How long before you text again?

[Greasy Pig]

If you text/email a girl and get no response, how long should you wait before sending another one?
In fact, the DJ lawbook probably dictates you don't ever send two messages in a row to the same girl unless absolutely necessary.
Is it acceptable to send a second message after no response for an hour? 12 hours? A day?
Cheers.

 

[squirrels]

Ask yourself this...what possible scenario could result in her NOT getting your first text, but GETTING your second?

Also ask yourself...have you EVER known a girl to ignore a text message from a guy she had high IL in?

What did you send to her? What are the circumstances by which you acquired her number?

 

[Greasy Pig]

Good point Squirrels. I think guys want to give women the benefit of the doubt such as: "Maybe her phone's broken", "Maybe she lost her phone", "Maybe she accidentally deleted it before she could read it" etc etc.
You're right though, a woman with a high IL will respond immediately.

But just out of interest, if by some amazing confluence of bizarre circumstances she didn't get the first message, what's an acceptable amount of time to wait before sending another one, if you do send another one at all?
I think if it was to set up a date, I wouldn't send another one at all.

Let's assume she's a girl you met at the weekend and got her number at the bar as she left to catch a cab and you were texting to begin a conversation that could end in you setting up a date.
And let's assume the second message isn't: "Hey, did you get my message this morning?" but something else completely random.

 

[jophil28]

Hey G.P.
Under the circumstances that you describe I would have called her to consolidate rapport.
Women will give a phone call from a new guy more weight than a text. Even an email carries more clout than a text.

Save the texts for confirming details of where and when to meet after you have invited her out by phone.

To answer your question- Don't bother to send her another signal . I have the sad duty to inform you that she did not reply because she does not want to.

 

[DangNammit]

Good point Squirrels. I think guys want to give women the benefit of the doubt such as: "Maybe her phone's broken", "Maybe she lost her phone", "Maybe she accidentally deleted it before she could read it" etc etc.
You're right though, a woman with a high IL will respond immediately.

But just out of interest, if by some amazing confluence of bizarre circumstances she didn't get the first message, what's an acceptable amount of time to wait before sending another one, if you do send another one at all?
I think if it was to set up a date, I wouldn't send another one at all.

Let's assume she's a girl you met at the weekend and got her number at the bar as she left to catch a cab and you were texting to begin a conversation that could end in you setting up a date.
And let's assume the second message isn't: "Hey, did you get my message this morning?" but something else completely random.

Based on your assumptions, I would do this... First text no response - maybe she didn't get it - has happened before. My second text would be, "Hi - Either you didn't get my first text or you are ignoring me?? "

If no response, I'd text her every 3 min until she replies... actually, i'd move on without another attempt...

 

[squirrels]

But just out of interest, if by some amazing confluence of bizarre circumstances she didn't get the first message...

I think you're missing the point. :woo:

 

[jonwon]

There isn't anyway she wont get the message, if her phone is turned off, the message is stored on the fancy system and is sent to the phone when it is turned on, even with voice messages.

I can't think of any reason at all where a text would not get through, but saying that I did have a dodgy phone a few years back, I was seeing two girls, I hadn't recieved a text from either of them, bumped into a mate of mine whilst out, he asked me why I hadn't been returning his texts.

I took the battery out, put it back in and BAM, about 9 texts, progressivly getting angry at me for not responding to texts over the days from the girls I was dating.

So I guess it could happen, but what can you do? still in that scenario I got the texts even after a week, when I'd reset the phone.

Normally, i'd give it a few days and send another text, if you dont get a response then' i'd leave it.

Though also one has to keep in mind that some guys are so desperate, they expect a response almost straight away, i've had girls reply to texts a day later.

I wouldn't bombard her phone, but even then i've known girls give in after constant bombardment of texts - but these are the types of girls who dont have the for-sight to bar the number and use the constant attention as a means to award thier ego - Persistancy can work, but normally 99% of the time, it just makes you seem desperate and needy. - Also if you bombard her phone, when all she is, is busy, it will mess up the interaction, personnally, I wouldn't advise a phone text bombardment, but dont be surpised if you hear it worked in some random situation.

Also if her IL was very high, she'd probably text you, regardless if you sent a text or not.

