How many of you are married ?! If so are you sleeping with other women.

[BackInTheGame78]

Currently thinking of getting married, and I can get somewhat nice and decent girls.
As the end goal for me is to have a proper married life, a household that is settled!
And maybe game on the side!
Planning to get minimum 2 chicks even when married, the more the merrier but how idk.
How about you guys who are married?!

Don't be a scumbag.

Have some integrity or else don't get married.

 

[Dr_jitsu]

I don't really subscribe to the "alpha" dogma but I think it applies universally. It's just not a tenable long term lifestyle. I do think people lose steam after 40 but given the right opportunity any person will say yes to some strange.

V, this is for SW 15 (a guy who knows his stuff) also. Lets do away with labels, and just simply say you have a guy who beds lots of women, and in my case was having endless (approximately) 3 month relationships with 3 women at the same time.

What happens is we trade that. I kept picking up/running rotations well into my early 40's. My thinking was...and still is today, that I could not keep doing that forever. So at age 44 I traded it in for a marriage to the highest quality, youngest women I could, basically the best of all my candidates.

I think I made the right decision. I am almost 63 and simply cannot attract women the way I could 20 (or even 10) years ago. My sex is down to once a week (in fact my wife was gone this weekend). But honestly, I've only had the chance to get strange 3 times since I turned 60, so I think it was a good trade off.

And SW15 is correct, things die off after 5 years (it is called the honeymoon period). But that problem can be mitigated through 1, selection of the absolute highest quality woman, and 2, proper relationship management.

 

[jhonny9546]

The statistics are important

Every time I hear you talk about the situation around you, I feel like I’m reliving my own life.


Exactly. And I know how many of them never ended up having kids with their crush — who might still be single — and now they want to cheat 100%, or maybe already have. That said, I’m more interested in the future — the 30–40 and 40–50 phase. I think in 10-year cycles.


Who will they become?


Who will I become?


Also, what you say about relationships is true, but what statistics are good at is “generalizing.”


So you might have someone who’s unhappy having sex only once a week, and someone else who’s more than happy with that low frequency.


You don’t see that in the stats, and I can assure you I have married friends with kids who are happy having sex once a week. And others who are dissatisfied even having it once every three days. It varies from couple to couple, and from moment to moment in the relationship.


What I mean is, I don’t judge someone who’s a “bluepilled beta” in a monogamous relationship with three kids, having sex once a month — if that’s what they truly want.


It’s not always a bad thing, especially when there are other meaningful parts of your life: your career, your kids, growing as a person, becoming the head of your family, having new experiences.


Sex is overrated. When it’s there in the right amounts — even small — and with the right person, that’s enough.


It’s the question everyone here has always asked themselves:
“Will I ever find someone I can have great sex with for the rest of my life, without ever getting tired of them?”

 

[Vanderdonck]

V, this is for SW 15 (a guy who knows his stuff) also. Lets do away with labels, and just simply say you have a guy who beds lots of women, and in my case was having endless (approximately) 3 month relationships with 3 women at the same time.

What happens is we trade that. I kept picking up/running rotations well into my early 40's. My thinking was...and still is today, that I could not keep doing that forever. So at age 44 I traded it in for a marriage to the highest quality, youngest women I could, basically the best of all my candidates.

I think I made the right decision. I am almost 63 and simply cannot attract women the way I could 20 (or even 10) years ago. My sex is down to once a week (in fact my wife was gone this weekend). But honestly, I've only had the chance to get strange 3 times since I turned 60, so I think it was a good trade off.

And SW15 is correct, things die off after 5 years (it is called the honeymoon period). But that problem can be mitigated through 1, selection of the absolute highest quality woman, and 2, proper relationship management.

I hear that and my experience/situation is very similar. Still I believe I can be 95% faithful 95% of the time.

 

[jhonny9546]

things die off after 5 years (it is called the honeymoon period). But that problem can be mitigated through 1, selection of the absolute highest quality woman, and 2, proper relationship management.

This idea of the “planned obsolescence” of a relationship is actually completely true and natural. I believe that many healthy people, once they realize this, start making healthier choices — like having children, creating shared projects, some even start businesses together. Starting a family, in itself, is like opening and keeping a business alive.
There’s more to life than just sex with attractive, young women or guys.
It might sound harsh to say this on a forum like this, but each of us is different.