How to get away w/ plates...

[glass half full]

I agree that we should spin plates. As those who know me realize, I've been off the market for a while getting my life together, and mainly waiting for my daughter to graduate. We are moving away and starting over afterwards.

I totally agree with the idea of "spinning plates". But, In my past I have learned the hard way that women "talk", and share knowledge, truth or fiction, for whatever reason. I've gotten burned good in the past by women sharing their talk.

So my question from those of you who have lots of experience spinning plates- How do I do this and not have it bite me in the keester? Seriously...I need to know all about it.
Recommendations on past threads may be necessary, as I haven't been here much for a while.
Less than a year till move-time, so I need to get my oars together. I don't wanna muck this up right off the bat, or at all for that matter. Suggestions?

 

[strikerace13]

You need to come right out and tell them from the beginning your not serous about dating anyone until the right one comes along.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

So my question from those of you who have lots of experience spinning plates- How do I do this and not have it bite me in the keester? Seriously...I need to know all about it.
Recommendations on past threads may be necessary, as I haven't been here much for a while.
Less than a year till move-time, so I need to get my oars together. I don't wanna muck this up right off the bat, or at all for that matter. Suggestions?

If you want a omlete, you have to crack a few eggs.

It's simply part of the process. Ideally, pickup can be direct or indirect and or a combo of both. I prefer indirect since the context is there and I like leaving her in ambiguity.

Think plate spinning as, spamming cold approaches. Obv, calibrate. Swipe right. Be vague. Practice ambiguity. Unless official, #nextset

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

You need to come right out and tell them from the beginning your not serous about dating anyone until the right one comes along.

Lmfao

Only if you enjoy fapping.

Unless you are at gun point, stfu. Let her bring it up.

I only say 'I am not at that point in my life but, when I get there, I will let you know.'

Again, at gun point. Vague, aloof, nonchalant, ambivalence, ftw!

 

[Billtx49]

But, In my past I have learned the hard way that women "talk", and share knowledge, truth or fiction, for whatever reason. I've gotten burned good in the past by women sharing their talk.

None of your plates have a need to know about the others until you bring it up. Avoid multiple social circle multi dating and social media interactions…

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You need to come right out and tell them from the beginning your not serous about dating anyone until the right one comes along.

"AMS" ( Alpha Male Strategies ) successfully displays several effective carrot dangles.

So when asked about a relationship:

"Let's just enjoy it and see how it goes"

"I really enjoy your company. Let's enjoy what we're doing .maybe more can develop"


He's not entertaining anyone he's not phvcking.

 

[ubercat]

+1
Also a bit of logistics. Take them on in and out of town dates if you are in a small village. Just say early on your into nature guy and keep it as part of your frame.

It also depends on the time frame and why you were splitting plates. I'm an ltr guy so I absolutely believe in spinning plates but it's my selection process. So I don't have to feel bad if I say something that implies they could be my girlfriend the future if its true if they made the rotation they all have a shot.

Where it gets tricky is if you have no interest in a LTR or ri keeping disqualified girls around for sex - chubby, unattractive, red flags etc. It's called spinning plates for a reason there will be breakage.

You can also minimise Fallout by doing a bit of positioning in your social circle. You know say you've had a few false starts in love and you want to meet different people to work out what you want in a long term partner so you can find the one. And then go on about how well you will treat the one.

That's going to play a lot better in a small town then saying I'm a cheerful manhor and I love pvssy

Oh and play the friend card you will get quiz than just say I was out with a friend. The great thing about this is even if you don't have any plates a woman will automatically translate this into out with a hot chick. If she pushes you just shrug give a sideways smirk and repeat...a friend. If she pushes u on meeting your friend u can throw a bone. Gab her. Do a little physical pull push.You are so gorgeous I want you all to myself at the momen but down the track yeah I'll definitely want to show you off. Obviously that one is not going to work if she's fugly.

