How serious should i take my GF

[djthiago1]

My girlfriend is 18 and i'm 19.
I'm her first boyfriend and i took her virginity, she does not go out a lot, she told me she didn't like me at first impression cause she thought i was a heavy party/club dude, which tells me she's not a party/club girl herself; she's an introvert, she doens't drink, doesn't talk a lot (except with me, she can talk for days), very shy.

What worries me is her age and that she grew up pratically without a mom, she rarelly sees her cause she lives in Japan.

But she's a nice girl overall, respects me, has good sense of humor, good manners, and hates facebook, whatsapp and all that sht, which is a GIANT bonus IMO.

What do you djs think? I've stressing about this quite a lot since everyone talks about how young girls are bad, and i also worry that her mom problems could have scarred or maybe f-ed her up in the head in ways i don't know yet.

 

[Jaylan]

Youre both young. Enjoy it while it lasts. Young people generally grow apart as they get older...but maybe youll grow together.

Just live in the now and enjoy the relationship. Dont sit around think youll live happily ever after or any of that. Youre too young to have any idea how long things may work.

 

[narcissist]

im 99% sure you wont be her only fvck.

 

[Cremasta]

Ok, so you have this girl who seems to tick all of your boxes, and thinks the sun shines out of your arse... and the thing that keeps you up at night is that her mom is not around?

Really???

 

[SmooveMooves]

if you met this chick when you were.....say.....30, I would've said you struck gold.

But seeing as you guys are so young I see YOU becoming uninterested, yes you. Cause' you really haven't experienced dating through your twenties & your currently All she knows

As for your relationship, if you maintain your frame and be dominant and a leader just as any man should in a relationship, I can see the power scale tipped heavily in you favor, almost causing her to have dependance upon you. This Is good when your setting up a chick you wanna marry, but not so good when your so young.

As an answer to your question, take the relationship as serious as it applies to your goals:

Do you want to marry her?
Have children with her?
Have a steady income of sex?
Etc.

Whatever it is that thee shalt want to do, that is what thou shalt pursue.

 

[djthiago1]

if you met this chick when you were.....say.....30, I would've said you struck gold.

But seeing as you guys are so young I see YOU becoming uninterested, yes you. Cause' you really haven't experienced dating through your twenties & your currently All she knows

As for your relationship, if you maintain your frame and be dominant and a leader just as any man should in a relationship, I can see the power scale tipped heavily in you favor, almost causing her to have dependance upon you. This Is good when your setting up a chick you wanna marry, but not so good when your so young.

As an answer to your question, take the relationship as serious as it applies to your goals:

Do you want to marry her?
Have children with her?
Have a steady income of sex?
Etc.

Whatever it is that thee shalt want to do, that is what thou shalt pursue.

Actually i just plan to fvck her as long as i can, i like her a lot, but it's not like i'm in love or anything. Who knows if through time we grow closer, i don't know, i'm just trying to make sure that i don't have a bomb on my hands and if in case insanity strucks me and i decide to marry her i won't suffer.

I feel extremely gay saying this, but i fear that i won't find a good chick in my life, everytime i look left and right, i only see sluts, and then BAM i find a nice girl and say i decide to break-up, how long till i find another good one? 10, 20 maybe 30 years? That scares the crap out of me.

I read a lot in these forums about fvcking as many girls as you can, spinning plates and all, but i've yet to met a dude that does that that's not miserable,
i know lots of guys that are always banging different girls regularly and all they talk about is settling, how miserable their lives are, and how crappy it is to just fvck random girls. If it works for you great, what i know is the people that i know that does that are not one bit happy.

But i am sure i will not marry anyone until i'm at least 25.

 

[Jaylan]

Actually i just plan to fvck her as long as i can, i like her a lot, but it's not like i'm in love or anything. Who knows if through time we grow closer, i don't know, i'm just trying to make sure that i don't have a bomb on my hands and if in case insanity strucks me and i decide to marry her i won't suffer.

I feel extremely gay saying this, but i fear that i won't find a good chick in my life, everytime i look left and right, i only see sluts, and then BAM i find a nice girl and say i decide to break-up, how long till i find another good one? 10, 20 maybe 30 years? That scares the crap out of me.

I read a lot in these forums about fvcking as many girls as you can, spinning plates and all, but i've yet to met a dude that does that that's not miserable,
i know lots of guys that are always banging different girls regularly and all they talk about is settling, how miserable their lives are, and how crappy it is to just fvck random girls. If it works for you great, what i know is the people that i know that does that are not one bit happy.

But i am sure i will not marry anyone until i'm at least 25.

You have a decent chick who held her virginity till 18 (not rare, but not the most common either), you only wanna screw her as long as you can, but youre worried you wont ever find a good woman? Lmao, get over yourself dude. You have a decent gal right now.

And let me tell you from experience...if you sit here thinking you can just plan to screw her as long as you can without putting in work and being a good bf to her...you will wind up getting thrown for a loop. So be smart, be attentive, keep your frame, and just live in the moment.

 

[asa_don]

why are you freaking out? nothing to worry about here.

 

[Trump]

My girlfriend is 18 and i'm 19.

What do you djs think? I've stressing about this quite a lot since everyone talks about how young girls are bad, and i also worry that her mom problems could have scarred or maybe f-ed her up in the head in ways i don't know yet.

While you are stressing out so much and tossing and turning and giving yourself an ulcer, while she is watching a tv show laughing her tail off.

Never understand when guys get so concerned about their girlfriend, all the while their girlfriend is getting drunk or watching tv or kissing other guys or getting laid. I used to think the exact same way in my younger days. I used to think the girl was so in love with me she would be crying in her room that she couldn't have me. Now I know the girl was so in love with me that she had to have sex with boyfriend. :crazy:

You can't be stressed out if the girl doesn't care. Even if she cares you can't be stressed out. She is not crying over you or phoning you all the time or attending to you or giving you money or whatever.

Only if its life or death or bankruptcy should you should care.

 

[El Payaso]

It's paranoia like this that destroys good relationships. Just enjoy what you have. If her mother's absence is disturbing you so much then break up with her. She never asked for her mother to be absent. That's the card she was dealt in life and that's what she's dealing with.

 

[djthiago1]

bump

 

[djthiago1]

You have a decent chick who held her virginity till 18 (not rare, but not the most common either), you only wanna screw her as long as you can, but youre worried you wont ever find a good woman? Lmao, get over yourself dude. You have a decent gal right now.

And let me tell you from experience...if you sit here thinking you can just plan to screw her as long as you can without putting in work and being a good bf to her...you will wind up getting thrown for a loop. So be smart, be attentive, keep your frame, and just live in the moment.

If i was an ass to her and didn't care i wouldn't even be on this website asking this question.

why are you freaking out? nothing to worry about here.

I'm not freaking out, i was just wondering, i never even thought about these things until my mom started telling me her story about how she was abandoned and all that.

It's paranoia like this that destroys good relationships. Just enjoy what you have. If her mother's absence is disturbing you so much then break up with her. She never asked for her mother to be absent. That's the card she was dealt in life and that's what she's dealing with.

Her mother doesn't disturb me at a all, i just wonder if it disturbs her.