How To Gain "happiness" When It Comes To Women

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This is not a guide on being "good" with women. This is just my mentality at the moment. I think its pretty good and straight forward, so I thought I'd share it.

How to be happy with women...

Keep in mind that being HAPPY with women has nothing to do with the amount of women that you have. Look at that fag Mystery, he doesn't seem too happy. Being "happy" when it comes to the area of women is ALL about yourself. Lets look at some of the steps that you can achieve this happiness, and stop spending time wasted thinking about how to "get" women.

1. There is no ONE.

I'm sorry guys, there is no ONE soul mate/girl of your dreams. There really isn't. Your ego just needs a boost thats all. You see, you take "THAT" girl, and you think of her as the greatest vagina on legs in the world. Now how would your ego feel if you were to posess that girl? Pretty ****ing good right? Classic example of how you don't feel special enough about yourself, you need a girl to feel like your somebody. Same as some ppl need a house, a benz, a job of authority or a boat to feel special/important.\

-Theres about 3,000,000,000 women in this world. If you found the one, buy some lottery tickets.

2. You must LOVE yourself.

If a man does not love himself the most in this world, how can he love anything? When a man puts a woman infront of himself, he is showing WEAKNESS. Women do not care about looks ( that much), they care about power, status, and confidence. They want to **** men, not little girls who are insecure. Love yourself, more then ANYONE in this world, because you are the only YOU. This is the beginning to all normal and fulfilling relationships. Keep in mind, the ego is messing with you.

-Do not seek to "improve yourself". Seek to love and accept yourself for who you are. Then pursue your dreams and amibitions. You will find that you have improved much more without realizing so.

"self improvement is masterbation" tyler durden

3. Society is STUPID.

If you disagree, lemme ask you this. Do you know that the human lungs can take up to 6 litres of oxygen in one breath, when we normally only take 1 litre? Thats less then 20% of maximum lung capacity. Did you also know that deep breathing is one of the most healthy beneficial, and free "feel-good" activities there is?!

No, maybe not. So what the hell do you know about? Jake and Vienna? MTV? How does anything of this help ourselves and make our lives more pleasurable and better? It doesnt!!!

Same with trendy music and clothes, only LIKE if you actually LIKE. If you failed to get the girls you were pursuing because of clothes or music, or whatever trendy fad, then your picking the wrong girls.

-National happiness peaked somewhere before the mid 90s, before all this consumerism society bull****.

3.5 Be the MAN you want to be.

Society = the people that make up society, aka, everyone else, or majority rule. **** what society thinks. If society says men don't cry, I cry and am still a man. If society says men don't do dishes, I do dishes and am still a man. Society says men have six packs, I do not work out and am still a man. A MAN is determined by the attitude and mindset of the man. No matter what I do, if I think I'm a man, who will tell me different, you? LOL. NEVER let anyone else decide for you, and tell you you were better this way, or that way, or with this or THAT. You decide, its your life.


4. Do not take women seriously.

There are two tests in life. The test for true happiness, and the test for women. You cannot pass one without the other. Keep in mind that you WILL die one day, and just relax. It truly means nothing in the end. I'm not going to reveal my thoughts on happiness, but keep in mind that there are MANY MANY women. Do not take women seriously, its like the spelling test in gr3, who cares, it doesn't count for your transcript. ALSO, another one comes along in 2 days. Try your best, if it doesn't work out, lol who cares man. who cares...

4.5 All women are *****S.

Don't think I'm a misogynist until you finish reading. Secretly, all women love sex, ALOT. I mean come on ,sex is great. Women think about it as much as guys do, if not more. I mean they have all these magazines about sex and stuff, come on. They are just as horny and are forced to hide it. Keep that in mind. I'm not saying girls will always cheat on you, but its your job to be that solid, strong, masculine, and powerful man that will keep her to you. Divorce rates are getting higher, emasculation of men is increasing, coincidence? Be a man, don't spend your time discussing about women. Come back occasionally and contribute your new found ideas and knowledge, but do not lurk here and read this as your hobby. If women are your hobby, your life is screwed.

-Sorry guys... :D

ALSO, through my own experiences of failure with women, THREE THINGS

1) TIME IS NOT A FACTOR

Seriously, she could want to **** a guy more then you, if you talked to her for a month, and her only seening him once. That being said...

2) YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE, DO NOT WASTE IT

Be the guy that ****s her FAST. Time is not a factor. Be straight up with what you want lol. Remember, don't take them seriously. Talking to her for a hour, just so you can ask her out = wasting your timee...Society is stupid for thinking your blunt. You love yourself so your ALWAYS smiling. Go up to her and tell her you want to **** her in the face. (Subtly, duh. Women likes to be DISCRETE, so you cannot possibly win if you tell her to her face. Her reputation is at stake)

T.I.- pornstar. Listen to this song, genius. Actually most of T.I.'s material is VERY good. He's a lyrical genius WHILE bringing the message of being strong, confident, and independent.

3) BE INDEPENDENT.

Your the stick, shes the vine. She clings onto YOU. Remember that.

