How fast to propse date in social circle

EmotionalGeek

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Situation is as follows. I attend yoga classes twice a week. Three months before I started to suspect that one of the girls is sending mi IOIs (proximity, showing of her body). I started conversation with her but she did not said any single word. After that I went for my hip joint surgery and was stuck in home for almost three months. Two weeks ago I got back to classes and I met her. She sat very close to me. Her phone rang so I did not have chance to talk to her but she said to the phone that "she was nervous so she was quite" I think she tried to explain her behavior as if speaking to someone different. Next classes she came with her friend, sat close to me and chatted all the time (she use not to speak with anyone). I did not have any opportunity to cut in so I remained silent but after classes in hall she and her friend where searching for her shoes. They joked and I cut in. I talked with her friend, she remained silent. Yesterday she came 15 minutes earlier and sat next to me. I started convo. It was quite all right (not the best but she giggled). Classes started so she begin to exercise. After classes I wanted to ask her for coffee but could not find her -- I still have some problems with distinguishing her face (I mostly see her from the side, room has dimmed lights, additionaly it is winter so scarfs and hats cover part of face and she put glasses after yoga).

I am not sure whether I should ask her for coffee next time I see her or I should met her few times during classes and then ask her.
 
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Jesus Christ, three months ago? You should have had a whole relationship by now.

It sounds like OP is a virgin who is in love with a woman of a different race.
 

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Jesus Christ, three months ago? You should have had a whole relationship by now.

It sounds like OP is a virgin who is in love with a woman of a different race.
I went to the surgery and for three months I was stuck in house. So how should I escalate if I spoke once before going to surgery? Anyway I am back and now I need advice on my current situation.
 
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The answer is: you should have talked to her by now. When girls are interested they will approach men. If they haven't so much as spoken to you in months, it's safe to say she noticed you.

At least you are on the path to recovery and self improvement.
 

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You're out. You ask a chick out immediately. In a regular social circle, you tease her and wait until you are ready to leave that social circle to ask her out. Don't **** where you eat.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

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I went to the surgery and for three months I was stuck in house. So how should I escalate if I spoke once before going to surgery? Anyway I am back and now I need advice on my current situation.
Just ask her out.
 

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The best rule is to get a girl to hang out with you as soon as possible. If you do it fast and nothing happens, at least you didnt get attached. Plus, if they reject you it's not as bad because they really know nothing about you. It's still a work in progress for me, but its a great goal to attain.
 

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faster is better. at coffee just say you waited too long and youre confused shes just a friend
 
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