How to create a FB

[Oscar Wilde]

Hey guys (& girl),

Story:

I had a ONS with a girl from diff part of the country.

Every 6 or 7 weeks she's going to be over here visiting. But in a few months she's moving to a diff country.

We got on great, but not LTR style. Had good time in the sack.

I have her number & email addr, have exchanged short messages on phone, nothing mad.

Ok, so I'd like to make her a fsck buddy & I'd like your ideas on how to do so. Should I just mail her & tell her to make sure she looks me up when she's back here? Or something different.

I played DJ almost perfectly that night, so I've a good basis to work from.

Cheers,
Oscar.

 

[tamales]

Hi Oscar- Chances are if it was good and she has nothing else going on while in town, she'll call you up. And the best way to make a women a **** buddy is to simply treat her like one. I mean be very nice but no fancy dinners or flowers. You should call and check in every so often to say hi.. looking forward to getting together while your in town next.. bla bla bla.. but when she is in town, simply suggest going to her place or having her over to yours. When you stick to the homebase, you know what's going to happen. If she says anything. Say and smile, say I just can't get enough of you. Never insult her.. At first she won't know she is just a **** buddy. She'll think oh he wants to spend all this time just with me.. Then after a while she will say, wait a minute.

But by then she'll be hooked. Just don't be a jerk. And if she grills you be as vague as possible...Say I like spending time with you. I can't get enough of you.. And like I always say,

push her up against the wall and take her.

Good luck!

PS If she already had a ONS with you, then she knows what the deal is and if she calls you again, she can't blame you for wanting just a fb. She asked for it.

 

[InLawsHateMe]

What I've done in the past is just treat her like a good buddy. Call her buddy. ...you know, like 'Hey buddy, how r u? ....hey bud, get me a beer... BUDDY!.... that's my last beer! ....jump my bones buddy.' ....and if she ask why you calling her this, just say 'Hey, you're my bud. ... I like you a lot.' If and when she starts to call you buddy too, that's a good sign and she think it's cute, and wants in your pants. Trust me on this one. I still have old 'f*ck buddies' that still call me buddy till this day. ..when you look at a relationship like it's nothing more than two good friends, it takes the pressure off of trying to establish what is not, you know what I mean? Hope it helps bro.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Hi guys,

I needed to dredge up this thread as some of my mates got me the slightest bit worried. Let me explain:

This ONS girl, Alison, lived about 100 miles from here when we hooked up 2 months ago. Since then, she has moved to another country close by, and has visited her home town a few times, but is coming down here for the first time next weekend

She and I have been in contact by mail and SMS texting, roughly 1 to 3 times a week, for the past 6 or 7 weeks, no text stalking, just friendly messages.

Ok, so why am I worried? I was talking about the situation with a female friend of mine - she's a girl, but she's also "one of the lads" - one of the best wingman I've ever had (some of my mates are excellent). Anyway, I told her what was going on and what I was trying to achieve & she was concerned about both the amount that I'd been in contact with Alison, and what my plan was for meeting her again. I'm not so sure that she's right about the comms, she's been calling me "my friend" in emails, just been plain friendly but non romantic. Says she's looking forward to "meeting for a large drink" (we're Irish, this is a huge part of our culture/social life).

My original plan was to meet here when she was out with her girlfriends down here, and head to my place at the end of the night, but this is contrary to the advice of Tamales and ILHM above. I am now thinking about asking her to call over to my place before she goes out with the girls - maybe I could then go in and have a few drinks with them or something - my wingman of that first night wants to have a few drinks with them too, one of them in particular was trying madly to get his attention and he played real cool that night so he wants a shot this time. I owe it to him to give him the chance (maybe you remember my ONS post - this is the guy who drove us home & turned off the ignition to help me close).

Anyway, to make a long story short, I'm sure you can see that I've not really thought enough about the details of the what's happening next weekend, and I really need some help on this - details specifically.

Let's assume she's coming down on Friday night (I don't know yet). Do I meet her then or Sat? If Fri, she'll probably go straight out on the beer - I'm not sure she'd agree to call over to my place first, she'll want to chat with her friends. So I should meet her late Friday? What about Saturday? You can see where I'm going with these questions - please give me your feedback here.

My objectives are to have this girl as an FB in future, not stalking me and thinking she's my GF - I think I'm more than half-way to the goal, but I don't want to mess it up in the final straight!

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Finally, aside from all that, I'd like to thank all the contributers - both past & current posters to this site - it's an invaluable resource. Personally, I'm now having 1000% more success than I did a few short months ago! Props to all y'all

Thanks,
Oscar.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

bump

Cmon guys, no advice?

 

[tamales]

Hey Oscar, and well, my advice was not only go to her place. Sure she can come to yours but just don't pack an overnight bag. Especially, if you want her just as a FB. Honestly, I think until you know where she really stands. She could be into you now or not and see you as just a friend. But typically, women don't email men that they don't really know that well as friends. I mean I don't know but maybe she is on the fence and waiting for you to bust a move. My ? is have you tossed out some sexual teasing or joked at all with her. If not, then might be to late. I say, just wait and see and let her CALL YOU when she arrives. She has your number and if she is into you she'll call. Especially, if you and she have been comminicating as much as you say. Also, by not calling and setting something up she might be the one to get a little nervous. NOt you. She might sense that you really like her so turns the tables and just have fun. No pressure and go by her actions. Not words.

Good luck!

PS DIdn't you have a GF, a fairly serious one??? What happened and why would you consider her only a FB and nothing more.Just curious. But again, good luck!Seems you could find someone closer to F and well, you might get if not already ON with her.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Hi Tamales!

Thanks, good to get some feedback. To answer your questions: yes, I had a 1yr LDR with a girl I really liked but had to end it, distance was killing. So now I'm enjoying the single life, but regular action is nice, so FB is nice to have!

Yes, I have thrown in some teasing and suggestive remarks, moreso at the start, I guess I need to throw a bit more into the works, thanks for that point.

I don't think I have enough in common w/ this chick to have her as a GF. She's moved countries right now and she knows I'm thinking about heading stateside, so I reckon she knows nothing serious is gonna happen, but a bit of fun is nice, and I hope she's thinkin that way.

She's arriving here on Fri night, but staying w/ her girlfriends. She said she didn't think she'd be out Fri but "you never know".

I'm trying to figure my plan of action. I was originally gonna suggest we 2 meet for a drink early in town on Sat & bring her back to my place before we headed out. Now I'm not so sure about that, maybe it's a bad idea. I might say that I'm out on Friday night with the guys and see if she'll meet up then. We can take the rest of the weekend from there. I'm confident of my skills so once I get her home she'll be there for the weekend

I'm not so gone on the idea of just not calling her, waiting for her to call. I know she's here, she knows I know, it's just pointless game playing as far as I can see - have you any strong reason for saying that?

Any thoughts? Thanks for your help so far!
Osc.

 

[tamales]

If you are sure, then call. Or I'll bet she will. Either way, looks like someone is getting laid or possibly, this weekend. Good luck. I say, follow you own instinct on this one. You seem to have it going on and together.

Best of luck Oscar and keep us posted.