Most of the time its not a good sign, so I dont want to give you false hope.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I'd be inclined not to send consecutive un-answered texts. If a girl has high IL, she's not going to leave a text unanswered.
Instead of boosting her ego by re-texting, I think it's best to let sleeping dogs lie (pun intended).
I went on a date with this girl in February, we had a great night and she said she would like to catch up again another night.
I emailed her about three days later telling her to meet me at this nice dessert place the following Friday night and no response.
I resisted the urge to get in touch again.
Maybe a follow-up phone call instead of text/email is the way to go...

 

[Reyaj]

90% of the time texts go through... but I've seen it happen where they don't. I'd wait a day and send 1 more... if not who cares.. what are you wasting 20 seconds of your life sending the follow up text????

 

[tihash]

Put your ego aside and text again. Why not? It only takes a few seconds as Jayer said. Do you want the pu$$y or no? Having said all that, it appears unlikely she is interested. But girls are weird and it wouldn't be the first time a girl did respond later.

My advice: instead of a second text, wait a day or 2 and then call. Or, if you must text again, try "Playing hard to get already?" They almost always react to that.

 

[quicklearner]

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Greasy Pig

"If you text/email a girl and get no response, how long should you wait before sending another one?"

NEVER, NEVER EVER

But this worked for me once.

I accidently sent a second message to the first girl, but it was meant to be
for the second one I trying for.

Amazingly it got a response, nothing ever came of it, as i had no time for a women who reject my first contact/advance, even if she begged me for sex.

So don' do it. Don't compromise your principles for women.

 

[john siegal]

try text blasting to several chiks....one of them will respond...

 

[Donnie Darko]

Do not send anymore text messages.

Wait 2 days and then CALL her on the phone.

Stop initiating texting with girls unless you are in college or high school.

It is OK to respond to some of the texts that you receive from girls but you don't have to respond to all of them and you shouldn't respond to all of them.

Try calling girls instead of texting them.

 

[boomerick]

G.P.----

Why not go out and work on your car, or go climbing, or sailing, or to hang with your friends, or watch a movie you've been waiting to see, or go camping, or get a new video game or go do any other activity that's interesting to you?

Don't waste your time trying to "recipe" or "connect the dots" this chick.

Spend your time doing stuff you like.

As far as her "interest level" goes........

February??????.....Really????.......

If there was any real interest she would have contacted you ........

BACK IN FEBRUARY!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you really had any clue you wouldn't be writing about her on this forum in......

MAY!!!!

If a chick has a "high interest level" she will claw through walls to get to you.....

This chick won't be bothered to even chip a nail!!

See my NEWB signature line

Over and Out

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

In a perfect world, yes, a girl with interest would absolutely text back at her earliest convenience.

But is that a valid way to gauge interest realistically? I mean, don't girls play these games? There was just a post here about 'dating tips for women' encouraging them to NOT RETURN CALLS. Its ridiculous.

 

[boomerick]

For every one girl that plays games there are thousands who don't.

Why beat your head against a wall???

You could have a girl who would claw through that same wall to be with you !!

Over and Out.

 

[Falcon25]

The rule of two. Wait a couple days, text again. Then, you know for sure. Simple as that. Sometimes people are busy and can't get to stuff. But there is no excuse for missing a call or text twice. There should never be a third try on your part.

 

[2crudedudes]

Last number I got, I waited 3 days, and then CALLED her. She didn't pick up. Called a second time the next day, then 'nexted'. No harm, no foul.

 

[Colossus]

The general rule is never.

I concur with the others that occasionally a message wont make it through, but this is really rare and you cant be giving your female prospects the benefit of the doubt.

If she does not respond, let it go. Further contact will almost always make you look bad and probably sink your ship if it hast already.

 

[Todd Preston]

This is a loaded question...

The answer is..."it depends!"

It also depends on her age. 20's year olds are totally fvked up. 30's...starting to come to reality. But, if the chick has high IL...she will respond.

If you know this chick and she doesn't respond to your text...you text her again like nothing is wrong (let face it...people are busy as fcvk these days).


If you hardly know her...then its a judgment call. Texting a chick a 2 times with no response is no big deal.

No more than 2 times with no response...then 1 phone call asking her "wtf babe...i thought we had something goin on. Call me later."

No harm no foul. She gave you her number...now use it.