How not to allow girls to get the best out of you?

[SimplyTheBest]

Look there are some girls out there who are heartless and merciless who enjoy giving men a hard time. I've run across a few of them in my past and I failed to handle them most of the time. How should I handle girls who seem to enjoy putting me down?

Here are some lines that women have used before :

a) Even a guy like you can get a date.

(Now what the f*ck.!! How dare they said that to me when I told them I've been having girls with me on weekend)

b) Your new haircut is terrible. It doesn't look good at all.

(GRRRRRR........how dare you make fun of my hair)

c) B|tch's Friends : Hey look at this guy. You think he has a gf?
B|tch : No he doesn't
STB: What makes you think so? You don't know me and you
didn't ask me if I have a gf? So why do you said that I
have no gf?
B|tch : Every girl is too good for you. You are nothing.
Therefore, I can conclude you don't have a gf and never
will
B|tch Friends :

(Now I am getting pissed off)

These are just a few examples only of how I get put down by these girls. They are making me angry and insecure and each them they insulted me, I will DEFINITELY give them a piece of their own medicine but I failed to HURT them in return.

I don't care how you guys want me to do it. But I must definitely insult them back to hurt them as much as they hurt me. Give me whatever sharp comebacks that you can think of and I will give it to them.!

 

[Blaaaaat]

Wow! that's just plain mean.

send Click here to them...

Don't know how to handle this kind of comments.

 

[Mr. Latte]

Are you sure you did nothing to deserve this? Most people aren't just gonna walk up to someone and say something like that for no reason.

 

[Juan_Man]

Originally posted by Mr. Latte
Are you sure you did nothing to deserve this? Most people aren't just gonna walk up to someone and say something like that for no reason.

Not true. If the girl is really hot, then she might not have developed any sense of tact, seeing that society told her she didn't have to.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

The best a girl can get from me, is in my pants.

 

[Blaaaaat]

Originally posted by Juan_Man
Not true. If the girl is really hot, then she might not have developed any sense of tact, seeing that society told her she didn't have to.

Some girls are just retarted. I can remember one time this 15y old telling me I was ugly. I never met her, never seen her before in my life. Well, im not a model, but im not ugly either. This girl on the other end, she was bud ugly, I mean ULGY!, I wouldnt even fvck her if she was the last girl on this planet.

She ws the sister of the ex my best friend, so i've seen her a couple of times after this insult. Ans she's not only ugly, she was also dumb (IQ<80). Maybe she was a bit frustrated about life...

How did I reacted at the insult: I told her to shut the fvck up, and before commenting other peoples looks, she should take her bud ugly **** face infront of a mirror, and shut the fvck up.

Yes, the rudeness of her behavior totally pissed me off, if I think back, it still makes my blood boil.

 

[Bonhomme]

Living well is the best revenge

Mr Latte has a point. Women usually act like that when a guy makes a weak advance and/or acts clingy when they don't want him around. Their insults might be girlese for "show us some balls, and make a proper, strong appraoch."

So resolve that your weak days are over and you're too good for this. Just keep the thought in your mind: "I'm too good for this."

The best thing you could do is ignore them. Completely ignore them, meaning, just act as if they're not there. Do not take their bait, and don't even acknowledge their presence by moving away from them. Just go about doing what YOU want to do, and pay no attention. They're pieces of ****, why should you care about them?

I doubt they'll chase after you to **** with you. That's usually the kind of **** grade-school kids do, and indicates serious psychiatric issues. But if they do get in your face, just arrogantly say "to what do I owe this pleasure?", roll your eyes, and go on ignoring them.

Most importantly do everything from a position of strength. If you screw up and make a weak approach, just write the gal off as a loss, stay far away from her, and keep improving. In time you'll develop a strong presence that women will respect.

Stick around and learn from the DJs on this board. Read the DJ Bible, go to the Health and Fitness Board to learn to develop your physical strength, and over time you will become the man who will have the respect of the women.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

You could say something along these lines....

If she is a complete stranger.

"Wow, I saw this on the discovery channel once. The heartless b*tches of (insert location). Man, I never thought I'd actually get this close to one. Hey could you sign my shirt so I have proof that I was almost bested by one of you. While you're at it, write down your address as well, and I'll send you a box of special cyanide/rat poison chocolates for Valentines day, OK Sweetheart?....bye bye, now"

Walk away laughing.

The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[Blaaaaat]

haha, or maybe something like this:

"Wow, don't let is show so obvious that your parents failed in teaching you manners."

walk away laughing.

p.s.
Bonnhommes advice is the right one.

 

[DankNuggs]

Until you truely believe that the simple fact that she doesn't stand a chance to date you/ know you/ be your friend, you will never get the best of her or them.



Yelling random insults is classless and should be on Jerry Springer. Its like chasing after an ex, the harder you chase, the faster they run, it doesn't solve anything although it seems like it should. You think yelling insults and causing pain will make you feel better about yourself. Its hollow.

