How to approach in this situation (cliffs)

[Prodigy746]

I am not new to approaching girls but i have never been able to approach girls when something simillar happens. I am sure many of you experience this and was wondering if anybody knows best way to approach.

So today i am about to leave school from the library had a killer headache. Its already kind of late 6:30pm and there is literally nobody in the hallway other then this girl walking toward me. She is about 30 feet away and i see her looking at me. I am 6'3 and she is 5'8 at most so i know she is looking at me because she is looking up at my eyes. Its only me and her at this point coming toward each other.. . and after about 5-6 seconds of eye contact she pulls out her cellphone and starts looking at it. At this point i am like damn no point of stupping her and asking her where room xxx is, she prolly not interested.

I continue looking at her, mainly curious to see if she was as hot as i thought she was... So she is like 7-8 feet away, and i am still looking at her face trying to determine if she is as cute as i thought she would be... she is prolly a 8/10. At this point she stops looking at her cellphone looks up at me and gives me a nice smile.. . I AM LIKE FUUUUUUUUU didnt expect this... know she looked at me and smiled because i am 6'3 and she was like 5'8 at so when she was close she literally had to lift up her head and smile at me lol.. caught me looking straight at her face.

Brahs i literally stopped walking and contemplated going after her lol... i changed my mind figuring that would be kinda creepy and not knowing what to say or how to approach this situation at that time.

I was thinking i could have turned around said hey where is room xxx (make up a number). After she starts telling me that tell her , i honestly dont need to know where that is i been in this school for 3 years so i know where almost everything is i just needed some way to talk to you. My name is xxx whats yours and go from there.

-Cliffs-
-Leaving library at college, hallway is empty except for one girl heading toward me.
-I see her looking at me and i am looking at her.
-After 5-6 seconds of eye contact she pulls out her phone and starts looking at it (i am thinking she prolly not interested)
-When she is 7-8 feet away she looks up at me again and gives me a nice smile. Before i even have time to react she passes me
-I stop walking and contemplate going after her but ***** out.
- WHAT TO DO IN THIS KIND OF SITUATION AS IT HAPPENS 1-2 times a week ??

 

[P­ornography]

I am going to +1 because of the massive fail in this thread. You had the opportunity to rail that Hb8 right there in the library. You rationalized things way to f%#^ing much and I don't need to be a Casonova to tell you that.

Brahs i literally stopped walking and contemplated going after her lol... i changed my mind figuring that would be kinda creepy and not knowing what to say or how to approach this situation at that time.

Prodigy what THE HELL. What THE HELL IS THIS CRAP. I wish I could just smear your face in that quote in the hopes you never do it again.

She wanted your **** Prod. And from your own words she wanted it BADLY. At the very minimum--though I'm quite confident she'd jump your **** in that hallway if given the chance--she wanted you to talk to her.

Please start a conversation with her next time you get the chance. Although your proposed starter is pretty cheesy and lame, I believe your on the right track as most girls don't care what guys say, s'long as they're goodlooking which you appear to be.

 

[snowdog]

Just say 'hey what's up'. it's only as hard as you make it. You think too much and get in your own way. It doesn't matter what you say anyway. Be a man of action instead of thinking so much. Making things up about how it could had gone down is a completely useless thing to do. Push yourself out of your safe zone. If you do this often enough, it'll be autopilot after a while. It'll be hard at first, but all worthwhile things are.

 

[Prodigy746]

Guys i didnt know she was interested until it was too late. She gave me eye contact for 5-6 seconds then started looking at her phone. (honestly now that i think about it she was probobly nervous/had love self confidence) I assumed she wasnt interested.

By the time she looked up at me and gave me a smile i had like 1 second to stop her or she passed by. It cought me off guard. Actually this happens to me often in school, maybe like 2-3 times a week but many times there is other people around me to. This was the perfect setting because it was me and her only.

I know its too late to look back and think of what i would have said but i want to have a plan next time this happens.

 

[snowdog]

Don't have a plan. Having a plan does not work because you can't predict the situation. It's not physically possible. If it was, I'd win the lottery every week.

Live in the moment, and act immediately on what feels right. Don't hold yourself back by thinking what you should do, just ACT. You have nothing to lose.

I was just like you a couple of years ago and I know how frustrating it is.

Read "the power of now", which is an excellent book that helped me a lot on this.

 

[suavesuave]

Since you gave me some pointers long long long time ago back in 2008. I will give you my advice since I have collected already 15k approaches under my belt.

- You would have talked to her if you didn't have AA.
- You didn't follow the 3 seconds rule. Nowadays its the 0 second rule.
- You can always say hey, how is it going? If she doesn't reply then fine, just keep walking like nothing has happened.
- Don't swear. It brings negative thoughts.

It's ok man, you are learning.

 

[papawapa]

Dont wait for a woman to show interest before you decide to approach. You are the prize. Assume she is interested, as she should be.

You say you have 2 or 3 opportunities a week to approach. The rest of this week and next, take them. Walkbup to them and introduce yourself. Compliment them on something they are wearing, shirt, jewelry, etc. And throw in a neg. Something like, "hey, im joe. I really like your shirt, my mom has one just like it."

Stop making excuses and take a little initiative.

 

[El Payaso]

It's just an experience, Prodigy. Don't beat yourself up about it. Those 5 - 10 seconds can be very fleeting and we can sit in our armchairs and tell you you messed up but being out in the field is very different. You'll just know what to do next time and not flinch again.