How To Get An Ex Back

[Luke!!]

There was this girl I had been dating for five months. We were pretty close for those five months. Near the end we had been fighting. I wasn't showing her enough love and affection she had told me. I had told her that who I am. She kept asking me to show her more and I kept pushing her away.

So we kept fighting about it until the point I couldn't take any fighting. I get where she was coming from that I felt distant towards her. So I ended up breaking up with her three weeks ago. First week I was glad the fighting was over. Then I started to miss her.

She was a very devoted, loving girlfriend. She begged and fought for me to not leave when i broke up with her. She was devastated. So I texted her today trying to get her back. She was not having what I had to say. She said I hurt her too much and she couldn't do it. It went on basically me saying Id change and it would work. She would tell me that she cant do it. Then finally she said that after i broke up with her some guy that just moved into her residence started talking to her and she would cry to him about me. Then she told me she finally fell for him. She said she cant ever be with me again. She needs to be free from me she realized shes in a different place now without me. So I ended the conversation saying goodbye it was nice knowing you.

What do I do to get her back here? Is it doomed forever because I was unemotional towards her?

 

[pdx1138]

You're done.

Get another one.

 

[Luke!!]

I dont get how a girl I broke up with moved on that fast? She tells me I have a special place with her but we can never be.

 

[pdx1138]

One of the best things I ever figured out was to
never be surprised of anything a female is capable of.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

Now you know.

 

[Luke!!]

Fair enough. Yeah because I sort of did this to her before. I saw her for a few months about a year ago. Which she got mad at me for something and I never talked to her until august, a 5-6 month break. Which I contacted her again and same thing, she was seeing a guy for only a few weeks then but nothing serious. I was able to get her back. Then she went on to date me and tell me how she could only ever be with me and all that stuff.

So I assumed I could get her back again. This time she said she had moved on even though it had been 3 weeks. She said it has nothing to do with this other guy cause they arent really anything yet but because of me and who I am.

 

[VladPatton]

Looks like she moved on, man, you should do the same. Live and stick by your decision.

On a general, the thought "how do I get her back?" should never cross your mind once you break it off with a girl.

 

[Luke!!]

The only reason I did break it off was because of the never ending fighting due to me being stubborn thinking I should never show affection and emotion.

 

[Fatal Jay]

One of the best things I ever figured out was to
never be surprised of anything a female is capable of.

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.

Now you know.

wise words, from a wise man.

 

[Fatal Jay]

The only reason I did break it off was because of the never ending fighting due to me being stubborn thinking I should never show affection and emotion.

I been in the exact same situation,she wont come back, because to a woman 5 months is not long enough for an attachment.

your honeymoon stage should have been much longer, best thing to do is fine a hotter girl and ask for her number.

 

[BeDJ]

I dont get how a girl I broke up with moved on that fast?

War Brides Dynamic

Female nature has evolved to cope with the loss of their mate.

 

[Luke!!]

See this isnt my first instance with this girl though. We met, slept together first day I met her. We kept in contact and would hang out quite a few nights a week. After 3 months of this she wanted to know what we were and I told her I had just gotten out of a relationship. So she understood I didnt want to jump into anything ASAP. She then heard from a friend I was talking to these other girls and she got very upset. She texted me angrily saying never text me again. So I listened and didn't. 4 months later I texted her saying I missed her and stuff. It took forever to get her to talk to me. She did and we met in person. She told me she met another guy and she wished I had came a few weeks earlier and that it was too late.

So we sat and talked that whole night and she said she would think about it which the next day she said she wanted to be with me. So we had our 5 month relationship where the last month she was concerned I wasnt showing enough. We fought and she wanted me to show her and I was somehow incapable. I finally ended it cause the fighting was way to much to handle at the time.

She was begging me not to leave her.

