how to deal with being ghosted

[Mazer]

I want a relationship bros

saying it was me who fvcked it up just made me feel 1000x worse lol. I mean in the beginning I played the game but she never ever texted me first so I went weak and started chasing her. if she ghosts me forever wouldn't that be just sh!tty of her. or is it only me who thinks this? I mean I put up money on a vacation that she was so adamant about going and she just gonna fvcking ghost me. isnt that kind of sh!try come on make me feel better here

First, you never take a chick on a vacation unless you guys are exclusive. That was just a silly move on your part. I did that shyt when I was AFC and guess what I got ghosted too. Dont spend a dime on bishes until they earn it.

You put this chick on a pedestal and the only way your going to move on is with time and dating other women. On the first few dates, you are going to compare your new women with the bish you put on a pedestal, especially if they aren't as hot as the one that ghosted you. This will pass, keep dating and with time you will get over her. Also, be prepared to experience this a few more times while you date. You are currently in the learning phase, its a bumpy road.

 

[Dingo]

 

[Igetit!]

I want a relationship bros

There's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship. The problem is the way you're going about trying to make a relationship happen.

You're needy. You're clingy. You're whiny. That's offensive to women. Being around a needy,clingy man is like being in a bathroom after someone just took a sh1t. That's why she "ghosted" you. What....you expect her to happily and gleefully stay in a bathroom with no windows after someone just took a dump?

saying it was me who fvcked it up just made me feel 1000x worse lol.

Oh......so saying it was you who caused this trainwreck makes you feel bad? GOOD. I'll say it again then.....

It WAS YOU.....Ryan Adams. You...and you ALONE f*cked this up. This girl did WHAT ANY GIRL WOULD DO when faced with a weak,sniveling worm of a man....she high-tailed it out of there. That make you feel worse? Hope so. Maybe we can heap enough pain on you to motivate you TO CHANGE and GROW into the type of man a woman would want to be around instead of a wimp of a man begging for attention.

And another thing.....

You SHOULD BE HAPPY knowing the truth. If it was you who caused this,and you know that...and you know what you did to cause it,you should be elated with joy. Cause if it's you,that means you have TOTAL CONTROL in how to fix it and turn things around. If I'm the problem,then dammit.....TELL ME.

I'd rather find out it's me,and take the steps necessary to fix things,than not know what the problem is,and keep screwing up girl after girl,opportunity after opportunity....and never knowing WHY things keep falling apart over and over again.

I mean in the beginning I played the game but she never ever texted me first so I went weak and started chasing her.

Well,you said it yourself. You said....

"I went weak......and started chasing her". What was she supposed to do....let herself get caught by a weak man?

Would you let yourself get caught by an OBESE,unattractive,smelly whale of a woman?

if she ghosts me forever wouldn't that be just sh!tty of her.

No it wouldn't. She should be out dancing in the streets that she got away from you. Dude....you gotta understand.....

In your current state,all you would have been was a thorn in her side,a PROBLEM in her life. Buggin' her every 10 minutes about a date,or not responding to a text......who wants to deal with someone like that???

You say maybe you dodged a bullet with her. No....she's the one who "dodged a bullet". Or more accurately,she outran it.

or is it only me who thinks this?

Umm.....I think it's pretty much only you.

I mean I put up money on a vacation that she was so adamant about going and she just gonna fvcking ghost me. isnt that kind of sh!try come on make me feel better here

So you put up money for a vacation for the two of you,then she bailed..causing the money to be wasted....

That was sh1tty.....I'll concede that. It was...you're right. But WHHHHHHHY do you think that happened....why do you think she did that?

You said she was adamant and happy about going on the vacation you planned. Maybe she was. However,she didn't know you were going to change and become weak and needy. You think she wants to go on a one on one vacation with someone like that?


I'm NOT JUSTIFYING what she did in ditching the vacation,I'm just EXPLAINING it. She didn't want to be in a room with a weak,needy man any more than you'd want to be in one with an obese woman who's smiling and winking at you.


You need to re-read Marmel's post in post #5. He was RIGHT. If you don't take a little time to look in the mirror and work on your own flaws,you might as well get used to this type of thing happening.

