How many of you would stand up for your chick?

The Truth

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I've been reading a lot of threads here lately about defending chicks and stuff. I notice lots of the guys here are quick to think the worst of chicks and talk about standing up TO them. But what I want to know is how many guys would ever stand up FOR a chick?

One of my close mates got in trouble with his girlfriend because when they were out at some office party together some drunk guys made some crude comments, slapped her ass and groped her tits. She went crying to her boyfriend and he did nothing about it and tried to make excuses for them like "they're drunk" or "they probably meant it as a joke". She accused him of being a wimp and a coward and said she doesn't feel safe with him.

I tried to give him the benefit of my wisdom and told him SHE is right! He behaved like a spineless wuss and let these guys disrespect his girlfriend and him! I could understand if these were some bad ass gangstas with knives or whatever but they were guys from the office!

What would you guys do?
 

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The Truth said:
I tried to give him the benefit of my wisdom and told him SHE is right! He behaved like a spineless wuss and let these guys disrespect his girlfriend and him! I could understand if these were some bad ass gangstas with knives or whatever but they were guys from the office!

What would you guys do?
She is his girlfriend not yours. Its his concern not yours.

If he doesn't protect her and acts like a wuss in a situation like this, then in time she will lose respect for him and leave him all by herself.

Keep your nose out of other people's personal relationships (unless they ask you to intervene in which case your loyalty lies with your friend and not his girlfriend).

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DJDamage said:
She is his girlfriend not yours. Its his concern not yours.

If he doesn't protect her and acts like a wuss in a situation like this, then in time she will lose respect for him and leave him all by herself.

Keep your nose out of other people's personal relationships (unless they ask you to intervene in which case your loyalty lies with your friend and not his girlfriend).
I haven't intervened. I only offered him my advice when he was telling me about the situation. It's upto him if he wants to take it.
 

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The Truth said:
I haven't intervened. I only offered him my advice when he was telling me about the situation. It's upto him if he wants to take it.
Good.

One last thing I want to say regarding the advice you gave him. He was a wuss to begin with, that is why his coworkers were disrespecting him because they knew he wouldn't do jack sh1t.

Respect and Fear are two things that this guy was lacking in his workplace, and if you don't at least have one of them going for you, you are going to be stepped on.

DJD
 

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where I come from, the girl's boyfriend sometimes doesn't have time to intervene if his friends are quicker than him and get to the bad guys first.

let's not forget our manners here guys. I don't care what the hell you think you are, that you're Don Juan or Casanova or Johnny Womaniser, I know you all like to 'play it cool' and 'make women want you' and think the knight-in-shining-armour thing is for the poetic wussies but let me tell you one thing, there's not ONE decent woman (the only ones you should be interested in) in the world who wouldn't appreciate a guy who's a gentleman both in words and actions.

I've stood up for women whose names I didn't even know and will continue to do so.

If a guy doesn't not stand up for his girlfriend, regardless of whether he's smaller/weaker/whatever than the other guy then he's not fit to have a girlfriend in the first place - it's not whether he's actually able to protect her or not, it's whether he'd try to.
 

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I'd take into account everything before dishing out physical violence to some guys that did that to a girl I was with.

Things to consider first are...

1. How much does this chick mean to me?
2. Are the guys that just groped her armed and or very dangerous?
3. Do I know who they are, where they live and where they go at certain times?

If for question 1 she means a lot to me I will consider question 2 and if it fits the bill for them at the moment I will tell her they will pay but at a more opportune time.

If she doesn't believe that I will pay them back and calls me a coward or some such I will dump her immediately for the disrespect and lack of confidence in what I have said as well as tell her she deserved what they did to her for being such a dumb slvt.

If she believes me I will get them when they are vulnerable and by themselves when no one is around to stop me or witness what I do and proceed to kick the ever loving sh!t out of them.

However if I judge them to be drunk and not much of a threat to me I'd probably just skip all of the considerations and tear into them right then and there.

Oh yeah and if the answer to question 1 was she didn't mean very much to me I'd just tell her to forget about it or for us to call the cops and if she dumped me for suggesting either of those courses of action oh well.

I'm not going to risk getting hurt or killed for some chick I just met or who doesn't mean very much to me.
 

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To answer the original post:

Guys the duties of a man toward his woman is to PROVIDE (emotional, physical, spiritual, mental, psycological) and PROTECT his woman.

If she sleeps around...then that's her problem and should be dumped. In that respect, no man should fight for a woman. After all, she is doing something she wanted to do.



However, if she is getting disrespected by an associate or her friend or co-worker...it is HER job to DEMMAND respect from that person. If she does that and they continue with the disrespect...then it is up to her man to bring that respect.


If she is getting disrespected by a stranger...and you are around, you better PROTECT her and do what you have to do. There is no need to fight if you stop the idiot from going further. Or if they are a bunch of them, you don't want to become a "hero" and get hurt. After all, if you are hurt, then who is going to protect her? Instead you do what you have to do to protect her.

The case in your example? I would have hurt one of them quite badly (perhaps even cripple one). In such a fashion that the others would have RAN for cover. Why? Because their disrespect was not in words...their disrespect were literally a battery (physical attack from their part).
 

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The damage I would cause would be life-changing, at least.
 

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KontrollerX said:
I'd take into account everything before dishing out physical violence to some guys that did that to a girl I was with.

Things to consider first are...

1. How much does this chick mean to me?
2. Are the guys that just groped her armed and or very dangerous?
3. Do I know who they are, where they live and where they go at certain times?

If for question 1 she means a lot to me I will consider question 2 and if it fits the bill for them at the moment I will tell her they will pay but at a more opportune time.

