How should I go about not being creepy?

[DJDeMarco]

I've been called creepy many times over the past few years ever since I started trying to improve with women. Recently I got called creepy by a girl I approached in public, and this made me realize I need to not be creepy before I start worrying about dating cute young women. Here's what I've been doing that may cause the creepy label.

Sometimes I just go out in the day to meet women.
I feel fear and negativity when doing this while trying to feel positive and confident.
Not comfortable talking to strangers.
Can be intense, angry, and emotional at times.
If an attractive woman is in my view, I have a hard time not giving her multiple glances.
Indecisive, sometimes hesitant, and logical about what to do with women.
Lack of common sense...I think I can do anything when I can't.

Now that we know the flaws I have, what should I do to not be creepy? I've scared off social groups and temporarily gotten myself a bad dating/social reputation. So I want to stop being creepy, since this is more important right now than attracting women. Let's give that sexual energy the right vibe.:cheer:

 

[SmooveMooves]

Develop this trait known as Charisma.

 

[skinnyguy]

You're outcome dependent. Instead of just thinking about the lay, just have fun with it and feel like you're a boss.

I agree with Smoove.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Yeah it sucks man, but if you go with the whole "day game," you're bound to come across a few b!tches who will call you creepy for approaching a stranger. You just have to do your best to not take it personally or let it affect your confidence.

Your best bet is to keep practicing to the point where you free yourself from awkwardness and tentativeness. It takes repetition, you'll get better and find yourself having more success.

 

[Suspens]

Approaching strangers is not creepy, if the girl has such a mindset then she is a retard.

However if you are fat, your hair is messed up and your face looks like Marty Feldman, then you shouldn't approach any girl at all, that would be creepy. Work on your appearance first, work out and wear fit clothes.

Also expressing feelings for someone who clearly doesn't want you is creepy. Here is a perfect example of being creepy, an awful text I sent to a oneitis a year ago:

Suspens: break up with your current BF and then be my own sweet girl.

Oneitis: STFU, stalker, **** off.

Suspens:Haha, proof that you are attracted as well.

Oneitis: **** off. If you text me again you will be talking to my BF.

Suspens: Is he going to scream at me and kick my ass, just like what you did?

Sad thing is though she was attracted at first and happily gave her number the moment I asked for it.

 

[Mr Wright]

Creepy is a world girls throw around a lot and you shouldn't take it too personally. I think they enjoy using it to put some sort of social stigma on guys. I mean a girl can call a guy she doesn't fancy who talks to her at the bar creepy for no reason but a different guy who she likes the look of is labelled something completely different.

I think you have to go through a creepy stage but just make sure you get out of it

 

[mangotot]

You do need to become comfortable with how you feel and what you are doing. If you do not feel OK with it yourself how is some random stranger going feel with the vibes you are giving out? There is nothing wrong with creepy per say because what Mr X, Miss Y and Mrs Z think is non relevant. But you do want to make it easy for yourselves.

 

[salinechow]

All good advice above. I am going to try and target one thing though to specifically help you with what you asked.

First, good on you that you realize and are willing to adjust.

EYES: Target this one area to perfection. Takes practice and humility to keep trying until its natural, but once you master your eyes you can really communicate a lot in seconds and stand out from the crowd. Your eyes are making you or at least adding to your creepness. Its unconciously noticed and is the "vibe" you are talking about.

I cannot take the time nessicary to explain and train all in one post but dedicate yourself to looking up and studying what I will share with you.

Sticky Eyes.
Purposeful Pupil Dilation. Importance of pupils in attraction.
Eye Visual Voyage.
Eyebrow Flashing.
Eye contact length percentages.
Eye Contact Triangle.
Bedroom eyes.

Its all body language stuff. Creepiness gets communicated to and interpreted by the limbic system in the brain. You are setting of a fear response in woman who don’t know you because of your bad body language. Your body language is bad because of what the boys said above. You are nervous and outcome dependent and not having fun. You are selling instead of shopping.

Study body language and eye contact tips. One of the best things I ever did for my game and aurora. It also gets you out of your approach anxiety a bit because you are thinking about your body language and control of it, as well as noticing others, instead of being to hyper sensitive to the approach moment. At first, it is cumbersome and somewhat distracting but quite rapidly comes naturally. It is your body after all.


There is an excellent chapter in this book about eye contact. The minute I implemented some of these techniques I noticed huge gains in attraction towards me. Girls literally being drawn in to stand closer to me and flirt with me and touch me more. Going out of their way to notice and wave at me and even ask me out. (Disclaimer: I knew two of them already as acquaintances.)

http://cdn.preterhuman.net/texts/sex/How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.PDF

http://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Read this book until you can recite it. Its interesting and will help you snuff out your creep status.

Look, when Espi speaks, you should listen...but here is what we are all saying to you. Always improve, but never outright change. Embrace and improve. What I am showing you will help. ALOT!

People talk quite a bit about "naturals" around here. Being smooth. All that. You know what "they" posses that people cant always put there finger on? Body language and eye control. It comes from years of confidence. Well, you can cheat. Master the body language and non-verbal communication stuff and it will mimic the years of confidence you may not have.