 

[Glassguy]

ok I got it thats the way I am though I thought she enjoyed everything I was doing I guess she did until she kept ditching me for her friends constantly thing was I never blew her phone up or anything like that. she eventually will respond to me to make some excuse up about why she did what she did so it wont awkward in public when I do see her what should I say am to her. absolutly nothing?

You did blow her phone up. I read your text examples you put on here days ago. You double texted, told her shyte that you should never tell a chick (asking her how long since last relationship, telling her about fvcking your ex on a boat (wtf?) and telling her your every move).

She eventually responds to keep you from sending unanswered text after text. She was blowing you off long ago but you didnt realize it. And to hope you dont act like a needy retread when you see her out. She knows that you're not taking the hint very well.

You need to: initiate your interest early on. Stop initiating so much. Maybe 30% should be you initiating texts/calls. If she initiates it's fine to text but set up the next date and then have to run. Let her initiate again, again you respond, a few texts in you get busy and tell her you're looking forward to seeing her on the scheduled date and hit the stop button.

You will never tell her useless info about your day that some new chick doesnt want to hear and you wont be double texting if she is initiating.

And your exes and the word relationship should not even be in your vocabulary unless she asks you something about them. Even then, early on (first 30-45 days or 5-7 dates) you should have a witty response blowing it off.

You are way to invested in these women and they know it. Until you get busy with your own life and be more scarce by following what I just laid out early on, you will ruin any chance with any interested women.
For the love of everything you should be escalating. By dates 4-5 if you're not hitting it....your doing something majorly wrong.

 

[Banelord]

Youtube nice guy vs incel...this is you.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

ok chick I was talkin to made plans with a d set up a vacay completely and utterly ghosted me. she texted me last wednesday and i mentioned like an idiot mentioned a date Friday she said yes let's do it then never responded at all. I then texted her at night saying " you know just saying no would be easier on both of us then just standing me up. I'm done reaching out to you I'm basically talking to myself anyway" then deleted her number and facebook snap etc. fvck her. I then saw her at a bar sat night and she literally saw me and snuck out and ****ing left immediately after seeing me. how weird is that? so fvcking odd. anyway enough about her. not gonna lie though this one kinda stings I liked her alot. we got along fvcking great... just need to vent like a pvssy on here fellas. weird thing is house I did work l today ended up being her fvcking grandmothers I met her her aunt and uncle....complete white trash maybe I dodged a bullet with her

Ain't doing it right.

She's nearing cratered smv with each passing day. Fertility and biology, the same thing that has her disillusioned atm is a pendulum. It will swing back even harder the other way.

What to do? Get babes. Top form Smv. Acquire resources, self knowledge, explore consciousness, create the ideal lifestyle outside women. You can then spam approach. Purely a numbers game. Obviously, turn on the charm. Pull or next set. Repeat till death or **** falls off.


Op, no sweeter feel running into cratered Smv woman from the past, fat as ****, bulking season, single mom, and you got a girl on your arm newly 19.

Its like the universe is trolling her. The best way to get back at her? Get a ****ing life.

Step your game up.

#nextset

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

If you are ghosted you accept reality and stop pursuing, you actually stop thinking about her.

The most stupid thing you can do is send butthurt messages, what do you expect to get out of it?

You inner frame is weak and you should work on it, we all get ghosted sooner or later and if you happen to see the girl who ghosted you somewhere you simply pretend she is not there, if she gets close and say hi, you say hi and go back to your business.

All you got with your message was her playing the victim with her friends while actually boosting about guys getting mad for her rejection.

Yes, agree with the above.

The more you put yourself out there, the more you will get rejected. Men just need to man up and develop a bit of martial discipline about it - stiff upper lip, shoulders back etc. It's tough at first but you soon develop a resiliency in yourself.

I got on very well with a lady for the last few months. Always tried to keep a flirtatious edge to it. It was always a bit of an effort to see her from time to time, so to bring things to a head, I invited her around for dinner. She blocked me. I was a bit surprised, but just took it on the chin, and have proceeded to 'open up diplomatic relations' with a couple of other ladies.