Disclaimer being 2.5 years into ltr I m probably very rusty

@deesade although younger is a very cheerful and accomplished manwhor Maybe he can help out with a few tactics.

 

[Murk]

None of your plates have a need to know about the others until you bring it up. Avoid multiple social circle multi dating and social media interactions…

Basically just this. If they don't know each other and you're not telling them then the only way they will find out is:

1. Phone messages - I set all notifications to off - Tinder/Bumble/POF/Whatsapp - I literally had a girl question me when I came back into my living room who "Sarah" was.

2. Items - clothes/hair/jewellery - I've noticed women will conveniently "forget" things at your house just to see you again - hell I even left my watch at my ex's house many times to prolong the bang (had nothing else lined up). Removed it all.

3. Sheets - ties into point 2 - at one point I had black, blonde and brunette hairs on my pillows/bed/sofas. Change sheets regularly.

4. Makeup - same as above - foundation smears on my leather couch, shirts, work suits - an ex questioned why I always have makeup on my suits "I hug the girls I work with it's our culture".

5. Forgetting stories - If you are banging Sarah but telling Kim you're at your cousins BBQ Saturday night - remember she may ask you details or casually through in "what did you do last Saturday" - b1tches be crazy but b1tches be smart. Too many lies can be your downfall.

6. STDs - there's been several times I have been on antibiotics for the clap and rejecting women, or smashing with condoms (unusually for me) - just be careful who has what, who doesn't, and when/if you have something.

7. Remembering details - girls love to talk, the amount of times I've asked a question and they say "I've told you this already you must be talking to a million girls" - it's hard to keep up with their BS. It's also hard to keep up with the BS you tell them, so be careful not to repeat your own stories. I keep an excel spreadsheet at work with basic details or times and dates. It's just a tab within an existing database I built at work that I glance through pre date.

People here will say to be honest and upfront - IMO - you're not spinning multiple plates at will by being honest. I say you do what you need to get yours and cover your tracks. No, not a popular outlook here, but how many here are really smashing different women each week?

I'll add more as and when.

 

[greatsnake]

Great post. Keep the answers coming ....

 

[Ranger]

I will tell you a true story that I personally witness in the dorms in college.
I went to college on a football scholarship. Most of the college athletes were in my wing of the dorms.

There was this one guy that was also on the football squad. Nothing impressive. Nothing special. He was from Kansas.
Evidently he had been seeing four different women and through some twist of fate they all found out and put their heads together.
They went to our wing and standing outside my room, my room mate and I watched the whole scene.
They tried to go off on him by ganging up on him and screaming loudly to make plenty of drama. He handled it well. Basically he didn’t care that they found out. Almost bored with the event.

Keep in mind I was completely clueless. I thought he must have the sexual skills of a god. We all showered together after practice because it was community showers so it wasn’t the size of his gut wrench.

But within a week three of those four women were right back in his bed thinking they were the winner. Right after blasting him the week before in the dorm hall way.

All I can say is that there’s absolutely nothing to worry about. Women talk so it might be in your favor if they do find out. I’m only going by what I observed. It doesn’t make me right in my opinion.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I will tell you a true story that I personally witness in the dorms in college.
I went to college on a football scholarship. Most of the college athletes were in my wing of the dorms.

There was this one guy that was also on the football squad. Nothing impressive. Nothing special. He was from Kansas.
Evidently he had been seeing four different women and through some twist of fate they all found out and put their heads together.
They went to our wing and standing outside my room, my room mate and I watched the whole scene.
They tried to go off on him by ganging up on him and screaming loudly to make plenty of drama. He handled it well. Basically he didn’t care that they found out. Almost bored with the event.

Keep in mind I was completely clueless. I thought he must have the sexual skills of a god. We all showered together after practice because it was community showers so it wasn’t the size of his gut wrench.

But within a week three of those four women were right back in his bed thinking they were the winner. Right after blasting him the week before in the dorm hall way.

