How often do you get aproached?

[d9930380]

We all talk about aproaching women, now I don't think I'm very good looking but I do get approached in clubs about 1 in 3 nights I go out, sometimes more if I have actually gave a **** about what I wear.

However after I was aproached in a club, my mate who is very good looking says that never happens to him and I was quite surprised.

Now I know you can't really draw anything from just a ratio as it's also about quality (that seems to be in the range of HB5.0 -> HB7.0) but it would be interesting to know from others.

 

[Thomas94305]

I get checked out by girls regularly. I get the eye contact, then the look up and down my body. It tends to be from HB 5-7's. Oddly enough, below 5's don't do it. I rarely get approached. When I do, there's something that makes the approach easier for her; she asks me to dance, she's with a group of friends and happens to be standing near to me already, etc. I've been asked out by girls that I've known for a while.

It's an ego boost. However, there's not enough to count on for anything. I still need to approach, approach, approach, take charge of initiating.

 

[Flabbergasped?]

Not enough for it to matter. A few times, girls have initiated a conversation with me and started flirting, but they have either been ugly or attention-*****s. Either way, it isn't an ego boost, because you begin to wonder why only the single ones approach you XD

 

[DonJuanForever]

It depends. In my opinion, an approach is when you start a conversation with someone you don't know. When you get in the habit of loving to be around people, you "approach" a lot of girls, that is, start conversations. I sometimes get her number right there, or just wait to get it, but I pick and choose though.

 

[d9930380]

Yea I'm not talking about eye contact, I'm talking about where a girl comes over, she starts a conversation and it leads to her wanting to score kiss/shag.

Girls will check you out all the time, hell I check every girl out I see. It's no indication that they like you, some you like some you don't but you can't tell unless you look.

Below 5s proably don't have the confidence, above 7s don't need to. I think that's why the range is what it is.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

There is this site, http://www.womenapproachyou.com run by John Alanis that claims to have the answers of getting women to approach you first or trigger 'attraction' with women. I've purchased his products for about $ 59, and got a refund as soon as I found it of no immediate use.

Now, this may be repackaged common sence, but whenever men are in a perceived position of authority, their display value will go up and will likely get approached. He discusses various venues or ways to be perceived in that type of position, ranging from public speaking, to all sorts of nonsence.

I have all his e-books still on my system, but have never made use in them because I think it's partially hocus pocus, but then again, since I've never actually gone the 9 yards to try out his system, or any aspect of his system, I cant really say, maybe it would work if I took it seriously.

 

[DonJuanForever]

d99, I don't know this whole women debate thing is crazy.
One side says
1. Learn calcuation, seduction skills greatly and then women will be all over you. The advantage is: You will sarge more, because of that you will score more. The disadvantage is: You will have to probably ignore your own soul because you have to keeping everything focused on her.

2. Become a natural MAN The advantage is that now you become the prize and women now want to SEDUCE "you." You can basically have your purpose in life and the girls to, and it actually feels like being in heaven when you are a man. The disadvantage is: The path to becoming a man or "the man of your dreams" is kind of confusing, lonely, and could be difficult. Not saying its not worth it, but I have no problem going through a "change process" if I knew exactly what the hell that process was and what to do.....which is why becoming the MAN is kind of confusing.

 

[NSUballer]

Interesting post indeed. Last saturday night I was at this awesome club in downtown new Orleans. I was at the bar waiting for a drink when this 10, and i do mean 10 bc she had a beautiful face big boobs and nice booty and legs, walks up right next to me with her two friends, both 8 or better. So im just standin there at the bar and she just starts talkin to me. I think she opened up with "Looks like youve been standin here a while" and im thinkin ok this is good. So im like no i havent been here that long only like 5 mins, so she says well how bout I get us all drinks. So im like is this really happening bc this girl was smokin hot. She then pulls out like $160 in 20s, bc before i was thinkin shes tryin to get me to pay for this but it didnt turn out that way. So im just standin there talkin to her for about 5 more mins and then she gets the drinks gives me mine and says nice to meet you and then walks off. Yes i know im a retard for not gettin her number. Thats not the end. A little later on that night I was at the upstairs bar when i was about to order my drink again and this 7 walks up and orders her drinks right when the bartender is about to take my order. Well she gets her drinks and turns to me and says "do you want this drink?" so i say ummm i dunno i dont usually take drinks from strangers, just bein stupid, so she says well i just got it and i want you to have it so im like ok what is it theres no date rape drugs in here is there. she starts laughin and says no. So then im like ok and i walk away. Two approaches in one night not too bad. Im still kickin myself for not gettin that 10s number.

