How to get an older woman?

[411826]

How's it going, long time no see. Haven't been here in about 5 years but this place has always been in the back of my mind and has changed my life.

Going back to business. I'm the new guy at work and I met an older woman. I'm in my early 20's and she's in her late 20's. Hot as **** and so right off the bat, I let her know what's up. With that being said; let me know if I am on the right track because this is my biggest challenge yet...

1. I introduced myself and got her name.
2. The next interaction I had with her, I gave her a goodbye hug
3. Now everytime I see her, I give her a welcoming hug.
4. Next interaction after that, I got her phone number.
5. She drops a bombshell that she has been in her relationship for 8 years.
6. I play it cool and make her feel comfortable by not making her feel like a slut.
7. She gets hit on by a group of 5 guys during work hours, but I am in the back minding my own business.
8. When we are alone at work, I invade her personal space.
9. I see her privately after work (sadly, no hanky-panky yet)

So with that being said; What can I do to get her? She has expressed many times in public that she is not happy in her relationship and that her BF has cheated on her before. This is common knowledge for everyone at work. It also seems like she has given chances to my coworkers before but they all came out with nothing. Probably because they are around her age group and still act like they're in highschool. It's now my turn and want to show everyone who they're dealing with.

Now; Some things that make me iffy on whether I should be wasting my time are:

1. As I advance and invade her personal space (coming in closer, grabbing her thighs, grabbing her hips) she slowly moves away.
2. She tells me that she is not that type of girl and she is also confused that she thinks I have a girlfriend. I might have a "player" reputation at work but I just don't know it.
3. I might be ****ing up by having more intriguing conversations during text messages than in person. I'm not that witty type of guy, and when my brain fails and can't think of interesting topics, I keep going back to something she is wearing or asking about her day. Very boring topics...
4. As far as I can tell, she is interested, only because she is seeing me outside of work and she is taking the time to meet me places and letting me take the lead. Even to the point on leading her to some where more private. So far, only gotten to the point on having a dominating position over her by trapping her in a corner and slowly moving closer to her hips, but again, she slowly pulls away.

I am in a conundrum. From your guys' experiences, is she checking to see if I am the real deal and playing hard to get? I mean, I am respecting her socialization by not doing any of this during work hours and keep her from appearing as a slut, but what else is left to do? Am I moving too fast or at a right pace?

Thanks again in advance.

 

[thatfeel]

5. She drops a bombshell that she has been in her relationship for 8 years.

Stopped reading there.

Sigh.

When will you people learn? You come to the site act like you've been reading it for years but haven't taken a lick to even the most basic of concepts.

Why are you wasting time and energy on a woman who is involved with somebody else? There are plenty of single women out there that won't have you wasting your time writing threads like this.

 

[411826]

Dude, you're so right... But c'mon, even when you got game you don't want to rub your ego off once in a while by showing everyone what's up?

It's only recent that she came out to this and me finding out. I get the idea that I should not have all my eggs in one basket, but then atleast help me out by erasing this "player" status off of me. Everytime I speak to someone, being in a small community, they know who I am already talking to.

As far as I can tell, she is putting the responsibility on me by letting me know that she has a ****ty boyfriend.

 

[Skyline]

If you're posting about on how to steal another dudes girl then you're above your pay grade bro...

It's a very time consuming act and it's not worth it, don't you have morales?

 

[411826]

Again; early 20's... Not going to apologize for my testosterone...

But thanks for the heads up anyway, I'll stick around to see if I get any other advice I can use, but I'll keep this in mind.

 

[zinc4]

Agree with the others.
Don't get fixated one women in a relationship. If an.opportunity comes up to bang her then take it...but wasting time and energy to game them.in the first place when there are so many single ones is weak.

 

[JohnChops]

Again; early 20's... Not going to apologize for my testosterone...

But thanks for the heads up anyway, I'll stick around to see if I get any other advice I can use, but I'll keep this in mind.

You have to create the opportunity for her to cheat on her boyfriend. How? Get her out alone. Good luck with that one. Usually its a 50/50 shot when you ask her out, she will most likely say she has a boyfriend to which you have to deflect it, "I'd rather you not bring him", something along those lines. If that doesn't work, then in all honesty it is a lost cause. It is much easier to find a cougar who is single and ready to fvck. Gaming a girl in a relationship is fun at first because you think you have all this knowledge of "game" when in reality you do not know sh1t about game. A man with knowledge of game would know this is a lost cause and is worth more trouble than it is worth. But, do as you wish.

 

[411826]

Wise words

 

[LiveFreeX]

An easy formula for picking up older women is to simply make yourself into a loser with no other options.