If she doesn't believe that I will pay them back and calls me a coward or some such I will dump her immediately for the disrespect and lack of confidence in what I have said as well as tell her she deserved what they did to her for being such a dumb slvt.

If she believes me I will get them when they are vulnerable and by themselves when no one is around to stop me or witness what I do and proceed to kick the ever loving sh!t out of them.

However if I judge them to be drunk and not much of a threat to me I'd probably just skip all of the considerations and tear into them right then and there.

Oh yeah and if the answer to question 1 was she didn't mean very much to me I'd just tell her to forget about it or for us to call the cops and if she dumped me for suggesting either of those courses of action oh well.

I'm not going to risk getting hurt or killed for some chick I just met or who doesn't mean very much to me.
This is solid advice in my opinion.
 

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Just some chick logic....

Without actually being there, without really seeing all that happened before and after said "grabbing". You have to just go on whatever history you have with this friend.

Was she slutting around, joking about how nice of an ass she has, teasing, or sort of daring them to touch. I am not say that her actions should have resulted in this touch, I am asking if some guy just call her bluff?

Your friend picked his battle for some reason, does 'turning away' sound like something he would normally do or is he simply not saying everything that may have happened?

You just have to wonder what the entire story was?

Why didn't she handle it? I have been in a similar situation and running to my man didn't cross my mind at the moment, I handled it, as sweet as I am *bats lashes* I can and would choose to handle it myself instinctively.

So, just reading between the lines here, with my sick and twisted mind, did she stage an elaborate test for him? Did she purposely tease some drunken men to touch, get touched and then tested your friends’ level of "knighthood".

I know this is a strange angle, but women are strange creatures so you may never know.

If it was a test, I think his passiveness gets him an "A+".
 

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if there was not reason for her statement to be false and if she was genuenly concerned, I'd calmly walk up to the guy and while looking at him dead in the eyes say; "my woman don't apreciate you touching her, so keep your hands to your self" then i would walk couple of steps bacwards, and go back to my woman.

If the guy comes looking for me lather....welll....lets just say, he's gona be walking funny for while, and might not be getting any for a while eather.
 

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My friend admits now he SHOULD have said something to the guys at the very least. He has no reason to doubt his girl becos she was only walking past these losers on the way back from the bathroom and never spoke to them. She is a petite young thing so she was probably terrified.

I'm with Warboss Alex on this. I think if you are out with a girl, no matter if its a date, a friend or your wife, a real man would stand up for her and protect her from harm. Its not about being the knight in shining armour or a captain save a ho, its about being a man!
 

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Dude... you'd kick him in the balls? Really?
let me put it this way; IF YOUR LOOKING FOR TROUBLE, CHANCES ARE YOU ARE GONA GET IT.

I just don't perticualry like fighting or breaking a sweat, so the above is probably the most eficient way to get a point accross.
 

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I've had disagreements with people over this kind of thing for a while on this board, but personally I'd stand up to those guys without a doubt! I wouldn't necessarily hit them, but I could not walk away without at least warning them.

How can you respect yourself as a man if you let guys walk all over you like that and feel up your girl?

Maybe it's my traditional values, but a man should take the role of the protector. My girlfriend tells me she feels totally safe in my arms and that's an incredible feeling! Would I let a few drunk punks put any doubts in her head? Hell no!
 

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If the woman is worth a criminal record and bodily injury - or death - then feel free to stand up for her.
Latinoman said:
Guys the duties of a man toward his woman is to PROVIDE (emotional, physical, spiritual, mental, psycological) and PROTECT his woman.
What a load of feminist BS. Notice that the feminists have no problem with the provider/protector part of the traditional patriarchal system, just the parts that require the woman to do anything at all.
 

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Jariel said:
How can you respect yourself as a man if you let guys walk all over you like that and feel up your girl?
couldn't have said it better my self.:rockon:

Visceral said:
What a load of feminist BS. Notice that the feminists have no problem with the provider/protector part of the traditional patriarchal system, just the parts that require the woman to do anything at all.
dude, MEN been doing it since the begining of time, we are the hunters/ protecters, and we always ware (untill this brave new millenium came up)
 

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Visceral said:
If the woman is worth a criminal record and bodily injury - or death - then feel free to stand up for her.
if you're with a woman who isn't worth the risk of that, why be with the woman? (in any case you'd be in the right here, to my knowledge, at least legally)

I'd gladly get arrested if it meant protecting my girlfriend from harm.

come on, you can't be serious here. there's a limit to how far you can go with this 'equality' and 'feminist ****' stuff.

there's some stuff you expect women to do, and there's some stuff you expect men to do, regardless of 'equality'. being a GENTLEMAN is something a man should do, otherwise that man isn't worthy of his balls.

call me old-fashioned if you will.
 

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One of my close mates got in trouble with his girlfriend because when they were out at some office party together some drunk guys made some crude comments, slapped her ass and groped her tits.
Man, I wont even touch a girl on her arm at work in passing anymore for fear of the feminist sexual harrasement machine bearing down at me. Did these guys work with her? If so I have a feeling that there is a bit more of a backstory to this incident.

I'll stand up for a girlfriend, but there is a limit. Unsolicited groping is definetly one of those things that I think requires some type of action. On the other hand, I've been with girls who want me to fight traffic cops when they let people walk across the street in front of me.
 

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It's been a while but in clubs I've come to the rescue of women who were being mistreated by their drunk boyfriends. I haven't gotten into bad fights with them. I've yet to come across a guy who was much of a challenge when he's drunk.
 
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