How often do you think of the perfect thing to say 5 seconds too late?

[squirrels]

LOL I've had this happen to me a couple of times...I'll try to initiate a conversation with a girl, have a good "opener"...something observational, witty...I deliver, she responds enthusiastically, then...I hesitate and respond wiht something like "Yeah," or "OK," and she walks away. Just as she turns to go, I think of the PERFECT thing to say to continue the convo.

Do these kinds of things just come faster with practice?

Are there any exercises to reinforce this so I can just "flow"?

 

[intel200]

I think that we all have that problem.

 

[intel200]

I think setting a definite goal you want to achieve is better than just going for it. For example, there was a time that a chic was hesitant to give me her cell# and only afterward did I realize that I should have shot for an email address. Now, I wont make that mistake again....

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by intel200
I think setting a definite goal you want to achieve is better than just going for it. For example, there was a time that a chic was hesitant to give me her cell# and only afterward did I realize that I should have shot for an email address. Now, I wont make that mistake again....

why don't you next them if they won't give the phone number? obviously her IL is low and you are fighting an uphill battle on email. what are the chances of increasing her IL through email?

 

[ZeeOwl]

Let's see.... Uh.... Um.... I'll think about that for a few seconds....

Happens to me all the time.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Originally posted by squirrels
LOL I've had this happen to me a couple of times...I'll try to initiate a conversation with a girl, have a good "opener"...something observational, witty...I deliver, she responds enthusiastically, then...I hesitate and respond wiht something like "Yeah," or "OK," and she walks away. Just as she turns to go, I think of the PERFECT thing to say to continue the convo.

Do these kinds of things just come faster with practice?

Are there any exercises to reinforce this so I can just "flow"?

Practice practice! You are thinking to hard when you talk to these pigeons!

There will come a time that your verbiage will flow like the mississippi river!

M.A.C.

 

[tomyv]

never

I'm a natural bull****ter, so it's very easy to keep it flowing.

 

[chlywly]

Depends, if i'm in my whitty high on life moold then its no problem... If on the other hand i'm dazed then yeah.....

 

[seloifter]

oh sure, all the time
but less and less frequently.

Sometimes I'll be pissed off because I didn't say something I thought was clever enough. So I'll think about it later that day. I'll think and think until I've found the PERFECT thing to say, and then, if ever I'm in that situation again (which is rare, but still), I'll have the perfect comment

Although chances are the same situation will never occur again, practicing later (when not under pressure, and with time) has increased my wit alot.

Basically a fast wit comes with practice, experience, and alot of experimentation

Oh yea, doing Improvisational Comedy works wonders too.

 

[Bigsnake]

Re: Re: How often do you think of the perfect thing to say 5 seconds too late?

Originally posted by Matt ala Casanova
Practice practice! You are thinking to hard when you talk to these pigeons!

There will come a time that your verbiage will flow like the mississippi river!

M.A.C.

True... I also think way too much and come up with things to say late.

I noticed after I've been drinking a little I always have something to say though! Maybe I should drink more...

 

[Healer]

Originally posted by chlywly
Depends, if i'm in my whitty high on life moold then its no problem... If on the other hand i'm dazed then yeah.....

Yeah Im like you. But I've found a way to force myself into the proper mood I need for pulling chicks.

I do my affirmations, then I go out and do my warm up. Talk to one chick out of nowhere and get rejected on purpose so I can laugh my A$$ off at it for the rest of the night just incase my state changes. Then I use the 3 second rule with 3 chicks of any sort, and take the PU as far as possible before ejecting.

 

[WaterTiger]

Oh I can always think up something to say...then I sit there thinking Oh Sweet Lord, did I say that out loud? I need that 7 second delay thing they have on TV so ther can go back and BEEP over the cuss words.

 

[becker]

This happens to me, but I usually stay mellow. One way that might help relieve this a little is to treat the girl as though you're not trying to pick her up or impress her by what you're saying. Most people do this too much. Just relax because once you start questioning the words that are coming out of your mouth, then you'll definitely choke.

Think like Howard Stern in a way, he just says whatever he wants, even if it means it might be offensive. Just say it, and don't look back, because if you then apologize or something like that, then it really looks like you're trying too hard. You will come off more confident too because you don't give a crap what people think. Be careful not to overdo this though.

 

[On-top]

Man, I've had this happen to me hundreds of times. The saddest thing is, a couple years ago, I would think of the perfect thing to say like 2 days too late, not 5 seconds.

But I kept working on it, and got up to just a couple minutes too late. Then before you know it, your saying the perfect thing before you even think of it. Just hang in there, and when you do realize a missed opurtunity, learn as much as you can from it...because you'll probably be able to work it in somewhere down the road.

 

[DarkfalconIV]

LOL. yep everybody. Or even worse is forgeting what your going to say, Your talking to her and you forget what your going to say and I would have really helped.

Or the worst of them all. Forgeting what your talking about.

Balh blah BLha BLha don't you think

Umm... YEah..

So what was your view on that?

(thinkin: OH ****)

 

[Boricua_33015]

^^ Hahahaha! Happens to me all the time man. My mind goes blank and then when I think about it harder then I come up with the perfect thing to say.

 

[learningtopimp]

Whats up bros,
Dude, this **** happens to me also! Lol I'll be like damn if I had said that I would've gotten the #. But then, I have started to realize that as you go through more rejections, you will think of stuff to say. I would say don't worry too much if you say something stupid....it's just part of the experience Just give it time.....you'll be bull****ting so easy you won't even know it.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Originally posted by On-top
I would think of the perfect thing to say like 2 days too late, not 5 seconds.

Heh, you stole my line.

 

[drixsa]

if your mind is going blank you need to become more of a conversationalist

and that means keep talking to girls, guys, everyone

its almost a little weird becuase sometimes i dont even have to think b4 i speak. i am thinking about something else and am somewhere far away but i can still hold a good convo and the person has no idea. only prob is i cant recall what we were talking about

also when you stop looking at the woman you are talking to as beautiful things that you want to fvck and start looking at them as just normal ppl or even better your friends, it makes it alot easier

 

[St0ryTeller]

haha! yeah... that happens to me all the time... And the worse thing is sometimes later that day I remember of the conversation and come up with something really good I could have said
And then I prmise myself to keep that in mind for next time hehe!
But i guess it's happening less with practice.