 

[Asmodeus]

Older? Hahah... She is still in her 20s... I typically am fine with older women. I do not have long term relationships and am very casual about it. I am a landmine, and in a relationship the woman is liable to step on me the wrong way and then boom. Cougars as you all call them, do not look for relationships with younger guys. Not typically... They have often been through relationships, are divorced, and just looking to live it up as they did when they were younger (or in one case I met she told me she married very young, so she is trying to live it up now).
However, as for your circumstance it has less to do with age and more to do with BOYFRIEND... She sounds as if she is contemplating being with you, but trust me it is going to be very difficult to break her from her relationship. There will be a lot of drama, especially if he finds out. And you are going to have to put in a lot of effort to make it happen. This girl is not one of those who casually cheats on her boyfriend either, so you are swimming against the current. I care nothing about the morality of it, like these other people... Do what you want, it is your life and your choices. I just think that weighing the effort vs the reward shows that the reward is not that worth it. She would literally have to be a perfect 10, and even then it may still not be worth it.

 

[BeExcellent]

This is futile and reckless on so many levels. You are too immature to see your own risk exposure. Here are some insights.

1. She is not going to leave the BF. She has told you she has one so you understand that SHE IS NOT GOING TO LEAVE THE BOYFRIEND...But she is happy to use you for external validation and attention wh0ring. This is why she moves away from you in tight places. She's not going to get involved but you are sweet to nurse HER ego. You don't see how she is using you.
2. You are touching her and behaving inappropriately in a work environment. You will learn what sexual harassment is very soon. "I'm not that type of girl" means, be careful, I am a pit viper. I will strike when I tire of your attention. You will be fired and your reputation soiled when this happens. It may affect your ability to be employed in the future. Seriously.
3. She is working you over and putting your future in jeopardy but you are too foolish to recognize this. She is hot and she understands how to work over guys like you.
4. Find someone else who you do not work with. YESTERDAY.

 

[BeExcellent]

Again; early 20's... Not going to apologize for my testosterone...

You'll be apologizing to Human Resources soon enough for your stupidity.

 

[Young OG]

Why do you even want older women? Bang as many 18-21 year olds as you can while your still young. When you get older, it will be harder get younger girls.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Some MILFY broad thats in a relationship shows me some interest then it's only bathroom and car blowwwjobs man. She's gotta make that happen. If it's worth it then maybe i'll spring for a room eventually. lol

 

[411826]

Older? Hahah... She is still in her 20s... I typically am fine with older women. I do not have long term relationships and am very casual about it. I am a landmine, and in a relationship the woman is liable to step on me the wrong way and then boom. Cougars as you all call them, do not look for relationships with younger guys. Not typically... They have often been through relationships, are divorced, and just looking to live it up as they did when they were younger (or in one case I met she told me she married very young, so she is trying to live it up now).
However, as for your circumstance it has less to do with age and more to do with BOYFRIEND... She sounds as if she is contemplating being with you, but trust me it is going to be very difficult to break her from her relationship. There will be a lot of drama, especially if he finds out. And you are going to have to put in a lot of effort to make it happen. This girl is not one of those who casually cheats on her boyfriend either, so you are swimming against the current. I care nothing about the morality of it, like these other people... Do what you want, it is your life and your choices. I just think that weighing the effort vs the reward shows that the reward is not that worth it. She would literally have to be a perfect 10, and even then it may still not be worth it.

Yeah, you're right. This actually speaks to me a bit more than the other posts. I have given it just under 2 weeks and only gotten past going out with her and light touching.

Just about ready to let it go but will keep around to practice on my confidence.

I think where I ****ed up is being too pushy. I got slightly impatient and went straight into the touchy grabby. If I would have been cool, I would have gone for the light touches to the hand and work my way up. Text messages also killed me.

Thanks for the advice guys. Definitely see where I could have improved.

 

[devilkingx2]

Why do you even want older women? Bang as many 18-21 year olds as you can while your still young. When you get older, it will be harder get younger girls.

If he's like 18, then girls older than him will likely be hotter

 

[bigneil]

1) Never give a welcoming hug. Let them hug you. Meet them half way. I had a date recently and went down on her, but the next time she showed up, I didn't lay a finger on her until she said "Hey, give me a hug!" Always assume she is coming from her other lovers house.

2) Don't spend too much time hugging before sex. Friends hug. Uncles hug.

3) Never invade her country, apartment or personal space.

4) You don't get bonus points for NOT raping her and NOT making her feel like a slut.

5) There is a fine line between "Seeing her privately after work" and having her call the parking lot security guard.

6) Doing all the things you hope a girl would do is not the right approach. You want her to ask your name, hug you and lie and say she's single when she's not.

 

[nismo-4]

Your princess is in another castle! She has strong feelings for her BF. She friendzoned you.

Case closed. Please get out of my court.

 

[RangerMIke]

Stopped reading there.

Sigh.

When will you people learn? You come to the site act like you've been reading it for years but haven't taken a lick to even the most basic of concepts.

Why are you wasting time and energy on a woman who is involved with somebody else? There are plenty of single women out there that won't have you wasting your time writing threads like this.

This. I have nothing else to add.