How to actually tell if a father is a LEGIT strong one?

[RationalHandsome]

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A strong father figure is THE most important part of the screening process for any man considering long term bonding with a woman. I've made countless posts on this and can't stress it enough.

Admittedly these women are rare as rocking horse sh!t with our over abundance of single mothers and beta fathers poisoning the well but stay the course and keep searching. Trust me the difference in women is truly like night and day. When you see a common pattern of what these traditional old school fathers can produce in their daughters it blows your hair back at the contrast, real feminine grace and responsibility for her actions CANNOT be taught by anyone else but a strong father.

I understand a strong father figure is important in assessing the actual long-term relationship quality of girl.

But the thing is that I´ve witnessed a few instances where , from a outsider point of view at least, the father seemed quite the stern, serious and responsible type but the daughters still turned out to be quite slutty.

So, what happended really? How to actually tell the legit strong father from the one who is not so legit?

 

[Epimanes]

I think the overly stern fathers cause daughters to rebel. Rather a father who nurishes his daughter in appropriate ways with a mutual understadning that he knows what she's going through as a young adult or teenager. Dads have to create a bond with their daughters so daughters learn to respect their dads as an authority figure. Not a father who is harsh but one of understanding who can relate with his daughter on her level. With my daughter we have bonded with hunting.. I am only 20 years older than her and she's 15. We cut her a fair bit of slack as long as she is respectful of our rules and boundries. When she does step out of line she is already aware of what the consequences will be and we don't have to get angry and raise our voices. Calm assertive approach to her discipline goes a long ways. To this day she respects us and we give her respect where its due. Not only that but she plans on graduating a year early. Has a great head on her shoulders and is very ambitious. Shoots guns and is well on her way to blackbelt in martial arts. Hopefully one day she meets a decent young man who treats her right and doesn't spin plates and screw around behind her back or surely she will kick the crap out of her man (when that happens) if someone were to betray her like that. Who ever she picks will be one lucky guy.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I think you have to watch a girl's father around his wife.
If he comes across as a hard-ass but snaps to attention whenever his wife barks at him, then your girl will likely be a nagging bytch too.
If his wife is obedient and accommodating to him, then the daughter has grown up conditioned to behave this way and is more likely to act similarly and treat her man with respect and tenderness.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think the overly stern fathers cause daughters to rebel.

I very much agree. What I think a guy should look for more than anything is a loving relationship between a daughter and a father. That's much better than the father being a tyrant.

 

[RationalHandsome]

I think you have to watch a girl's father around his wife.
If he comes across as a hard-ass but snaps to attention whenever his wife barks at him, then your girl will likely be a nagging bytch too.
If his wife is obedient and accommodating to him, then the daughter has grown up conditioned to behave this way and is more likely to act similarly and treat her man with respect and tenderness.

Very interesting that you pointed that. This is something I have observed, in my family actually, the man is a stern type but when there is a discussion with his wife the wife wins.

He doesnt act beta but the wife simply out-louds him (instead of a more rational discussion) and he doesnt force her to shut up.

 

[( . )( . )]

So, what happended really? How to actually tell the legit strong father from the one who is not so legit?

Greasy Pig nailed it.

It's just common sense OP. Your looking for a man who is respected and loved by his wife. You can still see glimpses of that playful attraction they have toward each other. A woman who's legit happy because she was lucky enough to snag an alpha who wears the pants and she's genuinely glad he does. Trust me, a girl who's bore witness to this for the past 18 or so years will be above and beyond the riff raff. It has no other option other than to be a part of who the daughter is, it's literally what makes her.

That might sound a little obtuse if you've never actually witnessed these relationships in action and if your young there's a good chance you never have but if you have then you should know exactly what I'm talking about.

 

[mr. kennedy]

The girl I'm currently seeing does not talk to her father anymore.

He cheated on her mother many, many years ago. He also never keeps his word and lied to his daughter often. The last straw was when she invited him over to her new place, he confirmed he would attend and never showed up nor called to say he wasn't coming.

In this situation, should the girl be nexted or admired for standing up for herself?