 

[MVPlaya]

I get approached pretty rarely, women don't know how to approach a man so they walk near him, look over every 20 or so seconds, and fiddle with their hair while they wait for him to initiate conversation. That occurs almost daily. Being approached though? Once a week.

 

[The JustMan]

I used to get approached by girls in highschool. I never went out with them because the girls that approach, in my experience, tend to be rather fat and ugly. Just learn to approach yourself, like I am doing, to get what YOU want, instead of settling for whoever wants you....

 

[typical]

I get approached pretty rarely, women don't know how to approach a man so they walk near him, look over every 20 or so seconds, and fiddle with their hair while they wait for him to initiate conversation. That occurs almost daily. Being approached though? Once a week.

Yea same deal here, and when they do come up they bring 20 of their friends for moral support, its like they try and gang you into taking her number or sum crap. Happened to me a few times makes you feel very very awkward, almost like a piece of meat thrown to hungry lions, and a few of them give you the "dont talk to her I'm much better" look and crap.

 

[rsxtreme]

neither girls or women have approached me before. im not bad looking and all, i dont know why.

 

[MKS82]

yea at the bars i usually get some pretty obvious glances. fvck 2 weeks ago i was at a bar talking to my friend and across the way i just glanced over and saw this hb8-8.5 pointing right at me and whispering in her friends ear it think she went to the same college as me. at the same time there was another hb8 right in front of me giving me a lot of eye contact i was looking out of the corner of my eye. of course dumb old me doesnt go say anything to either of them. i think its becuase i am use to girls coming up to me. fvcking stupid i know

from previous experience of getting approached if youre good looking guy you gotta act like a ****y d1ck or youre the sh!t or whatever body language wise. but even though you may not notice girls looking at you they actually are. ive had girls come up to me out of the blue some which i have never seen before and say your so this and that see you all the time etc. i usually end up in their bed if their good looking. but what it really comes down to is "geez you act so freaking ****y (or in other words confident)" they say this to me when i get to know them better. its like negging them without saying anything espically if theyre a hot girl

 

[wunnaBsmooth]

yea at the bars i usually get some pretty obvious glances. fvck 2 weeks ago i was at a bar talking to my friend and across the way i just glanced over and saw this hb8-8.5 pointing right at me and whispering in her friends ear it think she went to the same college as me. at the same time there was another hb8 right in front of me giving me a lot of eye contact i was looking out of the corner of my eye. of course dumb old me doesnt go say anything to either of them. i think its becuase i am use to girls coming up to me. fvcking stupid i know

from previous experience of getting approached if youre good looking guy you gotta act like a ****y d1ck or youre the sh!t or whatever body language wise. but even though you may not notice girls looking at you they actually are. ive had girls come up to me out of the blue some which i have never seen before and say your so this and that see you all the time etc. i usually end up in their bed if their good looking. but what it really comes down to is "geez you act so freaking ****y (or in other words confident)" they say this to me when i get to know them better. its like negging them without saying anything espically if theyre a hot girl

Jesus! You must be one model looking - metrosexual Mo Fo! I mean, my face hasn't ever been on fire or anything and that sh!t doesn't happen to me! Maybe once in a while a fat a$$ UG will hit on me.:cuss: blech!!

 

[disciple]

I usually will have women do subtle things like eye contact, be physically close to me, or very often when I look at them they turn away like they weren't checking me out.

Then I find out later that this girl or that girl thought I was cute or gorgeous but I know that alot of girls are intimidated by guys they are very attracted to and women fear rejection even more than men ( believe it or not).

I mean if you think about it, most cute or attractive women aren't used to getting turned down by guys.

