How does this sound?

[deeman]

Ok, I have a co worker. She is leaving the job in a week to start at a new job.

Now there has been some level of chemistry, I have a high interest in her and I think she somewhat knows. She exhibts most the signs of a good interest level, eye contact (especially when we chat, the eye contact is intense, I love it), we laugh together, flirt lightly.

Heres the deal: I want to ask her out this coming week like a tues or weds night (friday next week is her last day), but I dont want fellow co workers to hear me ask, they are just too gossipy (when we usually chat we semi whisper so people mind their own business). I was thinking of writing her a note while she is in my cubicle like "Come out for a drink with me on weds evening" , write the note in front of her and hand it to her looking straight in her eyes.

Does this sound lame, how would you guys approach it?
There is a chance she could decline 4 some reason but I want to rule out those odds, especially co workers knowing about it, thats a major issue for us both unless we wouldnt be whispering. Quick I want to do this today (thursday) or tomorrow.

 

[aguynamedwill]

'Do you want to keep in touch?'... 'Sure'...'Give me your number'

worked for me

if she says no, well then you had the wrong idea, but still go with 'wow, and i thought you were cool, oh well'.

and yes, co-workers gossip. they're phuqing lame

 

[Donny Brasco]

Don't set the date for days in advance, get her digits and set something up, or even ask her out tonight, a farewell drink, what a good excuse to get out with her.

If she has 6 days to think about it your chances of her flaking out are good.

 

[deeman]

actually

she already sadi she was gonna give me her number b4 she leaves (she offered it) so I think we are definately gonna keep in touch. I just want to take her out and get to know her outside the office (away from walls with ears).

I think the reason she hasnt actually given me the # is bcos
1. I didnt sweat it when she said she would, I just acted like I espected her to give it to me. So I think it through her off and she wants me to 'come get it'.
2. She doesn't want coworkers to witness the exchange bcos of their running mouths.

I just need an approach to ask her out, without prying eyes.

 

[deeman]

she gonna be away for this weekend, so that why I want to make it for next wednesday, 2 days b4 she goes.

 

[aguynamedwill]

then use the telephone.

hell, call her at her desk tomorrow. say 'hey, where's that number? or are you forwarding your voicemails to your home?'.

or just go over and say 'hey, where's that number' , get it, then call her a few days from now.

And if she already said you'd get it, then you'll get it, don't worry about the co-workers. the guys are jealous they can't get her, and the girls are jealous they can't get you. so strut your stuff, man!

 

[deeman]

I dont think I was clear enough.....
if we are on phone, then everone can hear. I would be literally putting her on the spot if I was to do that bcos everyone would bare witness, she may not be able to handle the pressure and say no flat out, then I have to be the topic of conversation till my dying day.

Trust me if we go out with her I will be the man, all the guys at work check her out.

Without going into detail about my company the only way it would work by me asking her in person was if no one was around, and that doesnt happen, nor do I want to wait till it does.

 

[CGE333]

D-Man,
does the company have email, if it is impossible to ask in person email her, But, I do think that the best thing to do is to just flat ask/ remind her that you need that #, and then call and aske her to go out for drinks, etc.

Give me her work #, I'll call her to get the home #

 

[deeman]

LOL
yeah her number is 555-1234

....seriously, that sounds like a good idea though: email her

This way I can either get her # or ask for the date or do both.

Suggestions please, even text!!!

 

[deeman]

comee on guys I need help here.

 

[Slickster]

Quit being a p*ssy and ask her out. Who cares if your coworkers hear. Don't be obvious about it and make her feel weird but I'm sure you can speak with her without the whole place hearing.

They're going to find out about it anyway so no reason to sneak around like a bunch of children.

It'll definately show that you've got balls.

 

[aguynamedwill]

the only way it would work by me asking her in person was if no one was around

why? a DJ doesn't care if others are around. That's something I've come to realise. I don't care if others see me get shot down. Mainly because I'd only be getting shot down by highly attractive women who other guys can just gawk at, and secondly because their opinions are, quite frankly, beneath me. I'm going places and doing things and they're, just not. So who cares. Just ask. Let the gossipers have their day with you, they'll be on to 'open-fly John' next week.

Indifference to the outcome can be seen as sexy to women.

 

[deeman]

UPDATE

Hey yall heres the update, your comments are needed please:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=31106

 

[Walden]

Yeah I'm with will on this one. You need to get to the stage where you'd be happy to get shot down by an obese midget woman with haliotosis on national television with your mother watching.

Who gives a fcuk, y'know?