 

[Fatal Jay]

dude you don't get it

im telling you to help you in the future this is not going to work, from your story you guys already split up two times within a short point of time

you not going to listen anyway,so when you beg for her to come back,and when she wont

then your going to feel like a super dumb ass for humiliating yourself over a chick that's not even worth it

find someone else, damn why do yall get so caught up in one woman, is she the best looking girl in the world, I bet not

the real thing is you fagz are to afraid to be alone, which is sad

so go ahead and get her back,and I bet a million you going to be pissed at yourself down the line

cause now the ball is in her court, and when a woman knows she got control over a man

guess what?

she doesn't want him anymore

 

[JohnChops]

dude you don't get it

im telling you to help you in the future this is not going to work, from your story you guys already split up two times within a short point of time

you not going to listen anyway,so when you beg for her to come back,and when she wont

then your going to feel like a super dumb ass for humiliating yourself over a chick that's not even worth it

find someone else, damn why do yall get so caught up in one woman, is she the best looking girl in the world, I bet not

the real thing is you fagz are to afraid to be alone, which is sad

so go ahead and get her back,and I bet a million you going to be pissed at yourself down the line

cause now the ball is in her court, and when a woman knows she got control over a man

guess what?

she doesn't want him anymore

Mhmmmmmmmmm that hit the nail on the head. Exes are exes for a reason, remember that luke. you broke up with her for a REASON, and guess what? People don't change like we think they do. There inner self remains the same, with the same issues because unike us they do not work on themselves the way we do to fix those issues. Women is the "they" im speaking of.

 

[alpha_ash]

Mhmmmmmmmmm that hit the nail on the head. Exes are exes for a reason, remember that luke. you broke up with her for a REASON, and guess what? People don't change like we think they do. There inner self remains the same, with the same issues because unike us they do not work on themselves the way we do to fix those issues. Women is the "they" im speaking of.

Great point! Women don't work on themselves because they know there are enough chumps out there who will accept them as-is. As for men, it's difficult to find a high quality girl and in order to attract one, you must show the right kind of value. That value is earned by working on improving every aspect of your life.

 

[QuadDeuces]

You must train your mind not to think "What can I do to get her back" but rather, "What can she do to get me back?"

Heal your wounds, reflect and move on bro.

 

[Demonpenz]

I miss being 18...but I ain't get that back either.

 

[Luke!!]

There was nothing wrong with her. I didn't break up with her because of her. I broke up with her because of me. I was running away. I ran away from showing her any sort of emotion. She kept wanting and wanting until I pushed her away for good. There was no issue with her at all. A girl wanting some sort of emotional feedback is normal.

 

[Mr. Bond]

There was nothing wrong with her. I didn't break up with her because of her. I broke up with her because of me. I was running away. I ran away from showing her any sort of emotion. She kept wanting and wanting until I pushed her away for good. There was no issue with her at all. A girl wanting some sort of emotional feedback is normal.

What makes you think it's going to be any different if you get back with her? It won't be. You haven't made any effort to change or improve yourself. Your problems are still with you, and whatever problems she has are still with her.

Move on. I know that's easier said than done. I went through a fvcking hard breakup a few months ago, and it wasn't until I stopped caring about what happened with her that I truly became happy. Stop holding onto that hope you will get back with her. It is what it is. Accept it.

Look into your own problems. Personally, I've faced any and all of my demons I could identify these past months. I'm better for it. If you want a happy relationship with some girl in the future, you need to sort your own problems out so that you don't push the next one away too.

Lastly, and I know it's fvcking cliche, there are billions of other women in the world. Look at the world with a mindset of abundance. For all practical purposes, there are basically an infinite number of quality women in the world. Stop clinging onto your ex like you'll never find another good one. Get out, meet lots of women, and you will find quality out there.

Good luck.

 

[Trailboss]

Hey..whatever it was that you didn't give her...your *not going to give her* again...it'll be ok for a couple weeks, if you get back together, then you will be right back in the same boat. Cut your losses, move on to the next one. Once you have a next one, trust me: you won't remember her name.

Women are like cars...you own a bunch in your lifetime, but only now and then does a real Classic come around...if she was a Classic, well...like the car: you would not have gotten rid of her in the first place.

 

[Harvey_Poon]

What some guys will go through just to say they have a girlfriend.

Well, I'm sorry my friend, but your relationship has reached it's end. It's dead and gone and it's about time that you have moved on.

