How does a alpha male tell a girl he's been thinking of her
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Sho-No-Luv
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He tells her by ramming his hard coock and nutting into her mouth! And she shows her appreciation by swallowing! 
RangerMIke
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He doesn't.... if she isn't wondering how he fells about her, then he's not going to be successful.
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Alpha males don't tell anything. They display value.
Alpha male telling a girl you can't live without her? Now that's a paradox.
Bro whether you are alpha male, beta male, gamma male, or regular male, you shouldn't be telling a girl who want to have sex with you miss her. She will pocket it and use it against you when you are at your most vunerable.
If you like her and think you can get along, and have some feeling/affection towards her, take her out and have good sex with her. That will make her crazy. If you absolutely have to say I miss because you feel she is the only girl for you and you are soul mates and she completes you and your purpose in this life, say it verbally. Do not put in text. She will show that to her boyfriend and/or a judge.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
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Come over so I can fvck you hard.
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I would say the most alpha thing to do is to disregard all suggestions given here and define for yourself what you consider to be alpha. Alpha is a social construct and can be manipulated to mean whatever the fvck you want, as is clearly evident on this forum.
If you think it's alpha to not speak like a normal human being, then it is alpha for you. If you think it's alpha to express your feelings like an emotionally healthy human being, then it is alpha for you.
What certainly is not alpha is running around having other people tell you what is and isn't alpha. Then end up confused and lost because there is no consensus as to what is alpha, apart from being the strongest/best/first/leader of whatever group.
If you think it's alpha to not speak like a normal human being, then it is alpha for you. If you think it's alpha to express your feelings like an emotionally healthy human being, then it is alpha for you.
What certainly is not alpha is running around having other people tell you what is and isn't alpha. Then end up confused and lost because there is no consensus as to what is alpha, apart from being the strongest/best/first/leader of whatever group.
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Read Mark Manson's discussion on vulnerability and neediness, it is the most concise explanation of alpha\paternal state. You tell her what you want to tell her on her terms, with no expectation of anything in return (cover contract). If you want to tell her you've been thinking about filling her box full of your semen, you tell her that. If she is disgusted, you don't get to care, if you're being honest. You just need to be honest with what you are saying with no expectations in return.
Do you care if she doesn't care that you've been thinking of her? You've already lost.
Abundance mentality means you interact with people in a way you want to interact with them, you expect nothing in return. That is frame 101.
When you either hope or expect that she will reciprocate those feelings, not only are you putting unrealistic expectations on another person, you are being needy.
The fact that you need to phrase this in a certain way means you're already under her frame, you've already lost.
Do you care if she doesn't care that you've been thinking of her? You've already lost.
Abundance mentality means you interact with people in a way you want to interact with them, you expect nothing in return. That is frame 101.
When you either hope or expect that she will reciprocate those feelings, not only are you putting unrealistic expectations on another person, you are being needy.
The fact that you need to phrase this in a certain way means you're already under her frame, you've already lost.
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The Alpha male doesn't do this, which is why most women will fvck him 3 or 4 times and then move on because they don't view him as relationship material.
If that is your goal, then great. If not, I'd advise doing a few beta things once in a while to show a softer side they can relate better to...there is nothing wrong with telling a woman you are seeing you have been thinking of her, as long as you haven't been acting like a needy little b!tch the rest of the time.
That's the issue here...people don't understand context. You CANNOT be "Alpha" all the time if you want a relationship. You simply cannot. It won't work. That strategy will get you laid. But you will be viewed as untrustworthy and a guy that simply goes around and sleeps with every woman you meet. That works for a short period of time, but not for very long with the same woman. If that's what you want, then great.
If it's not then you have to moderate your "Alpha"ness with some softer Beta tendencies. It's not going to be viewed as weak or non-Alpha, its going to be viewed as you letting her get to know you a little better and being able to see the "real" you...you know the one she is going to fall for...
This Alpha all the time BS is just that...BS, spewed by people who don't understand context of what they are doing.
If that is your goal, then great. If not, I'd advise doing a few beta things once in a while to show a softer side they can relate better to...there is nothing wrong with telling a woman you are seeing you have been thinking of her, as long as you haven't been acting like a needy little b!tch the rest of the time.
That's the issue here...people don't understand context. You CANNOT be "Alpha" all the time if you want a relationship. You simply cannot. It won't work. That strategy will get you laid. But you will be viewed as untrustworthy and a guy that simply goes around and sleeps with every woman you meet. That works for a short period of time, but not for very long with the same woman. If that's what you want, then great.
If it's not then you have to moderate your "Alpha"ness with some softer Beta tendencies. It's not going to be viewed as weak or non-Alpha, its going to be viewed as you letting her get to know you a little better and being able to see the "real" you...you know the one she is going to fall for...
This Alpha all the time BS is just that...BS, spewed by people who don't understand context of what they are doing.
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That's because there's a systemic misunderstanding of what "alpha" is, which is really actually a paternal frame. Mark Manson refers to this as a lack of neediness and healthy vulnerability. Put into PUA\RP terms, this is a combination of abundance mentality and not engaging in covert contracts. Most of what is described as "alpha" in these forums can simply be described as "the opposite of a nice guy" which is not necessarily alpha. Lots of overcompensation and misattribution. If a girl has to pick between an unbridled psychopath and a niceguy, she'll choose Charles Manson most of the time.
Paternal frame, think about it.
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If the guy is willing to walk away from the girl at the drop of a hat.....then he can pretty much say anything he wants in my opinion.
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"Saw x, reminded me of you", "Y told me about this movie, want to watch it together". Or were you actually daydreaming about her?
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The fact that you reach out at all tells her you are thinking about her. This is the realm of actions, not words.
Sometimes the man I see will text me a picture of a pretty sunset from the coast or something he's cooked up for his kids, or something artsy.
He rarely passes comment. The act of sending something to me IS telling me he's thinking of me (why else would he send something?)
It's enough without being too much and never comes off needy, just thoughtful, which is great since there is no pressure placed on me whatsoever, which is completely refreshing.
Sometimes the man I see will text me a picture of a pretty sunset from the coast or something he's cooked up for his kids, or something artsy.
He rarely passes comment. The act of sending something to me IS telling me he's thinking of me (why else would he send something?)
It's enough without being too much and never comes off needy, just thoughtful, which is great since there is no pressure placed on me whatsoever, which is completely refreshing.