My long game needs work for sure. Its publicly apparent around here. However, may cold approach and day game is pretty damn sharp.
I hear things like "Dude, how do you do that" Girls asking "Who are you" "There is just something about you" More and more girls offering numbers. Things like that. I want that for you. Master the body language I am telling you. Practice and implement. You’ll see. Feel free to ask specific questions in my inbox. Also, feel free to report mistakes and Ill see if I can fast track you.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Female-male free online dictionary:

*Youre creepy* - *Youre not creepy its just that I dont like you and have nothing better to say*

 

[RangerMIke]

What is creepy?

Simply put, it's incongruency. You want to approach to a women... you orbit.. dither... You are INCONGUENT. Your actions do not indicate your intent.

The cure for creepiness is approach IMMEDIATELY. Do not wait for your emotional brain to create logical justification for not taking action. Once you approach... remain congruent. If you are the charming funny guy... keep being charming and funny. If you are the dominate apha-male, then stay with that. Don't try to mix up vibes... what ever vibe you are putting out stick with it until you know you've built report, then switch to seduction mode.

One more thing... you should NEVER go out in day game with the attitude you are going to pick up girls... that puts you in the creepy mind-set. You should go out and live you life, do stuff you need to do or want to do, and if a woman crosses your path... go ahead and approach. You should always be prepared to meet women, just don't 'expect' it.

You have to be outcome independant, you have to approach women with a "I don't give a fvck, what you think of me." Because when you start caring what she thinks of you, you start exhibiting suplicative behavior which is REALLY creepy for a man.

 

[mikey2012]

Wear something under your raincoat.

 

[skinnyguy]

Yes, it's sad how only guys can be creepy. Next time you see an AW post on Instagram, you should say that it's creepy she's so obsessed with herself. Women get away with so much weird behavior these days it's astonishing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

what should I do to not be creepy?

Smile - this is the most important thing.

Don't stare at t!ts and ass.

Don't be obvious about hitting on a girl you just met. If you are talking to her, she knows you want to fvck her. You just need to get a number or way to contact her again, preferably under some false pretense, or at least unstated pretense.

Don't ever let her get the idea that you do this regularly - hit on random girls.

Don't be pushy about getting her back to your place asap. Make the first date in public. If you can include your social circle, even better.

Creepy Guy: lonely, horny, and will fvck anything

Not Creepy Guy: has options, talks to girls who strike him as funny or entertaining, doesn't seem to notice their sexual value right away.

 

[mangotot]

If you looked like this:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...h-Karma-not-picking-dog-trainer-February.html

You will rarely be creepy no matter what comes out of your mouth.

 

[salinechow]

If you looked like this:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbi...h-Karma-not-picking-dog-trainer-February.html

You will rarely be creepy no matter what comes out of your mouth.

Dude looks like a straight assh0le. He is a 7. - Who he is.

 

[mangotot]

Dude looks like a straight assh0le. He is a 7. - Who he is.

I don't know who he is bro. He is just some dude that happen to appear in my favourite newspaper. I don't want to get into rating guys but I just had a feeling few women would turn him down based on appearance.

 

[FairShake]

In girlspeak "creepy" means "awkward." I think girls throw "awkward" around so much they need another word to denote real awkwardness so creepy it is.

As somebody who was incredibly awkward at one point in life but is much less so now the only advice I can give you is keep going. Eventually you get the hand of talking to people. There isn't any one trick that works and generally there isn't one moment where you get it.

"Charisma" was brought up but I think that's blessed upon you at birth. Just aim to be a competent and even fun conversation partner and the women will never mind the attention. Honestly be a little nicer. Be a little disarming with a smile, a little self-deprecating humor, a compliment or two. Makes awkward go down easier in my experience. Trying to be an awkward dark triad is the epitome of creepy if you ask me.

 

[mangotot]

As somebody who was incredibly awkward at one point in life but is much less so now the only advice I can give you is keep going. Eventually you get the hand of talking to people. There isn't any one trick that works and generally there isn't one moment where you get it.

How do hot chicks treat you? All I know is that I was invisible to hot women so approached to be acknowledged only to be blown out left right and centre. How dare you approach me? It only changed when I became in shape and started to dress well.

 

[FairShake]

How do hot chicks treat you? All I know is that I was invisible to hot women so approached to be acknowledged only to be blown out left right and centre. How dare you approach me? It only changed when I became in shape and started to dress well.

I'm far from handsome and not particularly rich. Most of the hottest women have no time for me. That's what it's like for most of us and knowing that will hopefully mean rejections mean less and less for you.

The ones that do think I'm funny and like when I tear down their ***** shields with ****y AND self-deprecating humor.

 

[devilkingx2]

it depends on what you actually do

if you dress normally, with decent hygeine and a non-crazy facial expression, then it's not you physically

if you're a normal person and you talk about normal things(don't sound like a serial killer or pervert or weirdo or rapist) then it wasn't your personality

and thus, it was the girl and not you. sometimes you'll run into a woman so unpleasant and unfriendly she'll denounce people who try to talk to her negatively, or maybe she's so stuck up that she thinks every guy who wants to talk to her is thirsty and trying to get in her pants by asking for the time

if you've made absolutely sure you didn't do anything wrong then it's the girls and you've nothing to worry about, you're better off without mean girls and stuck up ones