There is nothing more pathetic than a man groveling and begging a woman to take him back. You had her and you let her go. What good is being with a girl that you are fighting with all the time? Nothing is ever going to change with all the bad feelings there. Nothing you say or that you can do will change her mind. You heard it from her own words...she doesn't want you back. If she wanted to be with you, she would be in your arms right now, not with another man. It's funny how these relationships start out and end. He held the power over her using her as a fvck buddy and let her go. Now she has the power over him because he is the one begging for her to come back and she has no use for the guy.

Quit bothering this girl to take you back because she won't take you back. The more you pester her about it, the more foolish, pathetic, and weak you look as a man and in her eyes.

Find someone else new and start out fresh

Next time, don't make the same mistakes you did with this girl.

There was this girl I had been dating for five months. We were pretty close for those five months. Near the end we had been fighting. I wasn't showing her enough love and affection she had told me. I had told her that who I am. She kept asking me to show her more and I kept pushing her away.

Pretty close isn't really close. You could of showed her love and affection every minute of the day and she still would say that it wasn't enough. Women will use that as an excuse to start a fight so a break up will occur. Guess what? It did.

So we kept fighting about it until the point I couldn't take any fighting. I get where she was coming from that I felt distant towards her. So I ended up breaking up with her three weeks ago. First week I was glad the fighting was over. Then I started to miss her.

So, you had all this fighting and drama with this chick and you want to go back to her and start it all over again? That's crazy man. You should be glad it's over and that you are done with her. Because if you ever got back with her she will start the same problems with you all over again. Do you really want to go through all that again?

She was a very devoted, loving girlfriend. She begged and fought for me to not leave when i broke up with her. She was devastated..

If she was so loving and devoted then why did you break up with her? You had the upper hand here and all the power and you should of kept it and left it at that.

So I texted her today trying to get her back.

A terrible mistake by you. Now you are giving her the upper hand with all the power that she will hold forever

She was not having what I had to say. She said I hurt her too much and she couldn't do it. It went on basically me saying Id change and it would work. She would tell me that she cant do it. Then finally she said that after i broke up with her some guy that just moved into her residence started talking to her and she would cry to him about me. Then she told me she finally fell for him. She said she cant ever be with me again. She needs to be free from me she realized shes in a different place now without me. So I ended the conversation saying goodbye it was nice knowing you.

Of course she wouldn't hear you out. Now she gets to blame you for the entire relationship and make excuses why she doesn't want you back. You put yourself in this situation. You gave her the power to blame you and to make you feel bad about everything. Yes, there is always another guy in the picture that prevents the coming back together again.

What do I do to get her back here? Is it doomed forever because I was unemotional towards her?

You can't do anything except to move on and find someone else. Bothering her won't help and you will just make her resent you more while you feel even more worse about yourself.

See this isnt my first instance with this girl though. We met, slept together first day I met her.

And you can bet that she slept with the other guys the first night as well when you broke up with her.

We kept in contact and would hang out quite a few nights a week. After 3 months of this she wanted to know what we were and I told her I had just gotten out of a relationship. So she understood I didnt want to jump into anything ASAP.

3 months is not ASAP especially since you were with her "quite a few nights a week"...She wanted an official relationship title and you didn't. You probably wish now that you would have had the title. Then this mess wouldn't of occurred.

She then heard from a friend I was talking to these other girls and she got very upset. She texted me angrily saying never text me again. So I listened and didn't. 4 months later I texted her saying I missed her and stuff. It took forever to get her to talk to me. She did and we met in person. She told me she met another guy and she wished I had came a few weeks earlier and that it was too late.

So we sat and talked that whole night and she said she would think about it which the next day she said she wanted to be with me. So we had our 5 month relationship where the last month she was concerned I wasnt showing enough. We fought and she wanted me to show her and I was somehow incapable. I finally ended it cause the fighting was way to much to handle at the time.

Basically she got tired of you and the relationship and wasn't happy with you anymore. She had the other guy she met and wanted to be with him instead. After you broke up the first time you should of let it go and then you wouldn't have had all the fighting and drama that went on.

You feel a loss of this girl more so because she is with another guy and it is eating away at you. Mainly because you can't get back what you had because she is with someone else.

Just let it go and chalk it up as a learning experience

Next time don't make the same mistakes as you did with this girl

May your days be filled with much greatness and plenty of poon

Dr. Harvey Poon