:crackup: Why should I tell you how to succeed at competing with me ?
OK, because you are so clueless (and I am so generous) I will give you a leg up.
1. Show her your best confident manner without acting like a wisea$$.
2. Enquire about something which she just did, or said, or make a comment about something that she is wearing.
3. Hold eye contact while you are talking to her and, at some strategic moment, touch her arms below the elbow while you are openly smiling.( Cut the usually kino way down with cougars )
4. Initiate action- take her onto the dance floor. Lead her outside for some air. Take her to the bar. Take her back to her seat and sit with her for a moment. Adopt a leadership posture. Make a joke - a lame one will do, maake her laugh and tease her a little .
And so on - essentially women are still the same when they are over 40. They respond to the same triggers and stimuli. They still like cool funny guys who are bold.
Here is one killer line that you might like to use ( alter it with your own words if you wish )
It is a little lame too, but it works...
" Hey Mary, I'm wondering . Do your parents know you are out late meeting guys and partaking of adult beverages? " (Their reaction is gold ).
Good hunting, kiddo.