How does proximity work?

[DesCRTN]

Fellas, how do you differentiate between a women’s advertent attempt to plant herself near you, and her being around due to mere coincidence? For instance, there’s a colleague that’ll seemingly plant herself near me (not necessarily shoulder to shoulder but in my vicinity) and seem to aimlessly fiddle w/ an object for a few minutes and then leave. Also, occasionally I’ll be at a particular area and relocate to a different area and seconds later she’ll arrive at the same area. If such situations occurred a number of times would you personally interpret this as attempts to to be in my proximity?

 

[Rukas]

Looks hard to say about correct answer

 

[jimwho]

Looks hard to say about correct answer

How did the Magic-8-Ball make it's way to SS?

 

[Grounded eagle]

If she repeatedly places herself near you,for no particular reason and surreptitiously or not so surreptitiously looks in your direction or directly at you,she’s running proximity game.

That said, you should always consider the context of the situation.If it’s a work station thing,or if she’s a girl at the gym who always hits legs after you and is waiting for you to finish using the machine,don’t read too much into it.

 

[DesCRTN]

If she repeatedly places herself near you,for no particular reason and surreptitiously or not so surreptitiously looks in your direction or directly at you,she’s running proximity game.

That said, you should always consider the context of the situation.If it’s a work station thing,or if she’s a girl at the gym who always hits legs after you and is waiting for you to finish using the machine,don’t read too much into it.

Here’s some examples for reference:

• We work on different shifts and I noticed she stays overtime (say, 30 mins) for my teams shift, and before leaving she’ll tends to come to the area in the warehouse that I’m located at. One time of which she came to my section and I had finished what I was doing and purposefully moved to a different area and seconds later she had relocated to my new section.


• I was helping another coworker with an item near the pathway to the warehouses exit, and as I happened to looked over i noticed that she stopped directly adjacent to me and was sitting there for a minute fiddling with her on her phone.

• I’m in the middle of the warehouse waiting to instructed to move some objects and feel someone is staring at me so I quickly glance to the side and from that quick glance see someone some feet behind me look up at me so I look back and it’s her sitting there in a unoccupied area and she holds eye contact — I break first.


Would this be instances of someone running proximity?

 

[Grounded eagle]

Here’s some examples for reference:

• We work on different shifts and I noticed she stays overtime (say, 30 mins) for my teams shift, and before leaving she’ll tends to come to the area in the warehouse that I’m located at. One time of which she came to my section and I had finished what I was doing and purposefully moved to a different area and seconds later she had relocated to my new section.


• I was helping another coworker with an item near the pathway to the warehouses exit, and as I happened to looked over i noticed that she stopped directly adjacent to me and was sitting there for a minute fiddling with her on her phone.

• I’m in the middle of the warehouse waiting to instructed to move some objects and feel someone is staring at me so I quickly glance to the side and from that quick glance see someone some feet behind me look up at me so I look back and it’s her sitting there in a unoccupied area and she holds eye contact — I break first.


Would this be instances of someone running proximity?

Maybe.We’ll never know until you go up to her and say something.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I was out at a bar one time and was up at the bar with a buddy waiting on a drink (they were busy). This hot girl walks by and I loudly say Hello to her. She looks back at me and smiles and says Hi back.

We get our drinks and end up hanging out in this other section of the bar just standing against the wall talking.

Notice that the woman I said hello to and her friend are standing about 8-10 feet away positioned to be looking at us.

We walk to another section(this was a big bar...long like a cylinder), and are talking again and notice they have followed us over. We end up laughing loudly about something(not about them) and the friend comes over and imitates us laughing and then goes back to her friend and they both smile at us.

So we start laughing even more, and then I walk over and say "Does your friend always act like that in public? You can't take her anywhere..." with a smirk and they both start laughing...

Basically we talked and hung out with them all night and both went home with one of them...me with the chick I said Hello to and him with her friend who was equally hot.

Nothing really came of this other than a few bangs but just goes to show how simply saying Hello can work in your favor...and an example of proximity.

 

[IKO69]

The only thing you have to consider is your surroundings. If its a work colleague they could simply be in your area because they have a need ie if your desk is next to the printer it doesn't necessarily mean anything if a woman frequently passes by there; she just might simply need the printer.

I remember being on a University shuttle one time after class. There was a girl who I thought was looking at me from time to time but I wasn't entirely sure and just dismissed it. I got out of the shuttle first and waited in the station for the train. The waiting area was kind of big *this is the key* and I had picked a random spot. This woman decided to stand close to me of all places. She wasn't facing me or anything but was no more than about an arms length. I decided it was no accident and so I opened her.

Bar/Social setting scenarios I've had women sit next to me who were interested when there were obviously other places they could've sat at/been in.

If you're getting opened about something there is good chance - unless she's trying to sell you something. Women typically don't bother with guys they don't have interest in. I won't lie when you are unaware it can be easy to miss but what you have to remember is things don't usually happen by accident.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Fellas, how do you differentiate between a women’s advertent attempt to plant herself near you, and her being around due to mere coincidence? For instance, there’s a colleague that’ll seemingly plant herself near me (not necessarily shoulder to shoulder but in my vicinity) and seem to aimlessly fiddle w/ an object for a few minutes and then leave. Also, occasionally I’ll be at a particular area and relocate to a different area and seconds later she’ll arrive at the same area. If such situations occurred a number of times would you personally interpret this as attempts to to be in my proximity?

Proximity is not what you want to go off. It is eye contact and subtle physical movements/behaviors, like fixing her hair, fiddling with whatever she has on her hands, biting her lips, etc.

Modern Man Advice

 

[AureliusMaximus]

If such situations occurred a number of times would you personally interpret this as attempts to to be in my proximity?

I would interpret it as "Don't sheite where you eat". (plus what @Modern Man Advice just said).
Period.

 

[Tilex]

Okay here's how it really works, because it works in laughable & mysterious ways.
I remember asking this same question 5 years ago and had different answers.

Think about where you are, how crowded the setting is, and how many available spaces are empty.
If you notice someone standing or sitting real close to you when there are plenty of other spaces available within that area, that's proximity seduction.
A really great place to notice this is at airports.

You need to be somewhat attractive and live in a densely populated city to notice this effect.
It actually works better in large cities because the ratio is higher for events like this to happen more often.

 

[Striker_93]

Why so much overthinking ?

When in doubt just make a move and find out if she's interested.

Just assume attraction and try to fvck her.

It's not a chess game.....

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Women are pretty aggressive and obvious if they like you. I haven’t experienced the kind of subtle behavior you are describing. I’d assume it was just a coincidence. But, why not shoot your shot?