How The Hell do you date a female DJ!!!

[syncmaster]

Ok - a problem here... i met this super cool girl who has the exact same dating philosophy as me... she's a female DJ. What the hell do i do? Some of the things she says make me speechless and that's NEVER happened before. I have no idea how to approach this one. Any suggestions?

 

[lebRambo]

out-DJ her!

haha, if she is a female DJ, then you know EXACTLY what to say to make her want you. i would think the job would be simpler in that case.

 

[Alphathree]

Female DJs kick ass . You can see right through their games . Just don't get emotionally attached. Read the FR I just posted for some ideas.

Oh, and I personally find that 1. C&F works even better on female players so up the ante and 2. it's actually easier to do C&F because if you don't , THEY WILL!

It's really a win-win situation.

 

[backbreaker]

there is no such thing as a Female DJ..

That would be like saying there is a Male Housewife...


Granted she might "know the game" but that doesn't mean the rules don't apply. The rules apply because they are the rules of nature, not a get ***** quick guide.

 

[syncmaster]

No! I mean she does the same shyt I do... she goes out w/ multiple guys... is a big tease. Lol i dunno what to do because it pisses the hell outta me

 

[backbreaker]

That's not a Female DJ... To DJ implies that one has rounded themselves into an all around person... All a woman has to do is be "easy" and wear a shirt skirt.. not much DJ'ing to it

That is what I call a FREAK... A woman that isn't ready to settle down yet.


Just treat her like a F Buddy, becasue that's all she will be good for, and I don't mean that in a bad way, but you have to call them like you see them

 

[DonJuanMonk]

You only want to date a girl that completely surrenders to you.

For the brainless out there:

1. You don't date girls that test you

2. You don't date girls that say "I'm openly dating other guys."

3. You don't date slutty girls that are flirty with every guy they meet.

 

[( . )( . )]

1. You don't date girls that test you

Good luck with that, chicks test its hardwired, weeds out betas
and we should probably be thankful if anything.

2. You don't date girls that say "I'm openly dating other guys."

Agreed, strictly sex.

3. You don't date slutty girls that are flirty with every guy they

Agreed, strictly sex.

 

[Evangenlion]

Senzoi has a point here.
"A player is a player, regardless of the sex involved."

i believe in that too. many of you won't, but awell its our choice.

The question syncmaster is really asking how to act when:
an alpha is vs'd against another alpha.
(this is my biggest reason for being on this site).

Alphathree is right, when your up against another alpha you can generally see through their games.

now the question is how to counteract the game.
if you look at real life, u can see all the gurus are having it out with eachother on who's the best and yet they look and act like women.
it's time for new rules, as the numbers of alphas grow, we need to find a way of defeating our equals.

sorry i couldn't offer any advice here, but i'll toss my 2 cents and wait around to see where this goes.

as for beta vs beta (we know the beta has to become an alpha to win, and thats what this site is for)

 

[IEman99]

Originally posted by Senzoi
Biology has -NOTHING- to do with terms a patriarchally-based society has used to discourage female promiscuity. It's a baseless, obsolete and historical sign of male insecurity and the desire to control a female's partnership choice.

Double standards are an amusing thing to observe, especially when used as a means to support the behaviour of one group over another. Get over it. Calling a promiscuous, game-playing female a 'slut' bleeds of latent jealousy and AFC-ness over their ability to play the same games and mindtricks men use to support their own sexual interests.

A player is a player, regardless of the sex involved.

~ Senzoi

No offense, but are you a woman?

to deny the biological part of how men see women and how it relates in the whole scheme of man-woman relationsihps would mean you're not seeing the entire picture clearly.

some people think its this "double standard" denying women the same "rights" as men to be promiscuous, when simply it comes down to territory which is deeply rooted in our male dna.

no man wants his girl (or any of his female **** buddies-if applicable) to be getting POUNDED out by another man during the amount of time that they're together. even if you are bangin chicks with no strings attatched and you KNOW she's bonin' other dudes you dont want to SEE the other dude. its territory! (now of course there are exceptions)

the social aspect of men's view on women is BUILT off of the biological/genetical core that is deep inside us..

 

[cave dweller]

DJ?????????

syncmaster,

She not a female DJ.

She is a damnn attention wh0re and a slut.

She is only good for one thing----Being a fvck buddy.

cave dweller

 

[Skydiver43127]

IEman, pissing in your bed is biology, according to your logic.

Of course a man cannot feel other than bad over the woman seeing other guys, but what kind of ****in DJ is unable to handle this in any other way than badmouthing the woman, ditching her, and so on!? The comment here applies to all men unable to handle competition
http://www.ninjapirate.com/virgins.html

I have nothing to add on the primary topic (the first 2 comments sum it up), except that discussing dating phylosophies BEFORE approaching sounds to me like a "Let's just be friends" recipe.

 

[Desdinova]

First of all, there is a fine line between a "female DJ" and an AW. Figure out which one you're dealing with first.

