Popularity
Wow. I never knew just how easy it really is to get popular. I'm assuming if you're reading this that you're not *really* popular. First you must come to grips that the best way to get noticed by the females is to get popular. With winter break coming right up, this is the perfect opportunity to change yourself for the better and move up in the social ranks. The way I see it, you can do it lonewolf style (like I did) or try to get into a popluar clique (but cliques are sort of sucky, plus if you look at the most popular people, they usually don't have a certain "clique").
So let's start off:
The Clothes Make the Man:
Seriously. This is what got me started. While it may not mean much to you, you have to learn and appreciate just what clothes can do for you. They aren't just for keeping you warm, rather they're an expression of your personality. If you're introverted, you should definitely make a point with your clothes, because I'm guessing you may not be the BEST people person around (a lot of introverts can be good with people, but some just aren't -i.e. the really shy ones). So you have to use clothes to sort of stand out and be a bit different. Try getting something that you never thought you'd wear, but still isn't too over the edge. Wear something that just describes and suits you while not making you totally seem different. You don't want to be odd, you want to be "cool ****". (well whatever)
Look, Do, and Be Your Best:
Other than clothes, make sure that you look your best and keep good hygiene. Always feel your best, and you'll always be your best. The way you perceive yourself is ultimately the way you want others to see you; if you see your self in a negative way it just won't work out. Project the way you feel about yourself to others and soon you'll be getting where you want to go. Fast.
Also, I'm sure you can find plenty of stuff on this site about posture and such, find out a bit more aobut it and copy it. But briefly, I'll explain:
The more space you take up (without looking stupid), the better. The smoother your movements (ie turning your head, taking nice steps etc.) the better.
Do your best to look confident, even if you aren't. Soon, you'll actually feel confident, and you won't have to pretend any longer (this is true, and it usually doesn't take too long -for me it took about two weeks max). But you really have to act confident, really confident, you don't have to be confident, you just have to act like you have the world by the ass. What I did was I basically just overflowed with confidence (acting that way), and I guess somewhere along the road I just got used to it. And you can't give a **** no matter what. Don't give a **** about what people think (even though you do care about your popularity and this sort of goes against everything I've said). Don't let people's opinions get under your skin. You're the ****. They're not. Go out there and friggen act the way you've always wanted to act.
Make New Friends, Don't Burn Bridges:
Make new friends, and try not to lose old ones. The more people you know, and the more people that like you, the "cooler" you'll be. Be nice to everyone except for the ******* that's nice to no one. Talk to new people when the opportunity arises, but not out of the blue for no reason (although if you can come up with a reason, which is easy enough to do, then by all means talk). Make eye contact with a lot of people, as it seemed to help me both make friends and build confidence. Don't be afraid of people talking about you. In fact, that's usually a positive thing seeing as how being talked about (unless in a negative way) adds to social proof.
Be Congenial:
Yes, be congenial and humorous. The best way to get from the bottom to the top is by making people laugh and have fun. Everyone has a unique sense of humor -just find what works for you, listen to/watch stand up comedy; use some of the stuff and see what works best for you.
Smile like crazy. can't stress this enough. Make everyone around you feel lucky to be in your presence. That's key. If you can learn to excel at making others around you feel good, then you'll hardly ever have to worry about social problems. At the heart of being popular isn't how you feel, but how you make others around you feel. If everyone around you is happy, you'll be more popular than sliced bread.
Finally,
Add your own style to the mix and figure out what you think would work best for you. Getting popular is much easier than it sounds. The best time to start a major change is after a break (a long one). So get out there and find yourself.
If you have anything to add to this, or any further comments, please post them.
Wow. I never knew just how easy it really is to get popular. I'm assuming if you're reading this that you're not *really* popular. First you must come to grips that the best way to get noticed by the females is to get popular. With winter break coming right up, this is the perfect opportunity to change yourself for the better and move up in the social ranks. The way I see it, you can do it lonewolf style (like I did) or try to get into a popluar clique (but cliques are sort of sucky, plus if you look at the most popular people, they usually don't have a certain "clique").
So let's start off:
The Clothes Make the Man:
Seriously. This is what got me started. While it may not mean much to you, you have to learn and appreciate just what clothes can do for you. They aren't just for keeping you warm, rather they're an expression of your personality. If you're introverted, you should definitely make a point with your clothes, because I'm guessing you may not be the BEST people person around (a lot of introverts can be good with people, but some just aren't -i.e. the really shy ones). So you have to use clothes to sort of stand out and be a bit different. Try getting something that you never thought you'd wear, but still isn't too over the edge. Wear something that just describes and suits you while not making you totally seem different. You don't want to be odd, you want to be "cool ****". (well whatever)
Look, Do, and Be Your Best:
Other than clothes, make sure that you look your best and keep good hygiene. Always feel your best, and you'll always be your best. The way you perceive yourself is ultimately the way you want others to see you; if you see your self in a negative way it just won't work out. Project the way you feel about yourself to others and soon you'll be getting where you want to go. Fast.
Also, I'm sure you can find plenty of stuff on this site about posture and such, find out a bit more aobut it and copy it. But briefly, I'll explain:
The more space you take up (without looking stupid), the better. The smoother your movements (ie turning your head, taking nice steps etc.) the better.
Do your best to look confident, even if you aren't. Soon, you'll actually feel confident, and you won't have to pretend any longer (this is true, and it usually doesn't take too long -for me it took about two weeks max). But you really have to act confident, really confident, you don't have to be confident, you just have to act like you have the world by the ass. What I did was I basically just overflowed with confidence (acting that way), and I guess somewhere along the road I just got used to it. And you can't give a **** no matter what. Don't give a **** about what people think (even though you do care about your popularity and this sort of goes against everything I've said). Don't let people's opinions get under your skin. You're the ****. They're not. Go out there and friggen act the way you've always wanted to act.
Make New Friends, Don't Burn Bridges:
Make new friends, and try not to lose old ones. The more people you know, and the more people that like you, the "cooler" you'll be. Be nice to everyone except for the ******* that's nice to no one. Talk to new people when the opportunity arises, but not out of the blue for no reason (although if you can come up with a reason, which is easy enough to do, then by all means talk). Make eye contact with a lot of people, as it seemed to help me both make friends and build confidence. Don't be afraid of people talking about you. In fact, that's usually a positive thing seeing as how being talked about (unless in a negative way) adds to social proof.
Be Congenial:
Yes, be congenial and humorous. The best way to get from the bottom to the top is by making people laugh and have fun. Everyone has a unique sense of humor -just find what works for you, listen to/watch stand up comedy; use some of the stuff and see what works best for you.
Smile like crazy. can't stress this enough. Make everyone around you feel lucky to be in your presence. That's key. If you can learn to excel at making others around you feel good, then you'll hardly ever have to worry about social problems. At the heart of being popular isn't how you feel, but how you make others around you feel. If everyone around you is happy, you'll be more popular than sliced bread.
Finally,
Add your own style to the mix and figure out what you think would work best for you. Getting popular is much easier than it sounds. The best time to start a major change is after a break (a long one). So get out there and find yourself.
If you have anything to add to this, or any further comments, please post them.