Doesn't being skinny/not strong make the job harder for being the alpha male? Like isn't it harder cause if you are too much of an ******* you will start getting a beating, or some of the big guys will say "shut the fvck up idiot", just because they are not smart enough to say anything else. I mean is it possible to be the Alpha Dominant Male WITHOUT being strong or tuff ??
How to be the Alpha Dominant Male
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squirrels
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It helps because of reasons that you're saying...because AFCs WILL often resort to physical threats. But it's not impossible to be small and the Alpha Male. It's just a different sort of challenge.
Being big and tough alone won't make you Alpha, either.
Maybe you should hit the gym if it bugs you that much. If this is a problem in your eyes, work toward fixing it. It's well within your power.
Being big and tough alone won't make you Alpha, either.
Maybe you should hit the gym if it bugs you that much. If this is a problem in your eyes, work toward fixing it. It's well within your power.
BobbDobbs
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The "tough guy" schtick only works to a certain age -- like maybe high school. By college age it is over for "tough guys." Then other skills that don't involve physical combat determine who is a leader.
After high school, it is almost unheard of for guys to determine social standing by threats of violence, let alone actual fights. (Exceptions would include biker bars and the mafia.)
So no, in general, dominance in adult life is mental, not physical.
After high school, it is almost unheard of for guys to determine social standing by threats of violence, let alone actual fights. (Exceptions would include biker bars and the mafia.)
So no, in general, dominance in adult life is mental, not physical.
drixsa
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see the difference would be that an alpha male doesnt care how he is percieved by others
he is respected by his words and his actions not by flexing his muscles
dont get me wrong it cant hurt to be muscular but it is far from a requirement
he is respected by his words and his actions not by flexing his muscles
dont get me wrong it cant hurt to be muscular but it is far from a requirement
BobbDobbs
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Well, remembering back a zillion years to my highschool days, the really tough mean guys didn't exactly command a large following of girls. On the other hand, this short guy with a quick and sarcastic wit was obviously dominant in whatever classroom he was in, including with the bigger tough guys. They could have kicked his a** but they never even threatened it.
Chicks don't all like bullies. So it is still attitude more than sheer muscle power.
Chicks don't all like bullies. So it is still attitude more than sheer muscle power.
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Right on the money.
dionysius_d
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Physical form is only one form of power.
An 80 year old can be more powerful than a boy.. different form.
An 80 year old can be more powerful than a boy.. different form.
intel200
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I agree with previous posts, but having combat skills shouls be a must for all men of all ages. I mean, never look for a fight. Avoid at all costs. But, you have to bea able to defend yourself and your honor. Nothing will b*tch you up quicker than getting that azz whipped by a similar sized guy and knowing you were helpless.
