I'm currently dating a Chinese woman (I'm Chinese myself, though both of us are well-adapted to North-American customs), we've been seeing each other for about 2 months on a weekly (and occasionally bi-weekly) basis.
Now, things are going well between us, but recently, I've been having other Chinese friends tell me that their boyfriends/girlfriends call them everyday, and same with their friends' boyfriends/girlfriends. One girl even told me she dumped her ex-bf because he had the habit of not calling her for sometimes 5 days. According to them, it's the way Chinese people do it. This got me wondering, and thinking, maybe I should call her more often?
Now, having studied the way of the DJ, I've been advised to do the exact opposite, and NOT call everyday, or even once every other day. I usually call one or twice a week, at most. But on the other hand, wouldn't it possible that our relationship would develop faster if we talked to each other more often? We're both somewhat busy ppl, so seeing each other more often is somewhat out of the question at the moment.
Whose advice should I follow? I find it hard to believe that just because we're Chinese people, that we have do something that'll make us seem incredibly needy, insecure, and overly available. Or should I ask the girl I'm dating how she prefers it? If so, how would I even phrase it?
Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
Now, things are going well between us, but recently, I've been having other Chinese friends tell me that their boyfriends/girlfriends call them everyday, and same with their friends' boyfriends/girlfriends. One girl even told me she dumped her ex-bf because he had the habit of not calling her for sometimes 5 days. According to them, it's the way Chinese people do it. This got me wondering, and thinking, maybe I should call her more often?
Now, having studied the way of the DJ, I've been advised to do the exact opposite, and NOT call everyday, or even once every other day. I usually call one or twice a week, at most. But on the other hand, wouldn't it possible that our relationship would develop faster if we talked to each other more often? We're both somewhat busy ppl, so seeing each other more often is somewhat out of the question at the moment.
Whose advice should I follow? I find it hard to believe that just because we're Chinese people, that we have do something that'll make us seem incredibly needy, insecure, and overly available. Or should I ask the girl I'm dating how she prefers it? If so, how would I even phrase it?
Your advice would be greatly appreciated.