I used to post on sosuave all the time a little over 6 years ago. I’ve come a long way with women, and have learned a lot over the years. The following is my current situation.
I work at a bank and for the past few years this hot, beautiful girl started regularly coming into the bank and I have progressively got to know her pretty well. At this point in time, she exclusively comes to ONLY see me for help and even waits for me. Let me tell you, this is THE girl I fantasize about. She is my ideal hottie--20 years old, perfect tight little body, super cool and funny. Of all the girls in the world I could possibly fantasize about, she is ALWAYS the one I go to. I have super high standards for cuteness and I live in a major city and see beautiful girls all the time, but this girl is my absolute ideal. We usually talk for a while and crack each other up and then she goes.
The thing is, I’m in a committed relationship of over six years with my current girlfriend. I love her, sex is still good, I’m still attracted to her, we live together and we get along very well. I could never cheat on her or hurt her in any way. SO, I’ve never made a move on this girl who comes into my work. I have simply just played it all off in my mind as a casual, friendly encounter that happens every now and then. Also, this girl is 10 years younger than me, so in the end, this girl has really just been a fantasy, and that is it.
But last week, this girl comes into my work and everything changes. I tell her I won’t be working at the bank anymore because I got a new job (which is true). I also tell her it might be the last time we ever see each other. She kind of looks at me for a second and says that it can’t be the last time and asks for a piece of paper and writes down her phone number. She somehow knows I’m in a relationship (I never told her) and says something cryptic like, “I know how this looks. I know you have a girlfriend” and then gives me the paper with her number where, in BOLD letters is also written, “DON’T FORGET TO PUT ME IN YOUR PHONE!”
She then proceeds to leave and tells me to call her.
THEN, she comes back a few days later, knowing it is going to be the last day of my job and is laughing with me and took my picture with her phone and asked me to give her a hug goodbye and kept saying how sad she is I was leaving and how she is going to come to my new work and find me. She also mentions that she had not correctly known the spelling of my last name and then writes it down on a piece of paper and says she is going to find me on Facebook and, based on the conversation, she has already been searching for me… UN-BELIEVEABLE!!
I was in shock. This is my dream girl and I would never have expected her to act like this towards me. Like I’ve said, she has just been a fantasy, but these two encounters made my wildest fantasies all of a sudden REAL. I used be just AWFUL with women and was depressed for years, and to now have a girl like this obsessed with ME is unreal.
I would love to just have sex with this girl, but I could never hurt my girlfriend, so it is just a lame situation.
SO, my question after all of this is, how do you guys in relationships deal with temptation? I have never been so faced with something like this is my life.
I work at a bank and for the past few years this hot, beautiful girl started regularly coming into the bank and I have progressively got to know her pretty well. At this point in time, she exclusively comes to ONLY see me for help and even waits for me. Let me tell you, this is THE girl I fantasize about. She is my ideal hottie--20 years old, perfect tight little body, super cool and funny. Of all the girls in the world I could possibly fantasize about, she is ALWAYS the one I go to. I have super high standards for cuteness and I live in a major city and see beautiful girls all the time, but this girl is my absolute ideal. We usually talk for a while and crack each other up and then she goes.
The thing is, I’m in a committed relationship of over six years with my current girlfriend. I love her, sex is still good, I’m still attracted to her, we live together and we get along very well. I could never cheat on her or hurt her in any way. SO, I’ve never made a move on this girl who comes into my work. I have simply just played it all off in my mind as a casual, friendly encounter that happens every now and then. Also, this girl is 10 years younger than me, so in the end, this girl has really just been a fantasy, and that is it.
But last week, this girl comes into my work and everything changes. I tell her I won’t be working at the bank anymore because I got a new job (which is true). I also tell her it might be the last time we ever see each other. She kind of looks at me for a second and says that it can’t be the last time and asks for a piece of paper and writes down her phone number. She somehow knows I’m in a relationship (I never told her) and says something cryptic like, “I know how this looks. I know you have a girlfriend” and then gives me the paper with her number where, in BOLD letters is also written, “DON’T FORGET TO PUT ME IN YOUR PHONE!”
She then proceeds to leave and tells me to call her.
THEN, she comes back a few days later, knowing it is going to be the last day of my job and is laughing with me and took my picture with her phone and asked me to give her a hug goodbye and kept saying how sad she is I was leaving and how she is going to come to my new work and find me. She also mentions that she had not correctly known the spelling of my last name and then writes it down on a piece of paper and says she is going to find me on Facebook and, based on the conversation, she has already been searching for me… UN-BELIEVEABLE!!
I was in shock. This is my dream girl and I would never have expected her to act like this towards me. Like I’ve said, she has just been a fantasy, but these two encounters made my wildest fantasies all of a sudden REAL. I used be just AWFUL with women and was depressed for years, and to now have a girl like this obsessed with ME is unreal.
I would love to just have sex with this girl, but I could never hurt my girlfriend, so it is just a lame situation.
SO, my question after all of this is, how do you guys in relationships deal with temptation? I have never been so faced with something like this is my life.