How many dates without action before you eject?

[devilkingx2]

lmao she messaged me all bent out of shape about what I told her earlier about seeing other people saying. ' WTF you're the only guy I like/care about I keep telling people how lucky I am to have you, i'm not interested in anyone else but you. Those guys are fat and unattractive (guy she went to gym with'.

Then she tried getting out of coming over my place (obvious ****ing) to 'talk about feelings' as I've thrown her off now by making her feel unwanted as I 'randomly' sprung that on her. TOld her I'm not her male girlfriend, i'm a grown as man and she should come over my place. Me - I like you, you like me, come over my place and lets get close. You - lets meet to talk about our feelings, wtf?

I'm not going to fold, I wont meet her out anywhere anymore, If she wants to see me outside of work, it'll be at my place.

Good work man, lay down the law.

"Someone's gonna fvck me this week, will it be you?" Is the mindset you should have while talking to or otherwise dealing with her

 

[Soflobro#3]

The answer to this question is "it's situational" and the way you should act in this situation, in my opinion, is stop giving her free drinks and more of your time (which is exactly what she wants) while she gives you not even a remote chance to ***** (which is exactly what you want at first).

>Free
>Drinks

 

[Korrupt]

I reiterated to her I'm not trying to be her friend and backed off after no action on 6th. Her 'I was going to invite you over my house x day'. bla bla

Her response is the usual response girls give in order to make you feel bad about your decision. This is why calling girls out never works--they will lie. She's essentially saying she was going to have sex with you, but it's just a lie to make you think you messed up. She likely would have kept stringing you along.

 

[newtothis92]

I told her I wanna know by tomorrow night if she's coming over because my time is limited and I want to make plans;

balls in her court 100%

I don't mind if;

She wants to be exclusive
She wants to see other guys & **** me too
She just wants to see other guys

But I will not on any circumstance ' just be her friend'. I've lost my attachment to the outcome and it's a powerful position to be in.

 

[Dash Riprock]

The replies in this post baffle me.

First, I agree in that if you go for a kiss on the first date and she doesn't reciprocate, she's probably not into you and I would recommend backing off. But the rest is kind of comical. You have 90% of the posters on here saying eject if she doesn't put out by the 3rd or 4th date. Yet, these are most of the same guys who b*itch, p*iss, moan, and complain that this chick did this, did that, played games, ghosted, cheated, etc. etc.

So let me get this straight: You want a high value girl, that's not a s*lut, good, attitude, non-Cluster B, hot, all this stuff BUT she has to put out right away or you eject. F*ucking hilarious (and sad...).

Look...

Instead of focusing on how fast you can orgasm with a chick, if she's a keeper in most categories but a little slow in putting out, what's the big f*ucking deal??? It most likely means SHE IS a woman worth waiting for and doing the slow-burn with. Not all women are w*hores who put out right away and the ones that do rarely make good gf's or LTR or marriage material.

The best LTR I ever had was with a hot Croatian woman. We dated and then lived together and were together for a total of 9 years. She was a HB8.5 easily. The breakup was amicable as we just got bored with each other over time, and nothing lasts forever. No hard feelings. But, the point I'm making is we held off on intercourse for about the first two months of dating. It was no big deal. I liked her and she had many of the qualities I was looking for in a LTR. Then, when the time was right, we went for it. Had she scr*ewed me early on, there's no way I would have considered her LTR material, and I think she smartly knew that.

So, moral of the story, it's not always about HOW FAST you can lay a chick--if you want a good one. And, if she does put out on the first couple dates and ends up bat s*hit crazy, you only have yourself to blame.

Good luck.

~Dash

 

[Billtx49]

it's not always about HOW FAST you can lay a chick--if you want a good one. And, if she does put out on the first couple dates and ends up bat s*hit crazy, you only have yourself to blame.

Good luck.

~Dash

It’s all contextual. If a man is highly attractive, he’s used to a fast put out. I think that process actually works against him when he encounters a damaged woman that puts out fast normally just like normal women do when they’re highly attracted…

 

[ubercat]

Had a Croatian girlfriend I went out with for 4 years she was great. It took months to lay her. Given her parents were Fundamentalist Christian's not too surprising. Remember having to jump out her bedroom window when the parents came home ah young crazy times.

I must admit I've changed my mind on this. I used to have a three daye rule then it became 4 and now I probably don't care as long as she's obviously into me AND I've got plates. I think it's a basic training wheels rule for afc types who probably can't work out when a girls just messing them round.

I still think skill does play in though. My last 4 LTRs have been good women from traditional cultures. I still got them all into bed within 4 dates. Although I must admit my current girlfriend still complains about that so in retrospect going a bit slower would have saved me some GBH of the earhole.

 

[devilkingx2]

It’s all contextual. If a man is highly attractive, he’s used to a fast put out. I think that process actually works against him when he encounters a damaged woman that puts out fast normally just like normal women do when they’re highly attracted…

It's not even just attractive men, I'm not particularly good looking and even in my experience if a girl actually likes you she will be very sexual very fast and if she doesn't any move you make will be too soon.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

3. Number is lost thereafter. The reason why you always spin new plates. Monogamy is for cucks.

 

[Spaz]

3. Number is lost thereafter. The reason why you always spin new plates. Monogamy is for cucks.

You got dumped like a used kotex and now acting out all over the forum.