Random girls/people putting you down sounds like the most trashy, low class thing you could ever see. They are trying to elicit both a feeling and response from you. A feeling of despair and a response of backing down. Give them neither.

That sucks man...Don't worry about it an don't let it get to you

 

[princelydeeds]

SimplyTheBest, Im curious how old are you and how old are they? That is really immature, any woman who acts like that has to be super young and stupid.

 

[italostud]

First of all, you shouldn't be worried about collecting some prefab comebacks. If you're letting people disrespect you like that then there are some problems with your personality. People generally only pick on people like that because they know that you won't fight back. You are probably a pretty passive individual. What happens in any social situation is that a sort of heirarchy is developed. Alphas on top and, well, you on the bottom. Study some social theory or something.

 

[Mr. Fingers]

Time to Turn the Tables

a) Even a guy like you can get a date.

(Now what the f*ck.!! How dare they said that to me when I told them I've been having girls with me on weekend)

This is the source of your problem. Your sense of self is so fragile, your reality so uncentered, that all it takes is a passing comment or insult to disrupt your flow and get you upset.

Instead of taking girls so personally see this for what it is...a SHYT TEST! They want to see if you will get upset like a little chump or if you will set them straight without losing your cool. They want you to TAKE CONTROL.

a) Pause and look her in the eye with a slight smile that shows you are unfazed, then say:

"Yeah I do have great luck with the ladies, probably because I avoid getting involved with GIRLS LIKE YOU."

Usually this will turn the tables and then she will ask why you said that (notice that the roles are reversed and now she is AFC, qualifying herself to YOU) When she asks, simply reply:

"I know your type. I can tell just by looking in your eyes. You wouldn't stand a chance with me."

If she keeps prodding, that's when you drop some qualification on her and let her know exactly what you want in a woman and that she doesn't measure up. but it's okay because you can just be "friends"

b) Your new haircut is terrible. It doesn't look good at all.

(GRRRRRR........how dare you make fun of my hair)

Once again you are falling into their trap. This a test designed to weed out the suckas from the MEN!

Sucka's Reaction to the Test = Getting offended, Trying to find out WHY she said/did whatever.

MAN's Reaction = Laugh it off, turn it around so that she is the one seeking his approval, misinterpret insults as compliments or ignore it completely.

Here are 2 things off the top of my head

b1) Look her dead in the eye for a few moments then continue your conversation as if she had never spoken. "So anyways, like I was sayin..."

b2) "Oh yeah? Well at least I'm not ticklish!" (Then tickle her till she pisses on herself..that'll teach her some humility!)

c) B|tch's Friends : Hey look at this guy. You think he has a gf?
B|tch : No he doesn't
STB: What makes you think so? You don't know me and you
didn't ask me if I have a gf? So why do you said that I
have no gf?
B|tch : Every girl is too good for you. You are nothing.
Therefore, I can conclude you don't have a gf and never
will

You're biggest mistake here was "What makes you think so? etc etc" You shouldn't have taken her remark seriously. As soon as the girl assumed you didn't have a GF, you had a great opportunity right there for some C&F:

c) "Hmm, sounds like a bit of wishful thinking on your part. But it's cool, you are right after all. I don't have time for GIRLfriends. I prefer WOMEN over girls any day. But I wouldn't expect you to understand..."

Moral of this post:

Never let them see that they are getting to you.

Remember your ABC's (Always Be Cool)


peace

FINGZ

 

[Mr. Fingers]

Double Post

D'OH!

 

[Player_Supreme]

The Rules To Become A Player!

A Player...


* keeps his emotions to himself.
* is his own best company.
* doesn't get paid for screwing. He gets his pay from always having
the right thing to say to his females.
* with sense never lets a female go who still has some trick in her.
* is really a b*tch who has reversed the game.
* should be prince charming to the females. They should think you're
GOD!!!
* should always have one thought in his head, Play Or Die!!!
* should control the whole female, be the boss of her life, even her
thoughts.
* should always be determined in any and everything.
* should always recognize and respect other Players.
* should never accept anything but his money.
* must be serious!!!
* has to be married, married to the game!!!
* could cut his d*ck off and still Play his ass off!!!
* is the lonliest person in the world.
* wants any female who can make him money.
* cannot feel like a Player with one female, raise a stable.
* loves it when his women love him.
* has to use great pressure.

Women...

* A Player with a fine female has to keep his game tight.
* Females always try to find a weakness in a Player.

* A pretty black female and a white female are alike. They will try
destroy your stable and leave you broke.
* The way you start with a female is the way you end with her. Play the Game
hard from the start.
* If you chase a female you get a weak one, if you stalk her you get
a strong one.
* Don't give a trife broke female a second chance.

