BGMan
Master Don Juan
I have heard lots about "Rules Girls". Some believe they're simply female DJs. Others think they're control freaks or attention wh0res. Well, who's right?
I bought a copy of the Rules -- even told the guy at the checkout that I was "reading the enemy's plans". He gave a sympathetic smirk, and said "Yeah, pretty scary stuff."
I am sure that there are lots of attention wh0res, strokers, and control freaks who use the Rules. These are bogus Rules Girls that I don't consider. DJ techniques will weed them out fairly quickly, in the same way they'd weed out attention wh0res who haven't read the Rules. However, many women who use them are simply looking for a good man to marry. An AFC may find Rules Girls impossible, but we're DJs. We can handle ANY woman.
Why date a Rules Girl? Well, primarily because if they're so hard-to-get, you can be pretty sure that if you have her heart, she won't be as likely to fvck the Brad Pitt clone down at the bar than if she was a slut. They're looking for a good man to marry, so they will tend to be very loyal and supportive, and good mothers for your children, if you want to go that route.
Okay, now here's the scoop. The stated plan of the Rules is to get Mr. Right so enamored with the woman that he will ask her to marry him, and that he will love her more than vice versa. It appeals to many women's APPARENT need for an AFC. It is basically the mirror image of Doc Love's System.
But as we all know, women don't want an AFC. They react to DJs. It is ironic that on page 7, titled "Men are different from women", the next several paragraphs sound exactly like something out of Doc Love, switched around for women. Doc may have a similar section of his System titled "Women are different from men". How ironic.
The bottom line is, their claims to the contrary notwithstanding, that DJ techniques work just as well on Rules Girls as on other women. The difference is if you DJ a Rules Girl, she generally won't let on that she's into you all that much, even though she's just about dying to jump your bones.
So what do you do differently with a Rules Girl from a girl who's, well, easier?
When you date a girl that you suspect of being a Rules Girl, Doc Love's three C's still apply -- Confidence, Control and Challenge. After all, if you were just another lowly friend, she wouldn't be using the Rules on you! Consider it a good sign. And, of course, if you want quick sex, you're dating other easier chicks on the side, RIIGGHHTT??
A careful examination of the "Always End Phone Calls First" Rule reveals that if you're a true DJ, call to set up a date, and then get off, she won't be able to end the call first! It takes less than two minutes to set up a date (if you plan ahead of time), but Rules Girls will generally wait for five minutes before cutting the guy off. A real DJ will get off the phone and leave the Rules Girl with a higher Interest Level! There is no way for the Rules Girl to cut him off; the only option would be to suddenly say "I have to go" right in the middle of setting up a date. Only a messed-up control freak would do this, so if she does, NEXT her. Not accepting a Saturday date after Wednesday? I have a policy of always planning dates at least three days in advance anyway, so I pass this Rule by default.
As for ending dates first, this is similar as phone calls. A DJ won't let a first date drag on for an hour and allow the Rules Girl to terminate it. He should end it in a half hour or 45 minutes, and leave her wanting more. Plus, there's nothing in the Rules book against kissing on the first date. All it says is to keep a kiss short. Doc Love says that if the girl allows you to plant a hot one on her lips, she likes you. Rules Girls allow this.
Then there's the notorious Rule about dumping a guy who doesn't give her a gift for Valentine's Day or her birthday. How to deal with this? Well, the Rules book itself states that it doesn't have to be expensive jewelry, if the guy gives her a nice romantic card (but hold the sappy poems... that's AFC) she will appreciate it. Many AFCs will go all out and give her stuff for Christmas, Thanksgiving, her dog's birthday, and so on. That's anti-Challenge, and the Rules book tacitly says that's not necessary! Also, do other little things for her, ESPECIALLY if your Rules Girl appears to be doing the same for you.
The Rules book also states that it's the man who is supposed to say "I love you" first. But Doc Love says that's an absolute no-no. I'm going with Doc Love on this one. A Rules Girl who really loves you won't care that you don't say "I love you" to her. In the old movie "Life with Father", we're confronted with the hilarious scene where the father/husband casually says, "We've been married for twenty years and I've loved you every minute of it." The wife gets ecstaticly happy because he NEVER said anything about loving her before, and yet they were still happily married! The "L" word is not necessary.
So, in summary, dating a Rules Girl who actually loves you isn't as hard as it may seem. The DJ techniques work just as well with them. The ones we hear horror stories about are the bad apples, the control freaks.
Therefore, Rules Girls are nothing I can't handle.
