How many times to call before giving up

[mahon83050]

My belief is, if you call a girl and she does not call you back, you give it one more shot. If she does not call back after that, she is clearly not interested. I think some girls might not call back after the first time because they are playing some mind games. They might think, "let me see how far he will go to get me" or let me keep him anxious. What is your guys take on this and has this ever happened to you?

 

[Big Pappy]

I think it needs to be said that if you are of the mindset that says "I just called her once. I now have to wait 2.58 days before I can call again or she will think I'm desperate", than calling once is probably too often.

Why are you wasting time filling your mind with the number of times you call a girl? Remember, you're supposed to have several girls to choose from; if the first one is not available, call the next girl.

For example:

Last night, I got three phone numbers: Raven, Kristen and Margie. Each have their own unique charms and I'll be just as pleased to spend time with any or none of them. I place them in a queue, First in - First out rotation.

Tomorrow will be Friday, so I'll wait until Sunday and ask them to join me for an activity on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, respectively. If Raven is not available (not home, doesn't want to, conflicting schedules, whatever) I'll just call Kristen for the next available date in my calendar. And so on. If none are available, I'll try to reassess the signs they gave me to make me feel they were interested in me in the first place. Then I'll go back out and see what else happens.

Remember, there are no rules, everybody is different!

 

[Ricky]

Mahon,

I think some of the things I've read are the following

1) First call after receiving number- Use a way off call blocking it. That way if you get an answering machine, you aren't forced to leave a message. Someone please remind me how to callblock by the way, forget what numbers

If you did leave a message I would give it at least two calls and have been known to give it 3.

Persistence can pay sometimes.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

ricky - *67 i believe to block calls - may bedifferent in your area .
I wuld usually leave a meesage only once - if she doesn't call back then I wouldn't call again. But I can't help get over the feeling that how about if my mesage was accidentally erased and she doesn't have my number? So I may call again to re-confirm receipt of first message. Never leave a message If this is your first time talking to her, only talk to her and not a machine.

 

[DankNuggs]

I call once, if i get a message, I leave a nice one telling her I hope she's doing well, give me a call etc...

If she doesn't call me back, then I would be safe to assume she has low interest, I'll set something up with someone else...To tell you the truth, if she's playing 'games' before she even gets back to you the first time, she is obviously a waste of time...Find someone mature enough to act like an adult, not a child...

 

[Halo]

As my confidence has increased, I find myself bending the "rules" more and more to suit me. It doesn't mean the concept of limiting your calling isn't a good idea (because it is), but don't get hung up on the specifics. Remember you are a man. You call whenever you damn well feel like it. A girl with genuine interest isn't likely to calculate your phone call frequency, or at least isn't likely to think of it as something that makes or breaks the deal.

I don't use the caller ID blocking feature, because I know a lot of people, myself included, do not even pick up the phone if it comes up as an unknown caller. Leaving messages is something I do not like to do, but on the other hand it sometimes works as an interest gauge. A girl with decent interest will often call back. I would advise that in your message you don't say something like "call me back", since that puts all the control in her hands, but rather something like "sorry I missed you, maybe I'll catch you later" which translates to "if you are lucky I will call you again, and you better pick up the phone that time". Sometimes I will add "or feel free to give me a call at..."

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Halo
I don't use the caller ID blocking feature, because I know a lot of people, myself included, do not even pick up the phone if it comes up as an unknown caller. Leaving messages is something I do not like to do, but on the other hand it sometimes works as an interest gauge. A girl with decent interest will often call back. I would advise that in your message you don't say something like "call me back", since that puts all the control in her hands, but rather something like "sorry I missed you, maybe I'll catch you later" which translates to "if you are lucky I will call you again, and you better pick up the phone that time". Sometimes I will add "or feel free to give me a call at..."

Now THAT'S the ticket. Avoidance doesn't work, hiding behind caller ID blocking or not leaving a message does not show any confidence. Leaving your name and saying something to the effect of "if you are lucky we'll cross paths" plus letting her know that you are moving on with or without her shows major control and confidence on your part.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Halo
I don't use the caller ID blocking feature, because I know a lot of people, myself included, do not even pick up the phone if it comes up as an unknown caller. Leaving messages is something I do not like to do, but on the other hand it sometimes works as an interest gauge. A girl with decent interest will often call back. I would advise that in your message you don't say something like "call me back", since that puts all the control in her hands, but rather something like "sorry I missed you, maybe I'll catch you later" which translates to "if you are lucky I will call you again, and you better pick up the phone that time". Sometimes I will add "or feel free to give me a call at..."

Now THAT'S the ticket. Avoidance doesn't work, hiding behind caller ID blocking or not leaving a message does not show any confidence. Leaving your name and saying something to the effect of "if you are lucky we'll cross paths" plus letting her know that you are moving on with or without her shows major control and confidence on your part.

 

[Slickster]

I don't leave messages on chicks machines.

Why give her the power?

I just try back whenever I feel like it.

 

[DJ_Dork]

Be a dude.. have a rotation of girl's numbers like the guy says.

If you call once, get VM.. leave one. If she doesn't return it in a day. Ignore her and contact her again 5 days later. This time DO NOT leave a voicemail.

If she is using a cell phone - she is playing games since she sees your digits. After this 2nd call with no answer, DO NOT CONTACT HER IN WHATEVER MANNER. Relationships/Dating is a mutual thing - it should never be a one way thing for guys.

Call other girls, do your own thing.

 

[Ricky]

One thing that is a good thing to do if you aren't doing it now, is to ask them when you get the number "When would be a good time to give you a call during the week"

Normally when I do this, I haven't had trouble getting ahold of them.

After she tells you what time, I say I'm pretty busy the first part of the week, but I'll call you Wednesday at 7 o clock or whenever it fit into her schedule.