How should I think about this?

[summerwinter]

I met a chick in salsa class, we chatted while walking to the underground together for 15 mins. Good vibe there, she touch my chest when we say goodbye. But I ***** out and didn't ask for her number.

The last class is next week, but I already booked a ticket to holiday. And she is off to backpack for a month, so chance are we will never see each other again if I don't catch her next week.

My question is should I rebook my flight , cost USD 30, so I can go and ask for her number or should I just let it go?

Nothing is guaranteed in life. And certainly not when I don't even know how she feel about this but she does initially appear tick most boxes of what I am looking for.

Would rebooking means I placed too much value on her before even get her number and seen as "non alpha" ? Not that she will know, but more about my mindset.

Any guidance appreciated.

 

[summerwinter]

The ***** are pus*y out... just to be very obvious..

 

[summerwinter]

OK, I decided to rebook my flight.

Reason being: Rejection is fine, pus*y out is not. Gotta go back and fix it!

I am totally fine if she say no or things never work out -- no expection.

 

[yuppaz]

Honestly bro if it was me I wouldn'the have changed any plans over a girl. I think it'should important to work towards having a lot of options in my life when single and not to put too much weight into any of them. Certainly not change travel plans because of one of them.

 

[summerwinter]

Totally agree with you, yuppaz.

Change of travel plan have more to with fixing my fault of thinking "I can pus*y out of asking her phone number" rather than "she is too good to be missed"

 

[zekko]

I'm with yuppaz, you shouldn't change your plans for a girl you've never even gone out with.
You already pus*yed out the first time. Just learn the lesson and go on.

 

[Bling]

dude, **** it. maybe she's the one for you. I want to hear if you pull the phone number or not.

you shouldn't change your plans for a girl, but if you already did, go with it and come back a proud man. rejection is definitely better than regret.

 

[Julian]

whatever you do dont tell her u changed ur plans for her


like bling said this **** cost u 30 bucks and time and possibly more shame if your mission fails lol. but own it now bro. recoup your losses. you know this chick was feeling you...and you were kicking yourself for bitching out...you only know that you had to right a wrong in this world and it was within your power to do so.

get those digits, and BANG HER BEFORE YOU BOTH LEAVE. thats what i would do

 

[summerwinter]

So today is the day. Umm. I dont know what to say, the books and forums have given me the knowledge and I just fuxk up the execution... so here is the story.

All these pre thinking got me a bit panicky and I guess this kinda show in my vibe. Had a great dance class and was going to wait till the end to get her digit, so it won't be awkward if she say no. Somehow she is with her friends all the way after class and kinda avoided me.

I guess the moment was blow last week and we kinda end there.

I am annoyed as my inaction last week make this opportunity get away. And now I have to deal with the regret. If I were to ask her number, gone in for a kiss or whatever, still better then what I have now.

With all the knowledge from this forum.. I should have done a better job last or this week. Guess knowledge can't replace field experience.. think this is the first digit I tried to get in 2 years...I was in monk mode character building e.g. acting class for upping confident, talking skill and bodybuilding etc. Anyhow, I feel that my attractiveness so call have increase, just can't close the deal.

Now. Questions to the wonderful people on this forum are:
1) ways to let me forgive my own mistake
2) how to never repeat this

 

[Alvafe]

So today is the day. Umm. I dont know what to say, the books and forums have given me the knowledge and I just fuxk up the execution... so here is the story.

All these pre thinking got me a bit panicky and I guess this kinda show in my vibe. Had a great dance class and was going to wait till the end to get her digit, so it won't be awkward if she say no. Somehow she is with her friends all the way after class and kinda avoided me.

I guess the moment was blow last week and we kinda end there.

I am annoyed as my inaction last week make this opportunity get away. And now I have to deal with the regret. If I were to ask her number, gone in for a kiss or whatever, still better then what I have now.

With all the knowledge from this forum.. I should have done a better job last or this week. Guess knowledge can't replace field experience.. think this is the first digit I tried to get in 2 years...I was in monk mode character building e.g. acting class for upping confident, talking skill and bodybuilding etc. Anyhow, I feel that my attractiveness so call have increase, just can't close the deal.

Now. Questions to the wonderful people on this forum are:
1) ways to let me forgive my own mistake
2) how to never repeat this

1) go to your travel and have fun, try to have a quick date if possible, ask a local girl to show you around.

2) you learn, and move on, take this as experience, remembr tehre is no loss or you get what you want or get experience on doing it

 

[zekko]

All these pre thinking got me a bit panicky and I guess this kinda show in my vibe. Had a great dance class and was going to wait till the end to get her digit, so it won't be awkward if she say no. Somehow she is with her friends all the way after class and kinda avoided me.

This just goes to show there is something to the principle at least of the three second rule. Once you blow the initial opportunity, it gives you more time to think about it, and it seems like it becomes even more awkward and difficult to act spontaneous and execute properly. Which is one reason I said oh well, learn your lesson and better luck next time.

 

[Once Bitten]

Realize it's just a numbers game, nothing more. Don't let any of your attempts get to you. This is tough I know.
I thought I did the right thing last year by being quick like you think you should have been, but it still turned out badly, because there were others present in a group.

So you can be quicker on the draw next time and it still might not work. Don't be down on yourself.

I cracked my friend up a while back by comparing hitting up women to burning the trash. You put the trash in the burner, the wind seems to be coming from the right direction to not stink out the house. Then throw in the match, and watch the fvcking wind switch direction instantly, and get bitched out back in the house by your gal.
Sometimes that's just how it goes. Keep your chin up.