If you look like a guy that probably has his pick of beautiful women, even a good looking chick knows that she's not the only babe out there and that you could next her for someone even better looking.

That why one of the most powerful weapons a DJ has is to have options.

The more the better.

 

[Tomatoes]

I get approached about 1-3 times im out easy. Prob 1-2 really.....but all i can say is "Aim Higher" HB 6 or higher when im desprate! HB 8 or more is all i try for.

 

[Socialreject]

Women "hit" on me regulairly... but to say an actual cold approach from a woman looking to fvck... and actually "getting" anywhere... nope

In every case where a woman had come up to me or made a pass at me i somehow made some steps first before they made one. Like for example, years ago i was talking to this average looking woman (friend of a friend) and somewhere i mentioned she had beautiful eyes (because she did). It wasn't my way of saying "let's fvck", i was just enjoying the conversation, when she suddenly gets "bedroom eyes" and suggest we go back to my place.

Or some woman will do a cold approach on me, blurt out a dumb line or say something very boring "nice weather huh", or just ask where i'm from. If i don't pick up at that point and direct the conversation they just end up kind of standing around until they are really uncomfy and then just excuse themselves ;-) (women suck at this stuff!!!). OR some chick will make it so blatantly obvious that she's redhot and needs it bad without actually saying it.

I've never had a woman "pick me up"... i've always had to open up oppertunities and give them some kind of bait before they made any moves.

 

[[S]alvatore]

Not to sound arrogant, but I get approached everytime I go out where females are around. I'm only about 5'8", 210 lbs 10% bf, in the looks department I would honestly rate myself a 5. Nose is sort of big (but strong), ears are big + prominent, but I get told that I look like a younger version of Dave Batista, once I saw the resemblance I lost all my insecurities as I now know what i'm going to look like when im older.

At the bare minimum i'll get some eye contact and a smile, and it's never ugly girls, i'd say 6-8's most of the time. And whoever still thinks that heights matters is full of sh!t, I get interested girls who are a couple of inches taller than me alot of the time, moreso when clubbing.

I'm not sure whether it's my frame, dress style, walk, or attitude. I usually dress a bit more formal than what the occasion calls for. But isn't it funny how when you're with someone, more opportunities arise than when you're single, I guess it's because you're not desperate.

I had that many girls hitting on me last week I thought my head was going to explode. It's like, where the fu<k are all you b!tches when i'm single.

 

[d9930380]

Very interesting guys.

Yea - women are **** at it. It's actually quite funny to watch. They are either full on and will try to rape you ignoring all signals that you're not interested (that's normally the less attractive ones), they also take rejection REALLY badly. They are good for a shag though if you couldn't be arsed trying to pull a nicer girl and normally the shag's better as you don't really give a **** how you treat her ;-)

The attractive ones will stand beside you and maybe bump you until you start trying to pick them up, the confident ones might say something first. But you can see how unused to having to keep a conversation going they are. Sometimes I think good looking girls are really just the same as AFCs.

However to the above poster. A 10 bought you a drink! ****, I would love to slag you off and say what a loser you where but if that happened to me, I would be too worried Ashton Kutcher was about to jump out at any time to say a damn thing. Definately a deer in headlights situation.

Rolls of 20s though, thinking about it, that's weird. I wonder what her deal was - sounds fishy.

 

[Archaxis]

We all talk about aproaching women, now I don't think I'm very good looking but I do get approached in clubs about 1 in 3 nights I go out, sometimes more if I have actually gave a **** about what I wear.

However after I was aproached in a club, my mate who is very good looking says that never happens to him and I was quite surprised.

Now I know you can't really draw anything from just a ratio as it's also about quality (that seems to be in the range of HB5.0 -> HB7.0) but it would be interesting to know from others.

I almost never get appoached... I don't go to clubs, though. I was always under the assupmption that they're a terrible place to meet women. I'm good-looking, confident, dress very well, drive a really nice car, I'm not the least bit shy (though, I generally don't innitaite convo with girls ever because it never seems to pan out)... My current GF is bewildered by it... she says I should be beating off the women with a stick. I dunno, it only happens once in blue moon really.