BGMan
[This message has been edited by BGMan (edited 07-14-2002).]
I bought a copy of the Rules -- even told the guy at the checkout that I was "reading the enemy's plans". He gave a sympathetic smirk, and said "Yeah, pretty scary stuff."
I am sure that there are lots of attention wh0res, strokers, and control freaks who use the Rules. These are bogus Rules Girls that I don't consider. DJ techniques will weed them out fairly quickly, in the same way they'd weed out attention wh0res who haven't read the Rules. However, many women who use them are simply looking for a good man to marry. An AFC may find Rules Girls impossible, but we're DJs. We can handle ANY woman.
Why date a Rules Girl? Well, primarily because if they're so hard-to-get, you can be pretty sure that if you have her heart, she won't be as likely to fvck the Brad Pitt clone down at the bar than if she was a slut. They're looking for a good man to marry, so they will tend to be very loyal and supportive, and good mothers for your children, if you want to go that route.
Okay, now here's the scoop. The stated plan of the Rules is to get Mr. Right so enamored with the woman that he will ask her to marry him, and that he will love her more than vice versa. It appeals to many women's APPARENT need for an AFC. It is basically the mirror image of Doc Love's System.
But as we all know, women don't want an AFC. They react to DJs. It is ironic that on page 7, titled "Men are different from women", the next several paragraphs sound exactly like something out of Doc Love, switched around for women. Doc may have a similar section of his System titled "Women are different from men". How ironic.
The bottom line is, their claims to the contrary notwithstanding, that DJ techniques work just as well on Rules Girls as on other women. The difference is if you DJ a Rules Girl, she generally won't let on that she's into you all that much, even though she's just about dying to jump your bones.
So what do you do differently with a Rules Girl from a girl who's, well, easier?
When you date a girl that you suspect of being a Rules Girl, Doc Love's three C's still apply -- Confidence, Control and Challenge. After all, if you were just another lowly friend, she wouldn't be using the Rules on you! Consider it a good sign. And, of course, if you want quick sex, you're dating other easier chicks on the side, RIIGGHHTT??
A careful examination of the "Always End Phone Calls First" Rule reveals that if you're a true DJ, call to set up a date, and then get off, she won't be able to end the call first! It takes less than two minutes to set up a date (if you plan ahead of time), but Rules Girls will generally wait for five minutes before cutting the guy off. A real DJ will get off the phone and leave the Rules Girl with a higher Interest Level! There is no way for the Rules Girl to cut him off; the only option would be to suddenly say "I have to go" right in the middle of setting up a date. Only a messed-up control freak would do this, so if she does, NEXT her. Not accepting a Saturday date after Wednesday? I have a policy of always planning dates at least three days in advance anyway, so I pass this Rule by default.
As for ending dates first, this is similar as phone calls. A DJ won't let a first date drag on for an hour and allow the Rules Girl to terminate it. He should end it in a half hour or 45 minutes, and leave her wanting more. Plus, there's nothing in the Rules book against kissing on the first date. All it says is to keep a kiss short. Doc Love says that if the girl allows you to plant a hot one on her lips, she likes you. Rules Girls allow this.
Then there's the notorious Rule about dumping a guy who doesn't give her a gift for Valentine's Day or her birthday. How to deal with this? Well, the Rules book itself states that it doesn't have to be expensive jewelry, if the guy gives her a nice romantic card (but hold the sappy poems... that's AFC) she will appreciate it. Many AFCs will go all out and give her stuff for Christmas, Thanksgiving, her dog's birthday, and so on. That's anti-Challenge, and the Rules book tacitly says that's not necessary! Also, do other little things for her, ESPECIALLY if your Rules Girl appears to be doing the same for you.
The Rules book also states that it's the man who is supposed to say "I love you" first. But Doc Love says that's an absolute no-no. I'm going with Doc Love on this one. A Rules Girl who really loves you won't care that you don't say "I love you" to her. In the old movie "Life with Father", we're confronted with the hilarious scene where the father/husband casually says, "We've been married for twenty years and I've loved you every minute of it." The wife gets ecstaticly happy because he NEVER said anything about loving her before, and yet they were still happily married! The "L" word is not necessary.
So, in summary, dating a Rules Girl who actually loves you isn't as hard as it may seem. The DJ techniques work just as well with them. The ones we hear horror stories about are the bad apples, the control freaks.
Therefore, Rules Girls are nothing I can't handle.
BGMan
[This message has been edited by BGMan (edited 07-14-2002).]
