how many times to you call or text girl before moving on if she don't respond

[thatguywithtwohats]

Do you do the three strikes rule, or is one time enough?

 

[bigneil]

If they don't respond to my first text, it's next. Same for email. Same if they say they'll call me back and don't call back. If I call, I might try a few times to reach them.

 

[mahoney]

im massively behind on replying to emails right now, never mind texts which i basically never reply to unless its someone setting something up. also i rarely pick up my phone as i don't really like phonecalls much - so i don't really apply any kind of rule about this onto anyone else

 

[pdx1138]

Don't call or text again, if you were the last one to text, especially if there was a question you asked for her to respond to.

Multiple texts to women, without them responding makes you look desperate. plain and simple.


Wait 2-3 weeks. If you don't hear from her within that time, she's not interested.

If you hear from her a month or 2 later....she's likely bored with no other options.

 

[thevilittletroll]

for me a lot depends on how many girls i currently have in my rotation. thats the whole reason for the theory of spinning plates. if one is not responding one of the other 5 chicks your talking to will. that way your not worried about it and you always have a backup plan. but generally i do like to use the 3 strikes rule: #1. send a general funny text that does not require a response on her part, if she's attracted to you she probably will respond, if not no big deal. #2. send another text letting her know what you are already doing and seeing if she's busy "i'm at bar x with friends, what are your plans tonight?" #3. leave a voicemail basically with the same type message as previous text. i recommend doing this all during the week. if she's a high quality girl she will probably be busy all weekend with god know how many dudes she already has in her phone. i like sending these messages mon, wed, & friday afternoon. if i get no response at all, i wont text or call her again. i wont delete her #, that way if i see her out again i'll try to attract her all over again, then the cycle starts over. after that and still no response? you can pretty much consider yourself friend zoned and try to hit on her friends.

 

[synergy1]

It depends, its usually one and done if they don't make an effort to respond to the first call/text. However if they have responded, I will sometimes find that they won't engage for weeks. As I have a ton on my list which I am trying to get with, I let them chill for a while and occasionally reach out but am more than busy enough with the few who are talking at a particular time period. If there is ever a few instances were they make up excuses to not meet up, I usually ignore them thereafter. Not happenin. If they work a lot, maybe keep it up though...you gotta use your judgement on these.

 

[Tyson420]

not even my mom texts/calls me back.

Forever Alone.

 

[Strelok]

I have no plan now cause Im in a LTR so im not into this part of the game, however if I were single I would stick to the 1 strike rule simply because there's no way a girl doesnt get a message or "forget" to answer.

Even if she "forgets" to answer its an obvious signal that she is not interested/playing games so nothing good is coming out of her anyway, it's a logical decision based on evaluations not protecting my ego.

 

[Gray The Prince]

2 or 3 times at most when it comes to texting and even then, I don't text repeatedly if a woman doesn't reply to my first one. I use to make that mistake a lot when I first started getting out there two years ago.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

If it's the first time I call or text them. They only get one shot.
If I'm actively talking or pursuing them, and they stop replying.. Then I stop as well. I keep texting and calling to a minimum and sometimes it bites me in the ass, but I'm a busy guy with work and other things, so I don't usually have the time to keep up.

 

[Scars]

I'll usually give it two strikes. And the second time I usually just straight up call them. Only because I am guilty of doing this too. I am actually extremely bad at getting back to people. When I'm busy and I see a call/text I will read it, and plan to write back later, but sometimes I'm just not in the mood for it, and I honestly do forget. Even with girls I fancy a lot.

It also depends how often you guys talk and other variables. A gf, or a girl I've already fvcked, or someone I have known consistently for months I can easily forgive.. but if it's just a random broad I started talking to 3 days ago I could careless. Don't write me back? Ok, peaceee.

-Scars

 

[Lucifero]

Depending on the situation, once or twice.

 

[thevilittletroll]

i observed something very interesting over the weekend. its kind of a no brainer, but i'll share it with you anyways. i saw a really hot girl at the bar i was in, she was with a girl friend and a guy friend. i was sitting next to her while watching baseball on tv, just listening in on the conversation. it was mostly boring small talk between all 3, with the hot girl not participating much at all. what she was doing was texting on her phone the entire time. she was texting the entire time unit they left around 2:00am. this was a fri night none the less with her all decked out in sexy, hey i want you to notice me attire. i dont know if the guy she was texting was her bf, i just know it was a dude, i saw the name on the huge screen on her phone. people in this day and age are connected to their cell phones, especially if its a smart phone, 24/7. wether its checking their status on facebook, uploading pics they just took in the bar, and yes text messages. its easy to respond to a text message and only takes a second. its not always logistical for her to call you, but texts are easier. this was a very hot girl in a social venue, at a peak time for social interaction, and she was completely consumed with whoever was on the other end of the texts. so bottom line is, if she's not responding she's not attracted to you. think about what you would do if some fat chick was blowing up your phone? you just ignore her and hope she gets the hint.