How should I react to this?

[MountainSlide]

Several days ago this girl asked me to go camping with her and some other people this weekend, and I said,
"yeah that sounds cool!".
So then today I asked her if she wants to meet up tonight and she responded with,
"sorry I'm busy, it's going to have to be after I get back from the camping trip".
I said to her,
"ok, I am uninvited from the camping trip now?"
and she said,
"Well you never confirmed, you can maybe still come I just have to check with the other people". At this point I just quit talking to her because I was pissed. I blew off other plans to go on this stupid ****ing camping trip...

 

[EveryPostHere]

She sounds like the product of the modern world. An attention wh0re with a lot of male "friends" who are used to validate and pay for things of hers.

I wouldn't contact her anymore. She's clearly not interested, and I imagine she's a manipulative attention wh0re. These days women like that LOVE inviting "guy friends" along on camping/fishing trips. They don't have interest in any of the guys, but look forward to the them constantly trying to hit on her, and they like having someone there to pay for the food/gas.

This type of woman only wants you when you aren't making yourself available, then the second you do she could care less. What she did was cold, but she isn't thinking about anyone else's feelings. So don't take it personally.

 

[MountainSlide]

No kidding. I quit talking to her and now she is just texting me random bull**** about how much into organization she is when it comes to trips. I'm not going to respond though. After she sends some more messages trying to explain herself then I am just going to be a ****, because that is what she needs.

 

[EveryPostHere]

No kidding. I quit talking to her and now she is just texting me random bull**** about how much into organization she is when it comes to trips. I'm not going to respond though.

Good, don't. Attention wh0res like this can't stand it when a guy stops giving them attention. She'll be sitting there texting you like and you can sit there feeling cool like knowing that you aren't going to let yourself be used by her.

You'll be one of the very few guys she encounters who's willing to walk away, and that'll hurt her fragile ego. In a month or two she'll flip it around in her head to where things didn't happen like they are. But deep down she'll know the truth, and so will you.

You made the right decision. Rock on :rockon:

 

[om1xr]

So you were planning to meet her on the weekend and then you asked her out today friday night. That's simply too much attention/validation and you offered too much.

I even don't like too meet with my close friends more than once a week or two weeks because that keeps things more interesting and you will have a lot to talk about and many stories to share. That's when it comes to close friends but when it comes to girls you are inro you should balance your time like you balance your financial needs every month or year.

Now back to your issue. I know that you are posting this just to vent and rant about how you are angry but if it was me I would just text her that "I'm busy, I'm meeting someone and can't talk" and then ignore her for a week or so until she invite you to go some place or do something together.
But that's just me, I'm at a point when flakes and silly dating games don't bother me anymore and you should do the same but to get there you should get more options, get a life and have more plans that you flake on girls and friends not the other way around.

Good luck man.

 

[MountainSlide]

Thanks, my gut tells me not to respond to her at all, not even to tell her I am busy. I've got other options, but normally when I make plans like camping I don't double book my weekend. I guess maybe I will start double/triple/.... booking dates and **** because that seems to be how the world works these days.

 

[Obsidian]

Was there any set plan for when you were supposed to meet to go camping? Maybe the girl has a point. And I agree that twice in one weekend seems a little heavy.

 

[MountainSlide]

Was there any set plan for when you were supposed to meet to go camping? Maybe the girl has a point. And I agree that twice in one weekend seems a little heavy.

Yeah there was a plan when we were supposed to go, so no she doesn't have a point.

Also I just wanted to meet up with her to discuss a few things about the trip.

 

[VladPatton]

Aaaaah, yes, the ole "busy girl". The ones that have a million things going on and she allocates a small percentage of her time to you that you cannot, by no means, deviate from. Especially anything that resembles a date. Busy busy busy all day long. Poor girl doesn't even have time to Facebook, sometimes! Ok, so, my advice is :

Fûck that group activity bûllshît with other people. You would of gotten pissed by the end of it at how she's playing celebrity on the trip while you're trying to get her to put out. Or perhaps she has another guy she's slightly more interested in and you get to watch the tent bounce while she's getting drunk and hammered by him. Waaaaay too many things can go wrong there. This is not dating.

Tell her you were out with some chick and things "got a little crazy that night" and miss her little attention trip to the mountains. These group things seldom work out. It's a ploy for her to gather her orbiters and feel like the queen bee. It's 1 on 1 dates or GTFO. I'd delete this annoying lil Instagraming Twitterhead. Nothing to gain here except being a pony in her 3 ring circus.

 

[Infern0]

Several days ago this girl asked me to go camping with her and some other people this weekend, and I said,
"yeah that sounds cool!".
So then today I asked her if she wants to meet up tonight and she responded with,
"sorry I'm busy, it's going to have to be after I get back from the camping trip".
I said to her,
"ok, I am uninvited from the camping trip now?"
and she said,
"Well you never confirmed, you can maybe still come I just have to check with the other people". At this point I just quit talking to her because I was pissed. I blew off other plans to go on this stupid ****ing camping trip...

Shouldn't have agreed to go on ****ty group camping trip during courtship phase. Perfect opportunity for "I'd love to but I have plans that weekend unfortunately" gets you out of that plus creates some mystery.

Second shouldn't be calling to ask if she wants to meet up tonight. She should be coming to you, when she texts you then you set up a date.

I wouldn't be surprised if you don't hear from her again, multiple examples of dropping your frame.

Your currently butthurt, and your manipulation ideas are going to backfire. I suggest you respond to her text with "no big deal, I'm just heading out with a friend but let me know when your free and we'll plan something then"

Then go about your business, if you are lucky this will erase the mess you created

She's not an "attention *****" she can just do better than you with your game the way it is. Brush up on the fundementals or this sort of thing will happen again.

 

[stevo]

There's no point ignoring her messages. When she sends you another one something like. . . .its so tough planning a trip and blah the blah, you respond.
I understand, hmu when you're back, lets get together then.

Plain, Simple.

You set the tone of her coming to you, you want to be the sausage she falls on not the smiling dummy she yaps away at.

Live and Learn

 

[Suspens]

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She's not an "attention *****" she can just do better than you with your game the way it is. Brush up on the fundementals or this sort of thing will happen again.

Good point. You could have called to confirm the trip. "But corey said you should get them to chase you", yes but that was too early.

 

[thatfeel]

Aaaaah, yes, the ole "busy girl". The ones that have a million things going on and she allocates a small percentage of her time to you that you cannot, by no means, deviate from. Especially anything that resembles a date. Busy busy busy all day long. Poor girl doesn't even have time to Facebook, sometimes! Ok, so, my advice is :

Fûck that group activity bûllshît with other people. You would of gotten pissed by the end of it at how she's playing celebrity on the trip while you're trying to get her to put out. Or perhaps she has another guy she's slightly more interested in and you get to watch the tent bounce while she's getting drunk and hammered by him. Waaaaay too many things can go wrong there. This is not dating.

Tell her you were out with some chick and things "got a little crazy that night" and miss her little attention trip to the mountains. These group things seldom work out. It's a ploy for her to gather her orbiters and feel like the queen bee. It's 1 on 1 dates or GTFO. I'd delete this annoying lil Instagraming Twitterhead. Nothing to gain here except being a pony in her 3 ring circus.

**** yes dude this guy knows what's up.