All I can say is that there’s absolutely nothing to worry about. Women talk so it might be in your favor if they do find out. I’m only going by what I observed. It doesn’t make me right in my opinion.

Dude you can't tell in the showers . My flaccid is usually never impressive.

Growing up I thought most guys must have 10,11,12" cause I didn't know many guys ****s just stand up and gain an inch", where mines triples or quadruple in size.

A lady would have to get me hard to know how big I am.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What you learned it really helps your game to be fvcking. They won't even care, they just want to win .

 

[Ranger]

Dude you can't tell in the showers . My flaccid is usually never impressive.

Growing up I thought most guys must have 10,11,12" cause I didn't know many guys ****s just stand up and gain an inch", where mines triples or quadruple in size.

A lady would have to get me hard to know how big I am.

I’m thinking that I was making a different point. I don’t disagree with you at all. But he wasn’t some monster. The point was women don’t really care. Socially they do perhaps. But not underneath.
I look average when flaccid as well. But it’s most certainly not the case. I get it.

 

[Ranger]

What you learned it really helps your game to be fvcking. They won't even care, they just want to win .

I’m relatively new to this. I just finished “The Rational Man” recently. But it brought up all the things I saw but couldn’t put together. It brings up a lot of other things as well but I seem to have accepted the truth.
I’m almost certain they don’t care. However I think they WOULD care if their provider got found out. There would be hell to pay.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I’m relatively new to this. I just finished “The Rational Man” recently. But it brought up all the things I saw but couldn’t put together. It brings up a lot of other things as well but I seem to have accepted the truth.
I’m almost certain they don’t care. However I think they WOULD care if their provider got found out. There would be hell to pay.

If their provider "got found out"? What this mean?


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[Ranger]

Their provider? Aren’t we talking about two different men.
The first one is the breeder. Good genes high survivabilty potential...From HER perception.
The second one is the guy she holds in place to nest with. The one to take care of her and her children. Even if they aren’t his.
If the guy she thinks she has nailed down (provider) cheats...that would be catastrophic from her position.
All of this is generally below her higher states of reasoning. It’s an evolutionary biological imperative and command. All women have it. Of course some women can and are capable of operating in a healthy manner despite knowing her primal directives.
I would think that upsetting her sure thing provider would bring about a sh!t storm.
If my understanding of the biological and dualistic nature of a woman is correct.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Their provider? Aren’t we talking about two different men.
The first one is the breeder. Good genes high survivabilty potential...From HER perception.
The second one is the guy she holds in place to nest with. The one to take care of her and her children. Even if they aren’t his.
If the guy she thinks she has nailed down (provider) cheats...that would be catastrophic from her position.
All of this is generally below her higher states of reasoning. It’s an evolutionary biological imperative and command. All women have it. Of course some women can and are capable of operating in a healthy manner despite knowing her primal directives.
I would think that upsetting her sure thing provider would bring about a sh!t storm.
If my understanding of the biological and dualistic nature of a woman is correct.

How would it blow her mind to find out her provider is a P I M P?
IE: has multiple honies?

 

[Ranger]

Looking at it from her viewpoint. A provider has invested himself into loyalty and emotional honor.
She knows that a provider does this. Rations just enough sex to keep him trapped.
What? He broke out? He has to pay. Lol
All below the surface of course. She’s just really mad is all.
Just thinking with the data is all. Thinking with evolutionary imperatives. All a mute point.

 

[glass half full]

A few personal thoughts:

The ones who are really attracted rarely ask if I'm seeing anyone else. Because they don't want to know.

A reputation is a wonderful thing to have.

In order to win gorgeous women, you must be willing to lose them.

A question- The reputation you refer to, is that as in a good person, or a good sexual partner? (or Alpha).

 

[mrgoodstuff]

dont allow yourself to be "boyfriend zoned"

Was that mean?