* Always keep your women on mental file.
* There is nothing more important than what makes a new female tick
and why. Make her tell you her life story.
* The tougher you are, the more she will love you.
* Make her convince you, that she should be your girl.
* It's better to have no female than half of a female.
* If your women act up, put them in check quick.
* Never put two new females together, they will plot on you.
* It thrills women when their Man makes a mistake. Don't make any.
* Never let your women break your rules.
* Never let your women get loud with you.
* Never neglect your women.
* If your women gets stolen the reason why is because your game was
not tight enough.
* A female in strange surroundings is more dependent on her Man.
.
* Women think twice about leaving a rich Player, so work on your front and clout.
* For every girl that leaves you, get two.
* A Player should always tell his women something new everyday to hold
them.
* Run your women like a business.
* Keep your women well maintained.

Remember...


* there isn't a female you can't do without.
* just like drugs, don't get high off your own supply and what your
supply is, is women.
* the world is nothing but a b*tch, and you are her pimp!!!!
* earn your Player degree in Playerology.
* you are not a gentleman, you are a Player!!!
* you only get great by Playing by the rules.
* you don't have to Play, you got to Play the game.
* it's a violation of the Players laws to quit a female who is bringing
you love and attention.
* the Players game is not for kids.
* never confide in your women, keep your thoughts a secret.
* Playing isn't a sex game, it's a mind game.
* just like a company, downsize and upgrade if you have to.
* true friends mean more than any female.
* in a Player's life, yesterday means nothing, today is everything!!!
* the game of being a Player is like a chess game, you must think before you move.


Always...


* find ways to keep your women without kissing their ass.
* seek knowledge about the game.
* be positive in everything you do, especially in this game.
* take care of the little things and if the female is qualified make
her take care of the big things.
* keep your mind on your money and your own life!!!
* live by the rules you set down on your women.
* keep the Player / female relationship well defined.
* be a puzzle to your women, that's a way how to keep them.
* remember what you are, a Player!!!
* remember, the only heaven for a Big Daddy Player is one filled with women and money.
* remember a Player's wardrobe has to be neat and clean, his ride must
be eye catching.
************************

this doesn't matter if your looking for your long lost soul mate or into this thing to be a player as this site is suppose to be about.

You lose your game and you lose "the" game.

 

[THA REALNESS]

Arguing with women is a no-no.

It's like arguing with a child ,or a homo-sexual.

You're the guy, even if your right ,in their mind and the rest of world 's opinion your wrong just for even arguing with them.

So why bother?

Have you ever considered that maybe you
let people get too close to you too soon and maybe you see this as being disrespectful to you.SimplyTheBest?

Because it doesn't sound like that they're trying to 'test' you.

Quite frankly it sounds like kiddy stuff to me.

My advice is to keep that pimp-hand strong but only put it down when have to.


P.S. Where these female freinds of yours?

 

[THA REALNESS]

Originally posted by italostud
First of all, you shouldn't be worried about collecting some prefab comebacks. If you're letting people disrespect you like that then there are some problems with your personality. People generally only pick on people like that because they know that you won't fight back. You are probably a pretty passive individual. What happens in any social situation is that a sort of heirarchy is developed. Alphas on top and, well, you on the bottom. Study some social theory or something.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.Pretty Much.

 

[GTS Jeff]

Originally posted by Blaaaaat
Wow! that's just plain mean.

send Click here to them...

Don't know how to handle this kind of comments.

or do the click here manuever yourself...spit on her hahaha

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Tha Realness is right on about the pimp hand, very good stuff.

And the Bad-a$$ Canadian I may have to borrow the rat poison chocolate idea sometime, that was also real good.

 

[SimplyTheBest]

DAMN Those B|tches!

Somehow if girls try to get the best out of you, one thing I can do here is not to act emotional. But I failed to do that. Probably it's because I am an insecure person with low self esteem. That's why I get offended so easily with their remarks.

The more I tried to beat them in their own game, the more I lose. It's as if I have been set up to play their game by their rules and I am losing badly. I even thought of giving them neg hits but I was wondering if it is going to work.

I've gave them a few cynical remarks but it doesn't hurt them at all.It looks like giving them a piece of their own medicine ain't work. So if they're gonna pissed me off to the extreme, then I am going to give them some flat wheels on their cars and perhaps a pack of sugar in the gas tank. Just kidding.

I read a book called "Get anyone to do anything" and it has a chapter written on how to handle people who is trying to give you a hard time. Based on what I've read so far, the first thing the author said is "Never ever get defensive. If you do, you've lost"

Secondly, always change the game. Do not answer their questions directly but answer their question by changing your answer to a question. Then give a different answer. Always remain calm. If you answer their question, you're fighting from a weak position because you have to defend yourself.

Guys, what I don't understand is "How can I ask a question to answer their question?" See my previous example :

B|tch's Friends : Hey look at this guy. You think he has a gf?
B|tch : No he doesn't
STB: What makes you think so? You don't know me and you
didn't ask me if I have a gf? So why do you said that I
have no gf?
B|tch : Every girl is too good for you. You are nothing.
Therefore, I can conclude you don't have a gf and never
will
B|tch Friends :

The more question I asked, the more ammos I am giving them. Hmm........did I read the book correctly and understand it?