How I TWISTED this HB with quick wits.. A MUST READ

[MindNsoul]

I've been on 2 dates with this very hot girl in NYC in the past 3 weeks. (hot girl, an 7.5 for sure) I've made sure that both dates were NOT ON THE WEEKEND (a true dj should understand why).

So this girl seems to be feeling me, we've kissed, touched but no puzzy yet.

So I made the mistake of calling her this morning (friday) and asking if she wanted to go out Saterday night. She said she's comming back from a long trip and won't be able to tell me untill she gets back depending on her she feels.

I immidiately realized I made a few mistakes.

1. I let her know that my saterday was open (it's too new for her to know these things)

2. I put her in a position of power by allowing her to think that she'll be determining if we can go out on saterday.


So after a few quick seconds when I realized what I had done, I said.

Me:
"actualy that's cool, don't worry about it. I was suppose to be going out with an old school friend that night anyway, but hadn't confirmed yet anyway so I'll just do that, so you can give me a call when the time's good for you".

Her:
"but hold up, I might be able to go, I just wasn't sure because I might run into trafic comming back form my trip, causing me to get in late'.

Me:
"Well it was just an idea, cause I had gotten some tickets for a play in the City, but don't worry about. Plus the weekends are usualy crazy for me anyway, I'm sure we'll see eachother when I GET SOME TIME".

Her:
"Wow, it's like that? I mean if that's what you want I guess you can go with whom ever your going with". (very weird tone)

Me:
"Well thanks for understanding, have a to run now, the dog is acting up and needs his sh!t walk. later"

She calls me back 15 minutes later on my cell phone..

Her:
"I think I'll be back in time, are you sure you don't want to go?"

Me:
"Na, sorry boo, I've just confirmed my plans for the weekend, but maybe we can do something during the week, If anything I'll call you to let you know"


After catching how I slipped up I quickly turned it around to make it look like I turned her down and that she missed out on something great. (I never had no damn ticket for a show)

Plus she will learn to value my time next time. Aditionaly she will not get a weekend date from me for the next 30 days. If she want's to meet up I'll only be available from mon-wed.

 

[MickeyOneil]

that seems perfect dude......you did the right thing, and you learned from your mistake.....that's awesome

 

[Kuen1]

Ha Ha Ha....you never even had the tickets. LOL...that's slick. I got a good chuckle out of that one. Nice Move

 

[MindNsoul]

What will happen now is that she'll get home, be tired and misserable after her trip and be sleeping on Saterday night, while she thinks I'm out having a great time and she missed out on something great.

 

[k_hectic]

Awesome. I'm taking some notes.

 

[Frank Zappa]

bravo. Nice moves... ~Zappa

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

smoove!

I like that.

 

[dynamike]

I get the point that you 'changed' the situation all around. But turn her down when she called back? That's just stupid. She might aswell get a call from someone else who wants to 'offer' his Saturday and have a great time, while you'll be sitting in feeling hard to get.

Well, that's my 2 cents.

 

[becker]

I think you did a good job of turning her down, but I'm sort of in agreement with dynamike here in that too often I see people playing it too much by the "rules" here. To me, the only definite rule is that there are no rules.

If I were you, I would have found a way to accept that second invitation from her when she called you on your cell phone without turning her down. You could have said, let me see if I can rearrange my plans so I can do both things, or something along those lines, so you don't miss out on hanging out with her.

Remember, you can play the game, but part of playing the game is also knowing when to fold 'em. This means that you need to realize that a girl is not going to spend the entire weekend thinking about you if she finds other things to do, and if it's with other guys, you've lost out (but you did win the game of "chicken" that you were playing with her, but who really cares now that you're sitting at home all weekend when you could be in her company). I remember making a mistake like this in the past, and I never made it again. A girl I liked and I kept playing these touch and go games with each other, and I was too hard to get, so she sort of gave up when another guy came along who gave her the attention she sought.

In the end, the stupid part about all this is that I can only picture you and this girl, both alone at home doing nothing over the weekend when you might both prefer each other's company.

 

[Mr. Latte]

I'm with Becker on this one....you won, but you still lost.

 

[Brak]

i agree,
I would of accepted when she called back. This way she feels lucky that you are able to hang with her. She obviously wants to hang but didnt want to seem like it untill you ditched her.
You got her in the palm of your hand.

 

[Satan Psycho]

Two words: Pu$$y Control

 

[Krassus]

That was smoothly played, i agree, but i'm with the guys above on this one. I guess it could pay off in the long run, and may even get you laid sooner, but perhaps you should try taking this a little less seriously. When she called back, i would have told her that i'm gonna talk to my friend to reschedule and then get back to her. Then i'd call back and say that i just gave my friend the tickets to go with her cousin.

Edit: Nevermind. I just thought about this some more and realized that doing so would make her think that she's more important to me than even an old friend, and once again place her in a position of power. And since she obviously likes playing games, that would NOT be a good thing. Its like chess! You made the right move

 

[MindNsoul]

Originally posted by becker
I think you did a good job of turning her down, but I'm sort of in agreement with dynamike here in that too often I see people playing it too much by the "rules" here. To me, the only definite rule is that there are no rules.

If I were you, I would have found a way to accept that second invitation from her when she called you on your cell phone without turning her down. You could have said, let me see if I can rearrange my plans so I can do both things, or something along those lines, so you don't miss out on hanging out with her.

Remember, you can play the game, but part of playing the game is also knowing when to fold 'em. This means that you need to realize that a girl is not going to spend the entire weekend thinking about you if she finds other things to do, and if it's with other guys, you've lost out (but you did win the game of "chicken" that you were playing with her, but who really cares now that you're sitting at home all weekend when you could be in her company). I remember making a mistake like this in the past, and I never made it again. A girl I liked and I kept playing these touch and go games with each other, and I was too hard to get, so she sort of gave up when another guy came along who gave her the attention she sought.

In the end, the stupid part about all this is that I can only picture you and this girl, both alone at home doing nothing over the weekend when you might both prefer each other's company.

What you fail to realize is that I already tolder her I had tickets to something special. So had I turne around and said yes now, WHERE THE FVCK AM I GOING TO GET THOSE IMMAGINARY TICKETS I JUST TOLD HER ABOUT ????

Also Canceling plans with OLD FRIENDS will give her too much priority too quickly. after all I've only been talking to this girl for less than a month. WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD SHE TAKE PRECIDENCE OVER OLD FRIENDS?

 

[jbbrain]

dude..you lied...?

whatever fvck! Fvck that girl!

Too much typing on internet, too little getting it on..fvck other girls in the meantime

but clever way of turning things around btw

 

[Craig Reeves]

Hmmm....

It sounds to me like you're playing TOO hard to get. This will only lead to her own frustration and eventually trying to get over you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by MindNsoul
What you fail to realize is that I already tolder her I had tickets to something special. So had I turne around and said yes now, WHERE THE FVCK AM I GOING TO GET THOSE IMMAGINARY TICKETS I JUST TOLD HER ABOUT ????

Also Canceling plans with OLD FRIENDS will give her too much priority too quickly. after all I've only been talking to this girl for less than a month. WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD SHE TAKE PRECIDENCE OVER OLD FRIENDS?

You're right about that. You taught her an important lesson that should pay for itself over the long run more so than if you had given in to her just for an immediate date. You did the right thing.

Let them know that you don't need to change the direction of the world for her needs. It's your world and she needs to pick up HER pace if she wants a ride!