5. LIVE YOUR LIFE.

This ties everything together. But firstly, we need to cure you with your addiction to IMPROVING YOURSELF, or SOSUAVE, or PICK UP, and COMPUTERS too. You guys are addicted to sosuave if you have like over 600 posts or something and know ALL the "technical" ways to deal with women. Come on man, spend your time doing something MORE productive.

Find your dreams, the ones you had before you got into women and **** like that. Back when you were young, what did you ENJOY doing? I loved ART. You used to ENJOY doing things, things that had nothing to do with women. Please find those things.

Nothing turns on girls more than a MAN with a VISION. You need dreams and ambitions, not for egostical or materialistic gains, but for happiness, and humanitarian reasons. Find these dreams and work to pursue them.

Keep yourself healthy, not because muscles is ATTRACTIVE, but because you like keeping healthy. (Beta-endorphines are 80 time more potent then heroin, and they are FREE, just exercise, and feel GOOOOOOD)

Do whatever you want to be HAPPY. Fight all addictions and then pursue your dreams.


LOL, guys I do not seek to be good with women. I seek happiness: unconditional love for myself, less egostical means, and a better life for the people around me.

Also keep in mind women are BRUTALLY CRUEL. She will suck your **** and beg you to **** her in the ass, but when you put her before you, she will work until your heart is broken to bits. You will end up begging for her forgiveness as she reduces your balls to nothing while ****ing another guy. Don't be like that please.

Enjoy.
 

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How to gain a happiness here a point discuss is a really a great,if you want to be a happy then live your life,be independent,not wast your time,trust in your self,and trust on them who are near in your life or you,not take a serious every-one,not heart any one this are the things you remember then it really a help you to be a happy.
 

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Your post is great and I loved this line :)
Theres about 3,000,000,000 women in this world. If you found the one, buy some lottery tickets.
 

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great mindset you got going on there, and one that i definitely need to adapt to..
As mentioned above the 3billion women line was funny and does make a great point..lol
What i didnt understand to well was..
"self improvement is masterbation"
can you elaborate more on that quote
 

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JerryFl08 said:
great mindset you got going on there, and one that i definitely need to adapt to..
As mentioned above the 3billion women line was funny and does make a great point..lol
What i didnt understand to well was..


can you elaborate more on that quote
From what I got of it, the concept of self-improvement is coming from a point of weakness. You are effectively saying that you're not good enough and need to become better. This may be fine, but as long as you know you're being a better you and not trying to become what everyone thinks they think is the ideal person.
 

S.U.R.F.

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Hahaha, thanks guys, Im getting repped? :O, im shocked.

I don't want to be like PUA or anything of that kind.

The quote on self improvement is masterbation is very interesting. I first saw it on fight club and I realized that it does make alot of sense.

Look at this from the perception of a chode/and a real man.

What is self improvement anyways, its saying you are HERE, and you want to be THERE. Now, who decided where THERE is? Society? Magazines? Other dudes who are good with women? Screw them.

A MAN, a man that women want, KNOWS where HE wants to go. And he goes there for NOONE but himself. The saying is that people want to improve themselves for themselves, but most do it to get women. That is just low self esteem right now, improving yourself so you can get women, LOL.

If you want to improve things like your schooling, a new language, etc, thats not the self improvement I mean. I'm talking about the self improvement that you do becuz you are trying to feel adequate.

It's hard guys, change rather, not self improvement, change to become confident in YOURSELF, is not easy.

While I say my mentality is what I have posted in the beginning, right now, its not. It's hard not to go back to my old ways.

If everyone could read these posts (which most are overlapping), then most people SHOULD be manly pimps, but we're not. However, it is important to have a layout of what you WANT be and what makes you happy, and then work on THAT.

Its one thing to KNOW what to do, but another to FEEL it. Its different, and that difference remains the biggest problem for all of us.

I'm working hard on being congruent with my self and searching for happiness. When I come to an end and can say, you know what, I'm a man, and I'm COMPLETELY happy with everything, then I will post on how you guys can do this too.

Its a very personal experience from false realizations->real realizations->change->manhood. But I'll try to see that, IF i achieve this, I will post on how I did it so you guys don't have to waste all the time pondering this as I have. Its complicated stuff, lol.

Another thing.

1. Its ALWAYS your fault.

If a girl doesnt like you, thats fine, there is more. If a girl PLAYED you, its YOUR fault because YOU got played. If you got friendzoned, and you made it painful for yourself, its YOUR fault. Its not HER fault. Never worry about other peoples behaviours, focus on your own. Nuff said :D
 

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This is a normal situation ... to be frustrated with our lives until its the way we want it to be

Its difficult in the meantime though but you have to keep your chin up and keep hoping for the best and do everything you can to make small / slow changes because change does come slowly

Firstly you definitely need to get out more ... Are there any social groups on Facebook or events you can go to

I like to use Facebook to keep up with events and there are some groups on there specifically to get people out and about and socialising with each other

( I even run one in London! )

But my life is not exactly how I'd like it either - I am skint with no job and single

Its not that I am not intelligent or attractive or sociable - I just haven't met the guy of my dreams yet either

A job should be easier to find but its hard to find a dream job too I reckon

So until I do I just have to soldier on and make the most of life
 
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