How to deal with dreaded "i need space" ?

[Londonman09]

So long story short.. A girl i have a storied past with recently became single. She ididnt run to me but def looked like it was moving that way until she abruptly pulled back. I got the "i need to be alone, figure out what i im doing, move into my own place.. But when i do id,like to get together and clear the air, althh Im not sure what that entails" This was fair enough and Ive backed off other than a few short convos/ teasing. She did pull the whole.. Are you asking me out the other day when i was suggesting she get out.

My question is.. Most would suggest i have oneitis and to move on.. But i still think that the goal of learning this is the get a great girl ine the end. Im past my whoring around days and would like to date this specific girl. So what is the Go nc? Get her out n bed her? play hard to get? Im sure if i ignored her for a week shed come out to keep me interested but i really need to know what the best thing is. One of chick friends says i should disapear and,make this girl come chasing me. This has work in the past with her.

 

[betheman]

she has given you the answer, she wants space...give her it, lots of it, dissapear, if she is into you, she will come running, if not then get on with your life, you cant force attraction, you can only give it a nudge.

 

[Eternal_water]

I agree drop completely off the radar, go entirely no contact.

 

[SoldMySoul]

I agree with others as I am doing the same damn thing right now... You have absolutely zero other options. Make her think she is a Kosmonaut!! Space hopefully will get awful lonely for her even if she is out with another male astronaut... you get it?

 

[Londonman09]

Okay.exactly.what.i.was.thinking At.one point she.thought i was her soul mate (if you take what she.says as truth)

I kinda screwed up then... When she.did the whole... Oooh is that your way of asking me out? ... I.said... Well im going out tn, but your welcome to join if you're going to be a debbie downer... But then she.said she.was busy. I made.fun of her for it but have not talked since... Ill stay 100% nc... Just dont want to get pulled back in n shut.down again.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Oh yes, this is a super super easy one. As others have mentioned, give her space and lots and lots of space. Go ghost. Be gone. Then you will know if you matter to her. The absolute worse thing you can do is to not give her space and to instead chase her.

Be gone.

 

[In2theGame]

in my own experience. There is no way around the i need space line.... EXCEPT... Going completely cold and *poof* gone from thin air. As soon as you hear, "I need space".. if its in person.. do not say a damn word, just get up and leave. if its on the phone, Hang up, if its a text or email, never reply back. Its extremely hard to detach yourself like that if you have feelings or love the person, very very difficult. but IMO there is no other way. Its F*kin crazy but this tactic works in your favor in some illogical way but hey,... women dont operate on logic do they?

 

[MM92]

Listen to her and give her space. I speak from experience from both sides when I say that is definitely the thing to do. By not giving her space will only push her further away unfortunately.

 

[nismo-4]

^^^Read this again.^^^

Simple ass sh*t. When a woman says that, go ghost. :yes:

Give her space, move the f**k on, and spin more plates! :rockon:

Case dismissed.

 

[J Roc]

Its over

 

[ezio]

Don't allow yourself to be friendzoned by maintaining contact. move on

 

[SgtSplacker]

Give her space, but if there is any way of reaching her take advantage of it to DHV. For example if she is on your facebook go take some pictures of you doing something cool that she would enjoy too.

"Hey guys lets go white water rafting... no, i'm not crazy... no really it's on me lets go. Hold my camera would ya?" If that doesn't work give up you lost it. Worst case scenario you have a bunch of cool new pics for social networking. Maybe use those pics to nail another girl and DHV like that. Never admit defeat, never pursue failure...