One respects herself. The other doesn't.
One has fun. The other has baggage.

Now, if she's not an AW, you don't have to change a damn thing in your game. Take her out on fun dates, flirt back with her, use C/F back at her. Become the most fun guy she is dating and you'll do fine.

 

[italostud]

Just stay away from those kinds of girls. Why bother? I can spot those girls from a mile away. You can tell right away that she's probably read that "Rules" book or whatever it is for women. I'd rather have a woman that can just concentrate on being a woman, and not trying to play games to put herself on an equal playing field with "the boys".

 

[IEman99]

Originally posted by Skydiver43127
IEman, pissing in your bed is biology, according to your logic.

Of course a man cannot feel other than bad over the woman seeing other guys, but what kind of ****in DJ is unable to handle this in any other way than badmouthing the woman, ditching her, and so on!?

umm...what the hell are u talking about? lol. you gotta be a woman too. atleast you guys are weeding yourselves' out.

btw who was bad mouthing women?

syncmaster, im cosigning with a lot of the responses. since she's a "female DJ" she definitely takes pride in who and how many guys she's juggling at the same time. if you dont mind just bein bang buddies its all good, but not wifey material (for me, atleast).

as far as tappin that poon tang.... she's still a woman after all. same rules apply..just turn it up a notch, but dont let her stump you a bunch of times. you should be on point because if you're not you'll look like a soft-wuss-idiot-boy...

just have fun.

 

[syncmaster]

Alright;
Thanks for the advice goes. First date is today in 5 hrs and i'll let you know how it goes. Should definitly be interesting.

P.s. - she's not an AW... she actually enjoys the chase as much as we do.

 

[Desdinova]

I think you guys are over-analyzing this situation. Most likely, the guys she is dating are AFCs. Think of what your basic AFC does. He spends all his time and energy on how to make her world better. All sync has to do is bring her into his world.

An AFC will sit on the phone with her for two hours, boring her with his life story
An AFC will take her out for a typical dinner and movie
An AFC will buy her flowers and candy.
An AFC will refrain from anything remotely sexual with her so he doesn't offend her.

A DJ will bring her into his fun and exciting life.

Sync, if you have something planned other than dinner, a movie, and a boquet of flowers, you'll have no problem eliminating this competition (if you can call it that).

 

[penkitten]

sync, if she is so much like you, then you will probally be very compatable.
im sure you will treat her exactly how you need to.
dont let down your guard and let her play you, haha . jk

im glad you found someone you enjoy and that you dont think is a flake like most guys are finding these days.

 

[syncmaster]

Post Date Follow Up

Wow ... um what can i say? This was one different date.

So the night started out by picking her up at a bus stop and heading out for bubble tea. That went well and we had a pretty good time. She was really into things. She's currently dating 5 guys (myself included) which was a big turn off right away. She said her limit for dating men was 24 and I looked 25. So basically saying I look too old however she was giving signgs that she was really into me. So this was conflicting.

We went and had our bubble tea and everything was great. The conversation was great and she paid (and that was great ) and it was generally a good time.

We then bussed to go see "The Exorcism of Emily Rose" which she picked out. So that was cool and I paid for that. She whole heartidly agreed that the cost should be split between the two people dating - which is another bonus. We were chatting and laughing the entire time and thigns were going well. There were times when she was distant and others when she was close...

So she said she was really cold partway through the movie and I asked if she liked "axe" body spray, smirked, and put my arm around her to warm her up. She moved around and then took my arm off her. It was weird because she was leaning really close... go figure.
I continue joking around and laughing as if nothing had happened. Note: throughout this entire night i was using fun playful kino which part of the time she got into and the other part she didn't.

So we're leaving the movie and her hands are wet after washing them in the bathroom and comes up and rubs them on my neck... it was kinda odd but kino on her behalf none the less.
We wait at the bus shelter to head home and she's standing really close but w/ her arms crossed in front of her (closed off). We get on the bus and start chatting. She asks how many other girls i'm seeing and I tell her how many (NOT including her... and I made a point of saying she's not among them yet). I told her she'd make a good friend - basically to boost interest level.

Then i bring up a topic we were talking about earlier that how she loves beer but can't have any. I ask why... and here's the kicker.

"Well I guess that the date is over now I can tell you I'm on prozac..."

Wow... what the hell do you say to that. My stop comes up and I get ready to get off. I lean over to hug her and the bus stops throwing me ontop of her. I get off and go talk it up w/ a buddy at mc ****s.... This has been one HELL of an odd night.

 

[penkitten]

the word prozac turns alot of people off.
prozac isnt such a bad thing.
it helps some people alot.

the thing is, you need to find out how long she has been taking it and why , however do not ask her.

if she misses doses, you will learn if she is messed up or not.
some people take minor doses and it doesnt affect them too badly when they miss a dose.

some people are nuts without the meds.

im going to guess that its probally for panic attacks or social anxiety.