. she sat in my room crying and crying... she got a bloody nose and it bled ALLLL over.... all while she was crying i had to get out of the room, and when i found she didn't leave, i told her to get the hell out.
NOW, i regret this dearly, i realize she didnt mean to hit me that hard, she was just PMSing and had a really bad day and I FORGIVE her for this. even tho the pain hurt for weeks... Im a lover, not a fighter.
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So, i didn't forgiver her that fast though. for the first month after she hardly talked to me, but i tried kissing ass, and working charm. we go to college together, she wouldn't even talk to me even tho she sat next to me, i called her, she wouldn't pick up, i went over to her house, she wouldn't come to the door. I WAS DEVASTATED
she took me off her top friends on her myspace ( i hate that damn site now ) and added this new guy to her friends....
This made me even more angry, so i decided to be the strong silent type and start talking to other girls VIA myspace.... also another big mistake i think...
she started to be civil with me and talk, and come over to get her things, and was very cute and was almost hitting on me in some respects...
but i brushed it off to let her know i was stronger than that, i regret it so bad now...
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She now has been "dating" this guy online for the past few days, the guy that was in her top friends.
hes a TOTAL TOOL. she met him from a video game, called FINAL FANTASY 11, a huge role playing game online, its REALLY PATHETIC...
what i kno about him is that hes 24, he lives in Illinois, ect so she HASN'T met him YET...
I read on her friends myspace someones coming up here on the 22nd, which leaves me to believe that its the Final Fantasy DOUCHE...
Part of me thinks shes only doing this to make me jealous...
SO i started to play her game... I started talking to other girls... ect, then when she saw their comments and stuff she BLEW UP and wrote me a message on their telling me how low i was.....
I didn't respond, then a few days later on her profile it said she was in a relationship again... with that piece of crap Final Fantasy douche
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NOW HERES WHAT I WANT.
i do NOT want to MOVE ON, or GET OVER HER....
I have been through toooooo much with her, we've lived in NY, VEGAS, Back to NY, ect....
shes so cool when shes with me and is acting NORMAL... we can just chill all day, we have so much fun and can be ourselves, i was thinking marriage material up until this really.... even tho i am a young guy.... the future is built off the past and i like to think ahead....
we also have Dogs together....
And i WE RECENTLY STARTED TALKING....
shes bunked in with her parents right now, and they wont help with the vet bill. The dog is staying with her, and the dog is getting pretty sick.
so when i went over there the other day, shes like, what do u want, ect, u never loved me, im like, BS... i love u, lets try to fix this, ect....
but in the middle of that, i was playin with the dogs, and she was all smiling at me cutely and stuff...
and she told me the Dog was sick... I told her months ago id help with the bill if she needed it.
And i told her that then... shes like.... Now what do u want out of it? i told her nothing, just a happy puppy, she asked me a few more times and i said the same thing....
so this Friday we are going to the Vet, I'm going, and paying half the bill...
Now, what would the best approach be to get back with her?
After the vet, should i ask to take her to lunch, or out to a store or something? or perhaps a movie, or whatever?
I just need her back to be happy, i truly DO LOVE HER... as corny as it sounds
but i need advice.....
thank you sooo much!
-Andy
and i will be sticking around these parts
My girlfriend of over 2 years and i have broke up in March... It was over a stupid argument. I needed to loan my mom money at the grocery store using my credit card. but she wanted to spent time with me, so i said OK, thats fine ill do it later.
We ended up having sex.
then my mom calls me desperately. she needed my help, so i told her i had to leave to help out my mom. Then my GF says, you used me for sex, u promised u wouldn't leave.... ect.... I told her calmly my mom needs me to loan her cash so she can buy some food at least and feed the kids. I thought it was reasonable and responsible for me to do this... Then she starts yelling again, and i told her to GROW UP. BIIIIG MISTAKE...
she then picked up her laptop which was in its carry bag, and hit me in the leg with it really hard. i thought it might have been broken.
SO then i called her all sorts of names, and swear words and called her crazy and told her to get out. She didnt. she sat in my room crying and crying... she got a bloody nose and it bled ALLLL over.... all while she was crying i had to get out of the room, and when i found she didn't leave, i told her to get the hell out.
NOW, i regret this dearly, i realize she didnt mean to hit me that hard, she was just PMSing and had a really bad day and I FORGIVE her for this. even tho the pain hurt for weeks... Im a lover, not a fighter.
-------------
So, i didn't forgiver her that fast though. for the first month after she hardly talked to me, but i tried kissing ass, and working charm. we go to college together, she wouldn't even talk to me even tho she sat next to me, i called her, she wouldn't pick up, i went over to her house, she wouldn't come to the door. I WAS DEVASTATED
she took me off her top friends on her myspace ( i hate that damn site now ) and added this new guy to her friends....
This made me even more angry, so i decided to be the strong silent type and start talking to other girls VIA myspace.... also another big mistake i think...
she started to be civil with me and talk, and come over to get her things, and was very cute and was almost hitting on me in some respects...
but i brushed it off to let her know i was stronger than that, i regret it so bad now...
------------
She now has been "dating" this guy online for the past few days, the guy that was in her top friends.
hes a TOTAL TOOL. she met him from a video game, called FINAL FANTASY 11, a huge role playing game online, its REALLY PATHETIC...
what i kno about him is that hes 24, he lives in Illinois, ect so she HASN'T met him YET...
I read on her friends myspace someones coming up here on the 22nd, which leaves me to believe that its the Final Fantasy DOUCHE...
Part of me thinks shes only doing this to make me jealous...
SO i started to play her game... I started talking to other girls... ect, then when she saw their comments and stuff she BLEW UP and wrote me a message on their telling me how low i was.....
I didn't respond, then a few days later on her profile it said she was in a relationship again... with that piece of crap Final Fantasy douche
------------
NOW HERES WHAT I WANT.
i do NOT want to MOVE ON, or GET OVER HER....
I have been through toooooo much with her, we've lived in NY, VEGAS, Back to NY, ect....
shes so cool when shes with me and is acting NORMAL... we can just chill all day, we have so much fun and can be ourselves, i was thinking marriage material up until this really.... even tho i am a young guy.... the future is built off the past and i like to think ahead....
we also have Dogs together....
And i WE RECENTLY STARTED TALKING....
shes bunked in with her parents right now, and they wont help with the vet bill. The dog is staying with her, and the dog is getting pretty sick.
so when i went over there the other day, shes like, what do u want, ect, u never loved me, im like, BS... i love u, lets try to fix this, ect....
but in the middle of that, i was playin with the dogs, and she was all smiling at me cutely and stuff...
and she told me the Dog was sick... I told her months ago id help with the bill if she needed it.
And i told her that then... shes like.... Now what do u want out of it? i told her nothing, just a happy puppy, she asked me a few more times and i said the same thing....
so this Friday we are going to the Vet, I'm going, and paying half the bill...
Now, what would the best approach be to get back with her?
After the vet, should i ask to take her to lunch, or out to a store or something? or perhaps a movie, or whatever?
I just need her back to be happy, i truly DO LOVE HER... as corny as it sounds
but i need advice.....
thank you sooo much!
-Andy