Hows that working out for ur emotional recovery?

 

[Spaz]

how would a blade against your throat do for your recovery?

only have to say where

Aww u must be upset with my post on ur thread loverboy

I did noticed ur attempts at deleting and editing.

A word of advice loverboy; it behooves to reflect 1st before posting something base on emotions

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

You got dumped like a used kotex and now acting out all over the forum.

Hows that working out for ur emotional recovery?

Not an argument.

About a good an argument as a feminist screaming misogyny.

Wtf does ur mean? Short form for being a retard.

Dumped would imply there was a commitment but a cuck like you has absolutely no game.

Do yourself a favor and get your pathetic testosterone level checked.

You mad?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Had a Croatian girlfriend I went out with for 4 years she was great. It took months to lay her. Given her parents were Fundamentalist Christian's not too surprising. Remember having to jump out her bedroom window when the parents came home ah young crazy times.

I must admit I've changed my mind on this. I used to have a three daye rule then it became 4 and now I probably don't care as long as she's obviously into me AND I've got plates. I think it's a basic training wheels rule for afc types who probably can't work out when a girls just messing them round.

I still think skill does play in though. My last 4 LTRs have been good women from traditional cultures. I still got them all into bed within 4 dates. Although I must admit my current girlfriend still complains about that so in retrospect going a bit slower would have saved me some GBH of the earhole.

The problem being, she makes you wait, and ****s her ex or Chad's, the guy who won't give the ring. Of course, when smv craters, you're supposed to raise her baby and play house.

3 or I am out. She can initiate but number is lost. Obv, spin more plates.

 

[Red Legg]

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[newtothis92]

So she turned down coming over thurs 'she doesn't know how she feels anymore, she has anxiety because of what happened to her before' and because I told her I'm going to date other people. I feel a bit bad but I realise I've been getting ****ed around from the get go. So basically this saga is over as she said she wont see me if i 'date other people'. She immediately added new pictures on instagram and is obviously back looking for suitors (if she ever stopped?). I saw pic of this guy she went to gym with (she liked it on instagram) and apparently a guy she was 'unnattracted to' and he's 6'5, roided and a good looking guy. Yeah right!

From now on, kiss on first date minimum, sex by third and always following my gut feeling. I always had a bad feeling with her, even in the best moments and she barely ever flirts, such a cold fish. She would have blown smoke up my ass for another few months until a guy friend like that one became available (he has a gf), I get it now.

 

[ubercat]

Note the qualifier. As long as you are spinning plates. At the time I started dating with my current girlfriend I had two plates. And by plates I mean fuking on the reg.

And by IOIs I mean dates were extended makeout sessions at mine.

Effectively at that time operating from a position of abundance. If you're not seeing that escalation eject.

Everybody s fishing hole is different. When I was dating chicks in their 20s I was far less patient because they are far more fickle.

 

[newtothis92]

She's come crawling back again telling me how much she really likes me. At this point, it's hard to not believe her words, why would she ****ing bother messaging me every single day if she didn't care? Is she just sad this source of attention has had enough and is moving on? Like literally she messages me every single day, long texts how much she likes me. She said she's been smitten with me and can't remember the last guy she was 'talking to' other than me. (BS obviously but still). That guy I talked to in work for his opinion (I knew it was a bad idea) told her that I told him '**** her i'll just **** someone else', and that's one of the reasons she didn't want to come over this week. NEVER talk to anyone else if she knows them.

I left the option open for her to come over my place next week, basically insinuated, if you don't come.. I'm dating other people. I'll be a man of my word and postpone dating other girls until next week, unless I meet one on a night out this weekend.

 

[newtothis92]

Did I **** up or was my response justified?

TLDR:

We've been dating for 2 months (no sex) and she goes to gym with GL roider (she's attracted to him, although says she isn't) and I think it was her ex-bf. I told her after that, I'm gonna start dating and hanging out with other people and she can do same as I feel like she's feeding me a **** burger, expecting me to be exclusive while she's hanging out with guys exploring how she feels about them. That's justified right? Not needy, jealous behaviour, she can do what she wants? How is the appropriate way to respond to that?

Also she lied to me, when we was talking before she was hooking up with some other dude , basically made me a fool. Some guy told me about it after she told him, she admitted it at the time but when it came up again the other day (guy who told me, told her that I was going to **** someone else) she said 'I can't remember that, honestly don't think I would have been seeing someone else when we was talking'. She must have forgot she admitted it, but is now bold face lying it happened. The more I think about it, the more I think she hooked up with that guy she went to gym with, she doesn't seem to even argue with my reasoning, and she kept bringing it up how she went to gym (assumed it was on her own), then finally 'went with some roider', like she was trying to tell me without telling me. This was after I asked her to hang out over mine (looking for excuse to argue and not come over?)

 

[newtothis92]

Update:

She says 'I don't think i'm ever going to be good enough for you, I don't blame you if you date other girls, I want you to be happy and I don't think I can make you happy'.

Translation? I've been ****ing someone else and I'm over it. Amirite?

She said she's been really depressed and suicidal/ not eating. So her being mental is not out of the question either.

 

[Billtx49]

Update:
and I don't think I can make you happy

= You don’t make Her happy…